In the blink of an eye, summer vacation is coming to an end. But the status of the mythical beasts is different. The children next door have already gone to cram school early in the morning. My child was still slumped on the sofa, sleepy-eyed and yawning all the time. Looking back at this year\’s Olympic Games, Zheng Haohao, who was born in 10 years old, used his summer vacation to compete in Paris, and Huang Yuting also won a championship. As the saying goes, how children spend their summer vacation is how they live their lives. It is understandable that parents feel sorry for their children who are under great pressure to study and want them to have a good rest during the holidays and suffer less. But it is a child\’s nature to be playful. Once let go, it will be like a wild horse that runs wild and is difficult to pull back. Bai Yansong said that hard-working education is a valuable asset in life. Don\’t let your children choose comfort at an age when they should endure hardship. Outstanding children are all managed. As parents, we cannot miss the life of our children just because we are temporarily soft-hearted. If you are reluctant to bear hardships for your children now, your children will only suffer more in the future. During the summer vacation, if you are willing to let your children suffer these three kinds of hardships, their future life will go more smoothly. The pain of labor: it is worth letting go in order to truly become an adult. In \”The Story of Youth\”, there once was such a young man. In front of the audience in front of the TV, he complained about his mother forcing him to do housework. Washing dishes, washing the floor, cooking and picking vegetables, my mother used to do all these things, but now I leave them all to myself. Standing on the high platform, he asked his mother aggrievedly, \”Can you stop forcing me to do housework?\” Unexpectedly, his mother said categorically, \”No.\” He was surprised, \”Isn\’t my main task now to study? ?” And his mother told him, “Whether it’s studying or doing housework, it’s all part of life. By sharing housework, I want you to understand what family responsibilities are. The original intention of this task is not to do housework, but to make you grow. As a responsible and responsible man.\” His name was Fu Xuangang. Five years later, he was directly recommended to Tsinghua University with a score of 617. Harvard University\’s Grant study once proved that a person\’s success and happiness often come from the trivial and seemingly inconspicuous things done in childhood. And these little things come more from housework. By completing household chores, children build up their self-confidence step by step, and are more likely to succeed in doing things in the future. Therefore, doing housework is by no means optional, but a required course for children. Steven Chu, the winner of the Nobel Prize in Physics, grew up like this. Since childhood, Zhu’s mother has attached great importance to her children’s sense of participation in the family. She would take everyone to make dumplings together and tell them how to roll out the wrappers and fill them with fillings. Everyone performs their duties and allows the children to obtain food through their own labor. Not only that, Zhu’s mother would also assign tasks to them, such as cleaning the lawn, mopping the floor, washing dishes, doing laundry and cooking. It not only cultivates the habit of hard work, but also exercises hands-on ability. It is this kind of education that has made Steven Chu independent since he was a child. His hands-on ability and observation ability are also far beyond those of his peers. While others were still making lunch with sandwiches, he could already share his cooking results with his classmates. Under this educational concept, Steven Chu\’s family is known as \”the most awesome Chinese family in American history.\” Brother Zhu Zhuwen graduated from MIT, holds three doctorates, and is currently a professor at Stanford University School of Medicine. His younger brother Zhu Qinwen obtained a doctorate in political science at the age of 21, later entered Harvard Law School for further study and became a partner of a famous law firm. Experimental results show that children who get enough exercise through housework have better development of their prefrontal lobes and are more likely to develop good habits of concentration and self-discipline. However, more than 76% of parents believe that doing housework will delay their children\’s learning. Many parents feel that their children are still young or have heavy academic pressure, and are reluctant to increase their burden with housework. This has led to many children becoming \”hands-off shopkeepers\”. Not to mention helping the family share the burden, some cannot even do the most basic care of themselves. Steven Chu once said: \”It\’s hard to imagine that children who can only read and can\’t even fry or boil eggs will know how to do experiments.\” Learning to work is the first step for children to grow up. If you really love your children, you must be willing to use them. Don\’t let your excessive care and distress hinder his path to adulthood. The suffering of the outdoors: Excellent children are all \”spread\”. The \”Blue Book of Outdoor Activities for Urban Children in China\” once surveyed: \”25% of children have less than 1 hour of outdoor activities every day. In contrast, 12.45% watch TV every day, Playing video games for more than 2 hours. During the winter and summer vacations, this proportion will surge to 61.4%. \”It has become a common phenomenon among modern children to not like to go out, not to exercise, and just want to stay at home.\” In order to change this situation, a post-85 mother from Shuyang, Jiangsu, traveled thirty to forty kilometers a day, riding with her children from Shuyang, Suqian to Suzhou, 400 kilometers away. This is called \”the most hard-core kindergarten graduation ceremony\” by netizens because his son Zhouzhou is relatively introverted and likes to stay at home and watch his mobile phone. Therefore, my mother decided to take advantage of her child’s kindergarten graduation to prepare a graduation trip for him. However, before the trip of more than ten days was over, she found that her son was obviously much more cheerful. \”In the past, when people talked to him, he would hide behind me. After riding, when someone talked to us on the road, he would take the initiative to chat with them.\” Not only that, Zhouzhou\’s perseverance and physical strength have improved. So, the next year, his mother took him riding to Beijing again. During the 1,000-kilometer journey, Zhouzhou never cried out about tiredness in the face of complex weather changes. Li Meijin once suggested: Don’t let your child stay at home all day long, otherwise his brain will be highly excited and the cerebellum will not be stimulated. If the brain nerves are not fully excited, psychological problems will easily occur. Children who stay at home for a long time tend to become timid, nervous, depressed, and have increasingly bad tempers. Playing more outdoors can improve his sensory stimulation, thereby promoting further brain development, and his adaptability and learning ability will be better. There is a child named Simba who has been exposed to nature with his parents since he was one and a half years old. By getting to know different animals and plants, he became aware of environmental protection. He is the youngest Chinese volunteer of the World Animal Protection Association. Not only that, he also followed his father to climb the 5,396-meter Baja Snow Mountain, becoming the youngest person to reach the summit. During the more than seven hours of climbing to the summit, he collapsed from exhaustion countless times, sitting on the ground crying and saying that he missed his mother and sister. But when his father asked him if he wanted to give up, the child still chose to refuse. In the video, he stabilized himself by restingHe calmed down his emotions, followed in his father\’s footsteps, and finally succeeded. Early childhood educator Montessori said: Nothing that comes from the intellect does not come from the senses. In the hot summer, many parents are reluctant to let their children endure exposure to the sun and heat. They feel that it is better to sit at home with the air conditioner on and study hard. But what they don\’t know is that children who go out to \”wander\” receive rich sensory stimulation in the colorful outdoor life, their brains will develop rapidly, and they will learn knowledge faster. In fact, top academics are all born out of “waves”. As parents, we should take them to see the mountains and rivers, the heaven and the earth, and create their own light. Rather than confine your children\’s summer vacation to a small space, limited to the dim light of the screen. The pain of learning: Behind the glory is self-discipline day after day. The BBC once launched a documentary about the pianist Lang Lang called \”Perseverance\”. Someone in the film asked Lang Lang: \”The way your father treats you constitutes abuse in Western countries. Do you think you are an abused child?\” Lang Lang answered directly: If my father didn\’t treat me like this , I wouldn’t be a musician and would probably live a very bad and broken life. Since my father\’s pressure turned me into an international star and allowed me to live the life I wanted, I think it was a great way to do it. When Lang Lang was 2 years old, his father Lang Guoren quit his job and focused all his attention on his piano learning. He started practicing piano for two hours every day when he was three years old, and it increased to six hours when he was six years old. Young children are playful by nature. As long as they don\’t pay attention when practicing the piano, their father\’s slippers will fall on Lang Lang. Get up at half past five and sit in front of the piano at six o\’clock on time, every day, 365 days. The neighbor\’s aunt used this as an alarm clock and never made a mistake. Later, Lang Lang became a Beipiao student. In order to meet the teacher\’s standards, his father would wake up early to 4:30 and increase the time to eight hours. This practice lasted for many years. It was this kind of rain or shine practice that gave him the glory he has today. After many years of fame, Lang Lang\’s habits have not changed, and practicing piano has become a part of his life. There is a saying that goes well: \”Every wasted vacation in a child\’s life is a slide leading to a mediocre life.\” There is no overnight success in the world, only persistence day after day. Practicing is hard, and learning is also hard, but only with hard work can you reap the rewards. Yang Chenyu, the top scorer in the college entrance examination who got into Tsinghua University with a score of 730, is only known as \”diligence\” in the eyes of others. According to the observations of his classmates, during his three years of high school, he always stayed until the last moment before leaving the classroom. The lights in the student dormitory are turned off at 23:20, and he often runs back to the dormitory from the classroom at 23:05. Sometimes I would study late at night downstairs in the dormitory until 12 o\’clock in the morning. Just imagine, if a person studies 2 hours more than others every day, that is 730 hours in one year and 2190 hours in three years. This does not include the time he spent studying more than others during the holidays. When doing any kind of learning, even if the child likes it, there will still be times when it is boring, boring, and unable to persevere. Because it is human nature to pursue novelty and avoid repetition. Watching videos and playing games is certainly easy and fun. But as a parent, noYou can indulge your child\’s laziness because of temporary distress. As everyone knows, a slight mistake today is a huge mistake in the future. As one teacher said: \”A counterattack is never a legendary leap, but a step-by-step step.\” There are no winter and summer vacations in life. Only by patient companionship and establishing rules can children learn in a boring way. , find a sense of accomplishment. As the saying goes, parents love their children deeply. What kind of future is given to children depends on the parents\’ vision and layout. Summer vacation can be the key to transformation, or it can be a breeding ground for laziness. Growth is inherently a painful journey that must be experienced in life. Only by eating the \”bitterness\” of today can we taste the \”sweetness\” of the future. Don\’t hinder your child\’s physical and mental development just because you feel sorry for yourself. Letting children have a richer life through training is the real goal.
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