The more the mother pays attention to this matter, the smarter the child will be! It’s so timely to see it now

A smart mother is better to be a good listener than a good speaker. I have a child. I gave birth to him when I was 30 years old. When my son was born, I was transferred back to Beijing from the Baicheng District Committee in Jilin, where I had been working in the countryside, and entered the door of the Chinese Youth Newspaper that I had longed for since I was a child. I cherish this job opportunity very much, because not all educated youth can realize their childhood dreams. In order to devote myself to work, I sent my 1-year-old and 8-month-old son to full day care in kindergarten, and I only picked him up once a week. When the child came back from kindergarten, he always said: \”Mom, let\’s talk.\” Once, he cried and begged me: \”Mom, I know you are very busy and don\’t have time to stay with me at home, but can you transfer me to A kindergarten where you can go home every day?\” I failed to meet his request. My husband and I often travel for business and have no time to take care of him. Every time my children come home, they always tell me about things in the kindergarten with great interest, whether I like to hear them or not. What the son needs is a loyal listener, and mother is the most suitable person. Unfortunately, I was not aware of this need of my children at first, and always felt that listening to my children was a waste of my time in writing or thinking. Therefore, every time my children talk to me, I always look busy, looking left and right, and constantly flipping through books and newspapers in my hand. Unexpectedly, my \”busyness\” caused obstacles to my child\’s language expression. Because he is a child with strong thinking ability, in order to finish his words in the limited time, he speaks very fast, and gradually becomes stammering when he speaks. This caught my attention. I began to pay attention to changing myself, and tried to take some time out to listen to him. Gradually, my son became my teacher in learning children\’s language. It was he who led me into the wonderful world of children, which later made me obsessed with children\’s education, and also taught me how to read children\’s books with care. This book has actually become a textbook for me to be a \”close sister\”. In the equal conversation between mother and son, the mother gets the information of life, while the son gets human self-confidence. This kind of equality is psychological equality, which allows a child to appreciate human dignity from an early age. Boys need their mothers to listen. Mother\’s listening cultivates humor in boys. Humor is the charm of men. And men’s humor is given by women. The first woman is his mother, and the second woman is his wife or his girlfriend around him. Women generally like men with a sense of humor. She feels that humor will bring them a lot of happiness. To create a man with a sense of humor, you must first cultivate a loyal audience. And a man\’s first audience is his mother. Mothers must be good at listening, have the patience to listen, have the passion to listen, and know the art of listening. If you find that your son doesn\’t like to talk, or talks nervously, or even listens to you carelessly, you should realize that you have committed the problem of \”impatiently listening to your children\”? You must change yourself immediately, otherwise, you will regret it for life. Girls need their mothers to listen even more. Mother\’s listening will make girls become literate women. When you become a very good listener, you become a good speaker, and you also have the skills to become a good speaker.Conditions for a good friend that children like. Mother\’s listening will help underage children learn to connect with others with an attitude of equality and respect from an early age. It will make the children feel that they are important and help them learn to think independently. When your child grows up and stands in front of you like a mountain and you need to look up to him, he will still habitually lean down and listen to you and talk to you just like you did to him when you were a child. At that time, as an old person, you will feel the relief and satisfaction of being a mother from the bottom of your heart. Listening is an art and a knowledge. Only those who can listen attentively to their children can treat everyone equally. How to listen to children? I would like to make some comments for your reference. 1. Make a listening posture (1) Be sure to look at eye level with the child and not be condescending. (2) Lean your body slightly forward, which is a gesture of interest. (3) Don’t create “walls”. Such as covering your mouth with your hands, holding your arms with both hands, or reading a book. These actions are a hindrance to children. (4) \”Listen\” with your eyes. Look at the talking child with your eyes wide open and use your eyes naturally to express your interest and pleasure. 2. Show interest in listening. The most disappointing thing in a speech is to hear the other person say: \”I knew it a long time ago.\” We lack respect for our children in this way. The child only said a few words, but the adult became impatient: \”I know, I knew it a long time ago. Don\’t bother me!\” \”Just go ahead and do what you have to do, who has time to listen to your talk!\” So the child was very disappointed. As mothers, we should not only care about his warmth, food and shelter, but also care about his interests. Once you become interested in topics that your child cares about, you will also be interested in talking to your child. 3. Convey your attentive listening attitude to your child. The best compliment you can give your child is to let your child know that you listened carefully to every word he said. Expression changes to convey. For example: keep smiling and act surprised often. Children love to be surprised, or \”fussed\” in the words of adults. They want to see adults express surprise at what they say. Being able to scare adults shows that you are very capable. language expression. As you listen to your child talk, use simple words such as “Great!” “Is that true?” “I’m thinking the same thing as you.” “Your idea is great, please keep talking!” “I just don’t think so.” I can believe it!\” and other words to express your interest. Maybe you will find that no matter how simple the topic is, if you want to show interest, interest will naturally arise. If you always have a sullen face, say nothing, and look careless, your child will be very disappointed. Slowly, he will also develop the habit of not caring about anything. Those children who are in a daze and do not like to speak in class may lack good listeners when they are young. Children who have not experienced the charm of their own language since childhood will definitely lose their due confidence in their language expression ability. Mother is the first teacher of language for her child. And language is the most important part of early education. Do you want your child to become smarter? So, start by listening to your children! The great Russian writer Chekhov said this:The reason why a mother cannot be replaced by others in educating her children is because she can feel, cry and laugh with her children… Theory and lessons alone will not help.