The most failed summer education: I can’t bear to let my children suffer these three kinds of hardships. It only takes two months, and the children’s hearts are completely wild.

Not long ago, when I was having dinner with friends, I heard her talk about her recent troubles: after the summer vacation, her son Xiaofan went to his grandparents\’ house with his mobile phone and tablet on the pretext of relaxing. At first, she also felt that it was hard for her children to study, so it would not be a bad thing to relax a bit, so she planned to let her children have fun for a while. But when she went to visit her parents\’ home after work, she found that the old man took care of almost all the affairs in the child\’s life because he loved his grandson. The dirty clothes that were changed were thrown aside, and the grandparents washed them immediately; when you shouted when you were hungry, the grandparents brought the food to your mouth; you could play as you wanted, and the grandparents never interfered. But her son, who has always been addicted to the game world, didn\’t want to stop even when it was time to eat, and even asked her to help bring the meal to him. In just two weeks, the spoiled child has accumulated many bad habits and seems to have become a different person. Facing her persuasion, her son\’s face was full of impatience, and he urged her to leave early. Thinking of spending more time with the elderly, she stayed at her parents\’ house for one night that day. However, until the early morning of that day, her son refused to put down his mobile phone, and the mother and son had a big quarrel. The next day, she wanted to ask her son to go home with her, but his son said that his grades last semester were too poor and he was deeply affected. He found school boring and wanted to go out to work for a while. It is the nature of children to be playful, and it is human nature to enjoy comfort. However, the biggest fear of education is that the desire to play continues to amplify. From then on, people only know how to enjoy comfort. During the summer vacation, the most dangerous thing is to blindly indulge your children in their pursuit of pleasure. Over time, your children will lose their way forward. Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University once called for: \”Parents do not have some control or restraint on their children and blindly give in to them in the name of love. This kind of education is wrong. Excellent children are all managed.\” As a parent, you must Remember: Don’t let up when it’s time to take care of your children. Only if you are willing to let your children suffer these three kinds of hardships will you have countless blessings in the future. The pain of cultivating habits: Behind all excellence, there is a deep accumulation of self-discipline. The \”Tsinghua School Dad\’s Guide to Teaching Children\” writes: \”Parents must understand that children lack self-control when they are young, and it is normal to not take the initiative in difficult things such as learning. Taking initiative is abnormal. \”The so-called \”self-control\” refers to having clear plans for study and life, staying focused when studying, and doing things in an orderly manner in daily life. Whether it is an adult or a growing child, once the awareness of self-discipline is formed, the road ahead is uphill. During this year\’s college entrance examination, at the gate of a high school in Chengdu, Sichuan, the father of a top student said that his children\’s grades have been relatively stable and they often get into the top spots. And his children also set goals for themselves early on, planning to \”rush\” into the National People\’s Congress in the college entrance examination. Talking about his educational experience, the father smiled and said that in fact, adults have always been able to provide very little help to their children. After all, his educational level is not very high. But the only thing we focus on is cultivating children\’s habits. After the college entrance examination, Li Mufan, a top student in Xiangyang, Hubei Province, received great attention for his excellent score of 680 points. When teachers and principals talked about their impressions of her, they all said frankly that Li Mufan was very self-disciplined in his studies and was able to obtain such a high degree.Points, surprising but not surprising. In the eyes of everyone, Li Mufan has been a child who loves to study and uses her brain since she was a child. She has a wide range of hobbies. In addition to textbook knowledge, she also particularly likes reading, often practices calligraphy, and insists on running. When she is under a lot of pressure from studies, she will play badminton, sweat during exercise, release stress, and try her best to regulate her emotions and state. Regarding the key to success for children, Li Mufan\’s mother shared: \”Once good habits are developed, learning will become natural and come naturally.\” The college entrance examination has ended and summer vacation has begun, but Li Mufan still has not stopped. She couldn\’t wait to buy more than a dozen books as soon as she finished the exam, planning to use them to enrich herself during this holiday. I often hear children around me complain: the road to upwards is too hard, and if you want to become a better version of yourself, you cannot avoid suffering. Those seemingly boring days always make children feel miserable, but once they get over it, they can see new scenery. If a person owes a debt to good habits when he is young, sooner or later he will have to pay more to repay it. Yu Minhong is right to say: \”A person is excellent not because you are excellent because you got admitted to Peking University, nor because you are excellent because you got admitted to Harvard, nor because you look better. The characteristics of truly excellent people , comes from the strong desire in the heart to become better and the passionate pursuit of life. \”Time is the only criterion for testing results, and self-discipline is the best force to push oneself forward.\” Please tell your children that you must not waste your studies and life just for the comfort of a vacation; let alone leave a deep hole in the future just for a moment of laziness. Behind every outstanding child, there are parents who support them carefully and guide them in a timely manner. Behind all the excellence in this world, there is deep accumulation and ascetic self-discipline. During the summer vacation, truly conscientious parents know how to teach their children to develop these three habits: 1. Keep reading and broaden your horizons: Reading is the most cost-effective investment. To cultivate children\’s love for reading, first of all, you don\’t have to be limited to the types of books. Especially during holidays, you can buy more books that interest your children, such as popular science, novels, and history. The process of reading is the process of adding bricks and tiles to life. Use the feelings of life to read, and use the income from reading to live and learn. Parents can also spend more time reading with their children, exchange ideas, record reading experiences, accumulate knowledge together, and fill the home with the aroma of books in their free time. 2. Exercise regularly to enhance your physical fitness: Only by having a strong body can you better face the many possibilities in life. During the summer vacation, parents can work out an exercise plan with their children, such as exercising for more than 30 minutes a day, such as running, skipping, playing ball, etc. Encourage children to try different sports, get in touch with nature more, participate in outdoor activities, breathe fresh air, and try not to stay at home for long periods of time. 3. Maintain a regular schedule and cherish time: Supervise your children to go to bed early and get up early every day to avoid difficulties in entering a daily study state after the holiday. Do not touch things that stimulate the brain before going to bed, such as electronic products, etc. You can put your mobile phone away one hour before going to bed.A little place. Regular work and rest and good sleep are indispensable conditions for growth. Never forget: there is not so much luck that falls from the sky in life, but only the rewards after all the hard work and hard work. Bearing the pain of failure: Forward-looking families are cultivating their children\’s \”anti-fragile\” physique. Guo Degang said in a cross talk: \”You have to suffer losses as early as possible. Everything is smooth sailing is not a good thing. I have been pampered since I was a child. I have never heard harsh words. When I walk on the street No one in the world can stand staring at him…\” Parents who are over-protective, worry too much, prevent their children from contacting reality, and are unwilling to let their children suffer setbacks will harm their children sooner or later. What determines a child\’s future is not just IQ and EQ, not only grades and talent, but also reverse quotient that cannot be ignored. Children with high adversity quotient usually have the courage to face difficulties encountered in learning and can maintain a calm attitude when solving problems. As a parent, knowing how to help your children cultivate reverse quotient is particularly critical to their growth. I saw a piece of news: During the summer vacation, a boy in Anhui was sitting in an air-conditioned room doing homework, but he was always half-hearted and unable to concentrate. He didn\’t write much after an hour passed. When the mother saw her son\’s condition, she went out with him to sit in the sun and write. It didn\’t take long for the child to finish his homework. Seeing her son sweating profusely, the mother said: She felt sorry for him too, but the child should receive exercise and some hardships must be endured. The biggest danger in family education is that \”if your child doesn\’t like it, don\’t force it.\” You think that your children will thank you for your \”protection and indulgence\”, but in fact, many years later, it may cause endless resentment. Yang Yi, who won the title of \”Brain King\” in \”The Most Powerful Brain\”, was admitted to Tsinghua University with high scores in the college entrance examination, and once became \”other people\’s children\” in the eyes of many parents. However, as he grew up, there were many times when he wanted to \”give up studying.\” When he was in elementary school, he once felt distressed because he got a math problem wrong three times in a row, so he complained to his mother: \”I don\’t want to learn anymore.\” After listening to his mother, he patiently explained: \”I can\’t do a problem, I don\’t want to do it.\” If you do it, it\’s normal. You need to spend more time to learn many things. If you don\’t study, and you encounter this question during an exam or competition, you can only think, I could have learned it at that time, I could have learned it. You can get 100 points in the exam, do you want this?\” The setbacks and failures have tempered Yang Yi\’s will and shaped his future. I agree very much with Kazuo Inamori’s words: “Don’t hide from things you don’t know or find difficult. Understand them first, and then master them. Then you will be better than others. Because most people are not willing to put in the effort to study. , automatically eliminated, so your persistent efforts will take advantage. \”If a small tree wants to grow into a towering tree, it needs to regularly prune its branches and leaves and provide nutrients to help it thrive. The same is true for education. If you don\’t be soft-hearted when you should be in charge, and be measured when you should be tempered, you will naturally raise an excellent child. Parents are the first persons responsible for family education. To cultivate children\’s adverse intelligence, start with these three things: 1. Establish rules and discipline: parents with strict family education,Will teach well-educated children. A well-behaved family and well-disciplined education methods are essential conditions for the success of children. 2. Manage emotions and actively guide: Teach children to manage their emotions and let them understand that failure is not the end of life. If parents are optimistic and positive when facing problems, their children will also face the world bravely. If parents have a good attitude, their children will rise to the occasion even when they encounter setbacks. 3. Learn to accept and allow everything to happen: Teach children to adapt to change and uncertainty and never be afraid of change. Things that go against your expectations are normal in life. Only by learning to accept failure can you have more energy and rush towards a bright future. The pain of living independently: The ultimate goal of education is to raise a child with a sound personality. Have you ever heard of the famous psychological effect \”Fishbowl Rule\”? The general idea is that there are more than a dozen tropical fish in a large transparent fish tank, each fish is about three inches long. But careful people found that after two years, the fish in the fish tank was still the same size as before, without any change. Later, someone accidentally broke the fish tank, and the fish had to be temporarily kept in a large pond. In the two months after the results, the fish grew rapidly, reaching a foot long. In other words, environmental restrictions can easily prevent individuals from fully realizing their potential, ultimately resulting in restricted growth. The same is true for raising children. Only by giving children space to explore freely and reducing constraints can they truly grow. Fish raised in small fish tanks do not get better space to stretch out and stay at a length of three inches all year round; children who live under the protection of their parents for a long time cannot have the ability to solve problems and cannot develop the strength to move forward. Dong Yuhui said something in his speech: \”When many parents talk about the strong backing of the family, they have to solve all material aspects. They don\’t have a house to buy a house, and they don\’t have a car to buy a car. When their children encounter all the problems in their lives later, they come to me. The fourth child At ten years old, I can still hold my mother and cry.\” If you think about it carefully, this is the legacy of \”all-encompassing\” education. During his speech, Dong Yuhui also shared an experience of his own growth: When he was in school, he once chatted with his mother and said that he would learn to be independent in the future, and his mother agreed very much. He also proposed to earn living expenses by himself, and his mother agreed. She has not given him living expenses since the second month. So during the years when he was in college, in his spare time, he worked as a tour guide, part-time job, and translator. Although the life was hard, it was very fulfilling. Looking back later, it was the training during that period that made him stronger and stronger in life, and he cultivated himself. At the end of the speech, Dong Yuhui said: \”As parents, we have to let our children experience what life is like, and we have to let our children feel what the world is like. Good education means giving general advice and not intervening in small matters.\” Children\’s life path On the road, you have to face the hurdles you have to face alone, and no one can replace you. No matter how much you love your children, letting them learn to live independently is the best love that parents can give. Smart parents have already learned these three educational concepts: 1. Respect your children’s choices: Even if your children’s choices are different from your expectations, respect their decisions and provide appropriate guidance. 2. Exercise children’s life skills: ChurchChildren do housework, clean their own rooms, learn life skills, and exercise self-care abilities, which will help children grow better. 3. Lead by example and let go at the right time: towering trees cannot grow in a greenhouse, and thousands of troops cannot be trained in an alley. Parents should just be a beacon of light in their children\’s lives, and leave the rest to their children. Cai Yuanpei once said: \”Family is the first school in life. The so-called lifelong character that never changes without leaving its roots is probably embryonic in the family.\” Take advantage of the holidays to cultivate good children\’s habits and master the correct education methods. , will naturally light up the path of children’s life. Click \”Like\” and encourage all parents.