The most successful education is to raise a child who can speak well

Not being able to speak is a stumbling block in a child\’s growth. A few days ago, a relative came to visit as a family of three. This relative’s family has not been around much with us. We only know that his family is financially well off and his son is in the fourth grade of elementary school. As a courtesy to the landlords, we offered to treat them to a meal at the hotel. I knew that this restaurant\’s specialty was fish braised noodles, so when I ordered, I ordered a bowl for each person as a staple food. During the meal, a relative\’s son played games on his mobile phone the whole time, swearing from time to time, and occasionally picking up food with two chopsticks. When the main dish was served, he saw it was noodles and immediately said angrily: Who the f*ck ordered the noodles? I hate eating noodles! I was stunned and couldn\’t believe that such words could come out of the mouth of a primary school student. At the end of the meal, the last piece of the braised pork knuckle I ordered was left uneaten. A relative asked my husband to eat, and I politely replied: My man is overweight, and I told him to eat less meat. I\’d rather let the children eat more. Unexpectedly, his son laughed loudly at the side and said: Uncle, please stop eating, you are as fat as a pig! Relatives hurriedly tried to smooth things over: Children have no control over childish words, children have no control over childish words! My husband and I looked at each other and smiled awkwardly. At the dinner table, relatives told him that his son was versatile, could play the drums, and was good at basketball. He was also the gold medal host in their school. He was basically the host of all school activities. The relative proudly said: My son is the driving force for me to make money. I just hope to make more money, give my children the best education, and send them to study abroad in the future! I thought to myself at the time: For a child like this, no matter how good he is at studying and how talented he is, if he doesn’t even have the most basic upbringing and respect when speaking, the education he receives is a failure. The so-called \”words are the voice of the heart\”, a child\’s way of speaking hides his upbringing and quality. Educated children speak politely and appropriately, and know how to consider other people\’s feelings; uneducated children speak in an embarrassing way, mistaking a venomous tongue for being sharp-tongued, and mistaking a blunt tongue for a childish talker. There is a saying: The best education is not having high scores, but the education that is engraved in the bones. Similarly, the most successful education is not to train children to enter prestigious schools, but to teach a child to speak well. Otherwise, even if you have a genius-like intellect and a wealthy background, you will still have to pay the price for your presumptuous words. On Weibo, on He Jiong’s birthday every year, there will be a fixed hot search called “#何炅好人情#”. Because every year when He Jiong celebrates his birthday, most of the entertainment industry will send birthday wishes. Just like what netizens said: He Jiong\’s popularity is really nothing to say. He Jiong is recognized in the entertainment industry as having high emotional intelligence and being good at talking. In \”Longing for Life\”, Huang Lei sadly said that his eyes were failing and he might be suffering from presbyopia. Presbyopia means that you are older, and most people may comfort you by saying: It\’s okay, it\’s normal; or they may say something against their will: I also have presbyopia, and it\’s worse than yours. Such words seem to be comforting, but in fact they are meaningless to the person involved. He Jiong was stunned for a moment and said, \”Really?\” After a few seconds, he raised his glass and clinked it with Huang Lei, and said easily: \”In my heart, you will always be eighteen.\” He got rid of it in one sentenceThe embarrassing problem of presbyopia also saved Huang Lei\’s face. No wonder Huang Lei praised He Jiong as \”he is a very comfortable person.\” In \”The Idol Is Coming\”, Cai Shaofen also \”confessed\” to He Jiong: I really admire Teacher He. His words make people feel very loving, and they also make you feel relieved and comforted. I think that is the most popular among men. man. He Jiong\’s words always make people feel at home, showing respect and care for others, which also makes him gain good popularity and good reputation. In a child\’s life, it is crucial to have good popularity. A psychology research project at Harvard University spent 75 years tracking 724 people in an attempt to study what constitutes a happy life. After 70 years of research analysis and viewpoint refinement, Harvard University’s research results tell us: Only good social relationships can make us happy. It can be said that nine out of ten problems in life are caused by interpersonal relationships; nine out of ten happiness in life depends on interpersonal relationships. Whether a person has good interpersonal relationships does not depend on money, status and appearance, but on words and deeds. A child who is polite, humble in speech, and cares about the feelings of others when speaking makes people feel the warmth of the fireplace in the middle of winter, making people want to get closer and win the favor of others. Therefore, they can have harmonious interpersonal relationships on the road of growth, just like wearing a safety belt. Once there is an unexpected change or turmoil, the safety belt will come into play to keep the children out of danger and gain peace and tranquility. Seemingly simple words can help children achieve a harmonious and comfortable life. The power of speaking well should never be underestimated. How do children speak? If you look at the adults, you will know that when I was in college, I worked as a tutor for a family. His daughter Qiqi was six years old and very cute. When she first arrived at their home, after class, she said a little shyly: Sister, I like you very much, can you come again next time? What he said made me happy. Qiqi is the kind of child who always has polite words on her lips. No matter who you talk to, always use a questioning tone: Is this okay? OK? For example, she would say to the nanny: Auntie, did you see my book when you were packing your things? Can you help me find it? When her mother goes out, she will say to her: Be careful on the road, bye! By the way, mom, if you see a strawberry cake selling on the road, can you buy me one? Thanks. I\’m surprised why such a young child speaks so well. After careful observation, I discovered that Qiqi\’s parents also spoke in the same way. For example, my mother would say: Qiqi, please wash your hands first and then get the biscuits! Another example: Qiqi, can you help mom get the fruit? Thank you! I didn’t understand it at the time, and thought this family was a bit hypocritical in their politeness. But now that I think about it, this family is really far-sighted. Of all the factors needed for a child\’s success, compared to family background, opportunity, energy, intelligence, and will quality, the thing we can control most is actually the little thing of speaking. Because language is a habit, changing the way you speak in daily life will benefit your children throughout their lives. Otherwise, it will be very painful to wait until the child\’s language habits have been finalized and then correct them. Therefore, instead of telling your children ten thousand times to speak well, it is better to say \”please\” yourselfSay \”thank you\”. Ma Weiwei, a debater in \”Qi Pa Shuo\” once said: \”Speaking well is not taught in universities, but it is a must in life.\” In fact, speaking well is not taught from elementary school to university. We can only rely on the words and deeds of our parents and the influence of our families. I hope that all parents can teach their children by example: say \”thank you\” to people who help them; have the courage to admit \”I was wrong\” when they did something wrong; do not be stingy with their own praise and often praise others; express honestly and clearly yourself, and respect and listen to others. The ancients said: \”One word of argument is more important than the treasure of Jiuding; a three-inch tongue is stronger than a million teachers.\” The power of words has never been underestimated. It can change your thinking and change your words. Perhaps you will find that you have unknowingly changed your child\’s life.