The little boy told his father in an open education class, shocking everyone

Many parents have this problem: they feel that today’s children are becoming more and more difficult to teach. In the past, when we were children, we all knew that when we drink water, our parents have no time to care about our daily lives. Self-reliance and self-improvement are the survival instincts from childhood, but we all understand that parents are the love We know that we need to be considerate of our parents\’ hard work, but what\’s wrong with today\’s children? We put a lot of effort into cultivating our children to the point of doting on them, but this only causes them to not understand, and the relationship between parents and children is getting worse and worse. Difference, distrust, alienation, generation gap, rebellion, all kinds of problems followed. . . The principles in life are all interconnected, and details determine success or failure, and education is no exception. Parents often overlook a very important detail of enlightenment education, which is to recognize and appreciate their children, without comparison! There is no killing! A harmonious family requires recognition and tolerance. But how many parents do this? It is understandable to hope that your children will succeed, but you must first encourage your children to work hard with a rational and pertinent attitude. You must know that it is crucial to build long-lasting and stable self-confidence in children\’s young and fragile hearts. I was giving an open education class to a primary school class. Students and parents were invited to attend the meeting. A scene like this occurred. I asked a question, \”What is your relationship with your parents at home?\” As soon as the topic started, a little boy asked He stood up excitedly: \”I hate my dad so much. Every time I report my results when I go home for an exam, he always talks about Xiaoya next door, saying how good she is. I\’m not half as good as her. I actually work very hard.\” But as long as there is a gap, he will still compare other people\’s outstanding children. I often contradict myself, if you think other people\’s children are good, why not be someone else\’s father? I don\’t need to dislike my father, hum!\” As you can imagine from this scene, the father next to him was already dumbfounded. After class, this sad father pulled me aside and complained: \”Teacher, I am actually very busy at work. In order to give my children more care, I give them the best equipment for other people\’s children, but this child Why don\’t you appreciate it?\” To be honest, if a child who has been raised through hardships says hurtful words, it will make anyone feel uncomfortable, but if the method is wrong, it will only lead to losses for both parties. If this father doesn\’t talk about \”other people\’s children\” all day long, and can recognize his own child more, and show his tolerance, recognition and encouragement to him, I believe the child will accept it with an open mind. If he rushes him impatiently, His growth will only increase his rebellious mood, and the result is: Dad, you don’t love me, and you don’t recognize me as your son. We all like to get along with and work with positive people, and we all hate working with people who complain all day long, let alone people who scold themselves and find fault all day long. Only by mutual recognition can we develop normally in a positive and harmonious atmosphere. In this aspect, there is still a difference between children and adults. If we conscious people do not adapt to a certain aspect and are not recognized, we can seek another development environment, because I have independent expansion and a wide enough circle, but what about children? Except for their closest and most trusted parents, they have nowhere to go. This will cause isolation and hatred., paralysis and other serious effects, which parents need to pay special attention to. This society is developing and changing rapidly every day. The most basic need of our children is: no matter how hard I work, whether I succeed or fail, there is a strong and stable haven for me to dock. I have enough confidence to ride the wind and waves, because there are many things in this world. Those closest to me will never abandon me. This is our parents. Parents need to know how to love their children and let them understand that we will give them affirmation when they work hard, encourage them to keep up their efforts when they succeed, and give them the most trust and warmth when they are hit. A hug is the most powerful motivation for children to grow up healthily. If a child\’s success is recognized, he builds self-confidence. With self-confidence, there will be no jealousy and no low self-esteem in the future. People with a sunny heart are often broad-minded, know how to tolerate and love themselves, and know how to use the same method. Loving others and thinking about others all require the heartfelt appreciation of parents. So please remember, don’t blame your children at will or compare anyone with your children. The purest feelings come from children. He is just trying his best to do one thing and only needs encouragement and guidance from parents when necessary. Human beings Everyone needs an appropriate amount of vanity to support their motivation to move forward. As long as you pay careful attention to the shining points of your children and believe that your children are the best, other people\’s children are other people\’s business. It has nothing to do with my children, and then tell them with the most affirmative eyes: \”No matter how many times you fall down on the road to success, you must learn to stand up and move forward. Mom and Dad believe that you can succeed and will always support you.\” , you are the best!\” Simple and pure words, but full of infinite love!