The more parents teach like this, the more they will raise white-eyed wolves! Worth reflecting on for all parents

\”I slowly and slowly understood that the so-called relationship between father, daughter and mother only means that your fate with him is that you will continue to watch his back fade away in this life.\” ——Long Yingtai That day Yueyue took her son Xiaoyi to Sister Ai\’s house as a guest, but was surprised by Sister Ai\’s 4-year-old son! Her son\’s name is Xiao Ji Zhi, and he is a very well-behaved boy. When Sister Ai brought out the cut fruit and asked Yueyue and Xiaoyi to eat it, Xiao Jiji on the side actually said: \”Thank you, Mom!\” \”It\’s okay, you\’re welcome.\” Sister Ai looked as usual and was kind to her son. He said, \”Xiao Zhizhi, you play with brother Xiao Yi and Aunt Yue, and mommy is going to cook~\” After that, he turned and returned to the kitchen. Not only that, when Sister Ai finished cooking, she called out Little Wit, and Little Wit ran to the kitchen to help her mother put the rice in and bring it out. Little Wit is only 4 years old, how can he be so sensible and obedient? Yueyue recalled that Xiaoyi had never said thank you to her once at home, let alone helped with housework. Sometimes he would help him clean the messy room, but he would blame her for not being able to find anything after cleaning up. Then he would get angry and not allow his mother to enter the room again. Just a few days ago, after the family had dinner, she asked her son to help carry the plates to the kitchen, but Xiaoyi\’s butt felt like it was sewn to the sofa! No matter what she said, she didn\’t respond. She just held her phone and played with something. Yueyue was a little angry and asked Xiaoyi to stop playing with the phone. Xiaoyi put down the phone and went back to the room, saying, \”Then I have to do my homework. You and dad should be quiet.\” Yueyue was left speechless after being answered. From then on, as long as their son wanted to study, the couple had to remain absolutely quiet. As long as he makes a little noise, his son will lose his temper immediately. At the dinner table, Yueyue casually asked Sister Ai how she taught her children, and why Xiao Ji Zhi was so sensible and obedient? Sister Ai smiled and told the following story. After an 18-year-old girl defrauded her father of 3 million in savings, she blocked her family and never contacted her again. The father is a veteran who raised his daughter alone after divorcing his wife. When his daughter grew up, she wanted to study abroad. Because he didn\’t understand the cost and process of going abroad, the father gave all the money to his daughter without saying a word. Unexpectedly, the daughter blocked him after getting the money, and then went abroad to squander the money her father had worked hard to save for most of his life. Smoking, drinking, eating, drinking, having fun, and luxuries are all bought at will… But as for this old father, in his own words: \”When eating, he is reluctant to waste even a grain of rice dropped on the table.\” He has worked hard. The eldest daughter actually became like this? This old father probably never dreamed of it. They say daughters are caring little cotton-padded jackets, but this daughter is a bloodthirsty wolf. After trying to contact his daughter through WeChat and Weibo, the father hoped to persuade her to return to her lost ways, but her daughter remained stubborn. The extremely disappointed father said this: \”Looking back to the root cause, I have an unshirkable responsibility and I am too doting on my daughter.\” Because he raised his daughter alone, he gave her everything he could give. He would never say no to whatever his daughter wanted to eat, wear, or use.It is this kind of excessive doting that has caused today\’s daughter to become such a white-eyed wolf. In fact, there are many such things. When the mother took her son to get glasses, the son only focused on playing with his mobile phone. Because a piece of paper handed over by his mother blocked him from playing the game, he reached out and hit his mother hard on the head. When grandma was playing with her grandson, she didn\’t like her at all, so her grandson hit her. When his mother came over to ask him to apologize, he didn\’t apologize at all. Instead, he kicked her and said, \”How dare you teach me a lesson? I won\’t beat you to death!\” These children do this to their parents and relatives when they don\’t go their way. Vicious, it is really hard to imagine what they will become when they grow up and enter society! In fact, raising \”white-eyed wolf\” children is ultimately caused by parents who are too doting. Nowadays, the living environment is getting better and better, and many families are like this: the TV at home belongs to the child, and he can watch whatever he wants, and the whole family watches it with him; the delicious food on the dinner table belongs to the child, and he likes to eat it. He does whatever he wants, he picks and chooses the leftovers, and the family only uses chopsticks to eat; when shopping, his children buy everything without hesitation, for fear that the things his children use are inferior to other children; at home, he washes the dishes. , laundry, mopping, etc., the children are not allowed to do anything, and the parents take care of everything; outside, if the child gets into trouble, they immediately protect him and do not ask him to admit his mistakes. Instead, he feels that the child should be forgiven when he is still young… like this There are many more things, all of which are manifestations of over-indulgence. It is said that three years old looks older and seven years old looks older. If you don’t want your children to become “white-eyed wolves”, you must start from an early age. You can let your child participate in housework and let him work for what he wants. Let the child know that no one in this world, including parents, should do anything for him as a matter of course. Parents should not overdo it because of love, but should teach their children to be independent and grateful; children should not do whatever they want just because they are loved. Love is tolerant, but it is not blindly indulgent, nor is it bottomless giving! Parents should understand that when we teach our children to learn knowledge and increase their culture, we must also teach our children to be grateful and responsible for their own lives. Only by learning to face the world with gratitude, and learning to love their parents and the people around them, will the children\’s future lives become better and better!