The most unwise parents are those who work hard to earn money to pay tuition fees for their children

One of my cousins ​​was once my idol and goal. He is a small boss in a certain organization in this small town. He has some power in his hands. The seats are always full of guests and the bottles of wine are always full. He is busy all day long and is full of presence. Whenever I see my cousin coming home drunk and looking happy, I think: What more can a man ask for if he is like this! When my cousin was about to retire, he finally took another step forward and became a leader at a certain level. At that time, it was not compulsory to take the entrance exam to work in the system. At that level, the local unspoken rule was that one of the children could be arranged to work in a public institution. After drinking once, my cousin said to me with satisfaction: \”Finally, I have not been in vain in this life, and I can finally arrange a job for my son!\” I know that his son, because my cousin has been busy with work, socializing, and In Zuoying, my son almost grew up in a single-parent family environment. He did not develop good habits since he was a child. He had no academic skills and poor grades. He took a college entrance examination. Although he entered the system through his father\’s strength and received royal food, his ability is not strong and his background is not strong. I am afraid that he will never reach the level of his father in his life. At that moment, I suddenly felt that the halo around my cousin had faded a lot. It was also from that moment on that I made up my mind to take good care of my children from an early age. Instead of working hard all your life, ignoring your children, and then letting them rely on your own efforts to earn a living, it is better to let your children develop their own skills and make a living based on their true talents. Another relative of mine knows how to make money, and spends all his time and thoughts making money. Naturally, there is no time to take care of the children. Since you have money, let the money take care of the children\’s affairs. When they were young, their children were taken care of by nannies; when they grew up, when their children did not get good grades, they hired tutors. Relatives often ask me for help and ask me to find high-level teachers from schools to provide tutoring for their children. \”As long as you can educate your children well, it doesn\’t matter how much you spend!\” This is his catchphrase. Unfortunately, things don\’t go as expected, and the child\’s grades are not ideal no matter how much he improves. Also, if spending money can buy children\’s grades, wouldn\’t it mean that children from rich families are all academic masters? Children have not developed good study habits since childhood. If they expect to spend money to hire people to solve problems, they really can\’t do it. There is an old story that a reporter came to a rural village in northern Shaanxi and saw a doll herding sheep. The reporter asked: \”Why do you herd sheep?\” The shepherd boy replied: \”Save money so that you can marry a wife in the future.\” The reporter asked: \”What do you do if you marry a wife?\” The shepherd boy replied: \”Having a baby.\” The reporter asked: \”Then I gave birth to a baby. What do you plan for the baby to do in the future?\” The shepherd boy replied: \”Herding sheep.\” Each of us laughs at the thinking of the shepherd boy, but what is the difference between many seemingly smart people and the shepherd boy? We work hard, we work hard to be officials, we work hard to make money, and we are so busy that we don’t even have time to spend with our children. But the goal of all our efforts is just to arrange a job for our children and have money to pay tuition fees for them. In the end, our children are not as good as us. So, what is the point of our efforts? Of course each of us has to struggle and achieve self-realization, and that’s right. But don’t forget that cultivating our children to become talents should also be an important part of our lives.One of the goals of struggle. Trying to secure a future for your children through your own efforts was wrong from the beginning. A passage in WeChat Moments these days makes a lot of sense: When educating your children, you choose to make money. When your child grows up, the money you have worked hard to earn throughout your life will not be enough for him to spend a year! When educating your children, you choose discipline and companionship. When your children grow up, they will earn the money you have never earned in your life in just one year! Wherever you pay, you will gain. The effectiveness of children\’s education is too short. If you miss it, you will never have it again! Someone once said that success means having time to take care of your children. The most important parameter to measure whether you care about someone is not money, but time. If we don’t even have time to take care of our children, no matter how successful we are, it will be a failure. The best teachers are parents, and the best education is companionship! As mentioned in an article, educationists have found that IQ, social conditions, and economic status are not as important as a more subtle factor in prompting children to score high on learning aptitude tests, which is \”frequent interactions with parents.\” have dinner together\”. Around us, those children with good grades often have very harmonious and warm families. Most of the children grow up surrounded by family affection. And some parents who are very successful in their careers, especially those who are busy every day, have children who are prone to epilepsy. In fact, the greatest happiness in life is companionship. Our children don’t spend much time with us. Accompanying our children through the most precious time of learning is also the happiness of our lives. Really, if we can’t even accompany our children, no matter how powerful we are and how much money we make, we may not be able to make up for the regrets in life.