The lower the level of parents, the easier it is to ignore this matter

Is this a small thing? Yesterday I went to the supermarket. There were many children around the supermarket where I bought books. Some were reading with their children, and some were reading independently. Because it was a professional relationship, I couldn\’t help but pay more attention to it. One of them, a mother and daughter, caught my attention. The girl is about six years old, and the mother is also very young. I saw the child holding many, many books in his hands. Looking around, many of them were not suitable for reading at this age. The mother looked at her child holding so many books and said softly: \”Our baby is great, he can read so many books.\” At first, I thought this was a beautiful picture of parent-child reading. But after a few minutes, I found that the child was not willing to read, but dropped the books one by one on the ground. It seemed that she wanted to play a game of building blocks. Out of my love for books, I wanted to walk over and remind her, because her mother pretended not to care and lowered her head to play with her mobile phone. When I was about to remind me, the supermarket staff came over and said, \”Children, you can\’t play with books, you can only read them. You took so many books at once, do you know how to put them back?\” As an outsider, the tone of voice It sounds quite friendly and there is nothing wrong with it. But the child\’s mother suddenly raised her head, with a \”just and awe-inspiring\” look, and said: \”It\’s such a small thing, don\’t disturb the child\’s play mood.\” When the staff was about to argue with her, the child The mother walked away arrogantly with the little girl, leaving behind a bunch of mumblings: \”How ignorant. Don\’t you know that Jews lick books when they are born? We play with books to stimulate interest in reading. Don\’t disturb others for such a trivial matter.\” Reading interest\”. I was speechless when I heard this. The little girl stuck out her tongue at the supermarket staff, which meant \”provoking\”, and her eyes were exactly the same as her mother\’s. I can\’t help but feel a little sad in my heart. Is this a small thing? Is it a small thing to be disrespectful to supermarket staff? Is it a small thing not to cherish books? Is this idea of ​​a “little thing” really a small thing? Former Soviet educationist Makarenko once warned parents: \”Your own behavior has a decisive significance in education. Don\’t think that you educate your children when you talk to them, or teach them or tell them to do things. When you Every moment of life, everything you do is of great significance to children. The magic of education is caused by \”little things\”. I think of a story: A reporter interviewed two people, and the first one he interviewed The man was a gangster who was sentenced to 20 years in prison for robbery. The second person he interviewed was a billionaire. The reporter asked the first person: \”You became a gangster today and were sentenced to 20 years in prison. You Is there any causal connection between your childhood family education and your behavior today? \”This man told a story about apples almost without thinking. It turned out that when he was young, his mother brought out a large plate of apples and asked him and his younger brother to choose. The younger brother chose the big one first. He was criticized by his mother. His mother scolded his younger brother to tears. In fact, he also wanted the big red apple in his heart, but after seeing his mother scolding his younger brother to tears,, immediately changed his mind and said: \”I want that little apple.\” His mother praised him happily. He said that this incident gave me great inspiration. From that moment on, I knew that a person\’s inner desires must never be expressed. If someone expresses his inner desires, he will be accused of being selfish. In this case, he has learned to hide his inner thoughts. To hide my inner desires, I began to learn to tell lies, then to tell lies, and then started to commit petty thefts, and later developed into robberies. The reporter interviewed the second person. He asked the billionaire: \”Is there any causal connection between your becoming a philanthropist today and your childhood education?\” The philanthropist said without thinking, \”There are many small things that matter to me.\” It’s profound. When I was 6 years old, one day my mother brought a plate of apples with a big, red apple on it. My brother and I both clamored for the big red apple. When my mother put it on the table, who would have thought We want to raise our hands. We both want it. We both want it. Well, follow me to the yard. Our yard is a lawn. My mother divided the lawn into two pieces. You two are mowing the lawn now. Who mows it? Fast and good, I will get the big red apple. Naturally, I won the game and got the big red apple. This incident gave me great inspiration. If a person wants to realize his inner desire, he must pay real effort. Work hard, I will follow this principle all my life.\” The same matter of dividing an apple, how small it is, the two children have completely different feelings in life, resulting in the two children having completely different directions in life. Educating children is absolutely no small matter. If you have a deep understanding of your child\’s growth pattern, your casual glance or a slap or scolding move may permanently set your child off course. You can also look back on your own growth experience and think of \”those people\” and \”those things\” that make you grateful. Maybe those people are just ordinary people, and those things are just small things, but they play a vital role in their own growth. This is the magic of social education. The \”little things\” in your eyes hide big principles. What are the little things in your eyes? You and your son are waiting in line at the supermarket to pay. A woman cuts in line and stands in front of you. You ask her to go to the back and line up. But she ignores your words, so you raise your voice, argue with her, and end up arguing. You must think this is a small thing. In restaurants and supermarkets, you don\’t respect the staff and give orders at will, thinking that you are \”God\” who paid the money. You must think this is a trivial matter. The teacher asked you to help write a few short articles for the school newspaper. But you have been very busy and could not finish these articles one day before the deadline. At this time, you call the teacher, tell her that you are sick, and ask her to find other parents to write. You must think this is a small thing. At home, you always encourage your children to learn from Kong Rong and give him pears, but on the bus, you compete with the elderly and children for seats, or you let your children climb on the sculptures and pose under the \”no entry\” sign. You must think this is a small thing. There\’s another traffic jam on the road. You pulled out of the emergency parking lane. Your 5-year-old daughter behind you asks you: \”Why are we going this way?\” You say: \”There are no police or cameras here, it doesn\’t matter. You must think thisIt\’s a small thing. Another example: a child likes to eat snacks regardless of time and place; a child likes to watch TV while eating; procrastinates or is unorganized; books and rooms are often messy, and he does not even fold the quilt when he wakes up in the morning. Compared with academic performance, you must also think that this is a trivial matter. Yes, it does not seem to have any connection with learning, but is it a trivial matter? The lower the level of parents, the more important they are to students\’ homework and scores, and to whether they can tutor their children. But they regard the things I listed above as trivial things, and fail to see that there are big principles hidden in these small things. However, they don’t know that if their children do not do well in homework once, they can do it well next time; if their grades are not satisfactory once, they can work harder next time; and when it comes to tutoring children, sooner or later there will be times when they are beyond their capabilities. Education seems to be a grand project, but it is also made up of small things. Perhaps an accidental small thing, if parents handle it properly, may have a profound impact on the children; and If parents deal with it \”at will\” with emotions, it may also cause profound harm to their children! Society is stratified. Whichever parent you are, your children will be at that level. Society is stratified, this is an indisputable fact. And parents are also stratifying. The middle and upper classes of society invest even more crazily in education. On the road to education, what level of parent are you? And many times, stratification does not mean material stratification, but \”educational\” stratification. When did you start thinking about educating your children? Was it after the joy of welcoming a new life, or the surprise of discovering you were pregnant, or was it when you were looking forward to a happy family? When your children were still in their infancy When you were in middle school, you must not have truly realized how arduous and responsible it is to educate your children. As children grow up, education becomes a \”major event\” for the whole family. Most parents think that they are willing to spend money on their children, thinking that money is the expression of all love. Be around and witness the growth of your children. This is a big thing. Parents start to think about the goals of education – what kind of child do I want? This is a big thing. Parents learn on their own in order to educate their children. This is a big thing. After doing these important things, you will consider yourself a high-level parent. In fact, the higher the level of parents, they no longer stop at \”nothing can be done\” or \”can\’t control it\”, but pay attention to their children\’s problem symptoms and their causes, and actively intervene and correct them. The higher the level of parents, the more they improve and improve themselves in order to educate their children. The higher the level of parents, the more attention they pay to all the little things in family education, which are actually the result of precepts and deeds. When it comes to children’s education, there are many things that seem to be big things, but are actually not as important as we imagine and do not have a decisive effect on education; on the contrary, some things, although they seem small, are related to the overall development of children. The general principle of sustainable development. Whether he can do an exercise question, whether he does well on a common test, and how much time a child studies every day, etc., these are things that many parents and teachers are very concerned about. They all think that these are big things, but they do not have a decisive impact on students\’ performance. There is no small matter in education, and education is also a small matter. You are the mirror of your child and the starting point of your child\’s \”future\”. Which level of parent you are will determine which level your child is at. Faced with an impetuous and noisy society and fierce competition, every parent hopes to be a high-level parent who can raise high-level children. They pay attention to major events such as academic performance and high-scoring exams, but ignore the important aspects of life. of \”little things\”, and do not even think that their own concept of \”little things\” will affect their children\’s life. Have we ever thought about the impact our words and deeds have on the young minds of children? \”There is nothing trivial in education, everything is about educating people.\” In fact, there is no secret in education. The biggest secret is to pay attention to every little thing. This is a wise, qualified and high-level parent and educator. I wish you and I could do it.