The optimal primary school entry age for boys is not 6 years old! A must-see if you have a boy at home

Recently, I received such a message in the background. I believe that many mothers with boys must have experienced this kind of confusion. My son is already in the third grade of elementary school. When he first entered the first grade, he was very inattentive in class, made a lot of little moves, and always disturbed the students next to him. The parents of the students complained to the teacher several times, and the teacher also gave him a complaint. He adjusted his seat several times, but he just couldn\’t change it, and his grades were notoriously poor. Looking at the children of some of my friends, they all have good academic performance and are obedient. It seems that little girls are better behaved than boys. I\’m almost worried to death. Don\’t they all say boys are smarter than girls? But why is my son\’s academic performance so poor? In fact, I have heard similar situations more than once. Not only are boys generally not as good as girls in terms of grades, but also their ability to adapt to school life is not as good as girls. I remember when my sister’s son first entered kindergarten, not to mention how noisy he was. Every day when I heard that he was going to kindergarten, he started to behave and wallow, saying that he didn\’t want to go. It was not easy to get him to the school gate. She was holding on to the school gate to prevent him from entering. My sister spent most of the morning sending the child to the classroom every day. After struggling like this for a month, I finally got used to it, but after taking a few days off, I was back to where I was at the beginning, not to mention how worried I was. I heard from my sister that when she saw other parents sending their children to the school gate, the children went in obediently, and I couldn’t help but feel envious of them. Moreover, she also found that most girls adapted to kindergarten life very quickly, while boys often cried and refused to go to school. Looking around in class, not listening carefully, only playing all day long, and not as good as their female classmates in academic performance. This seems to be the current situation of many primary school boys. Why does this happen? Are boys and girls really that different? Are boys in primary school not as good as girls in all aspects? The reason may start with the differences in the ontogeny of boys and girls. Girls develop earlier than boys. When both boys and girls are born, the intelligence of girls is already several weeks more mature than that of boys. Even if male and female babies are born on the same day, the physical skills, language expression ability and intelligence level of female babies are significantly higher than that of male babies. Most female babies can speak some simple words when they are about 1 year old; while male babies may not be able to pronounce simple syllables until they are 1 and a half years old, or even later. The intellectual development speed of men and women is different. Compared with girls, the intellectual development of boys is about 1 year later. In order to keep their children at the starting line, many parents let their children learn a year earlier without understanding the situation. As everyone knows, boys love adventure, challenges, and running. Exam-oriented education ignores the different learning styles of boys and girls, thus limiting the growth needs of boys. This makes boys have no advantage in learning, their talents cannot be used, and their character development cannot be guided. Therefore, some boys will not be able to keep up with their studies, and will not be favored by teachers. In this long-term situation, they will not receive positive feedback. In the face of feedback, some boys will inevitably break the jar. The physical structure of boys and girls is very different.Children have more dopamine in their blood, which makes them very active. Therefore, boys are generally less able to learn than girls when they sit still and for long periods of time. But looking at it another way, boys are more likely to learn from physical movements. The corpus callosum in girls allows more cross-information processing between the two cerebral hemispheres and can complete multiple tasks at the same time and with the same quality. And the boy can only do one thing at a time. Therefore, when the teacher is giving a lecture, girls can always follow the teacher\’s ideas, while boys may still be stuck on the previous knowledge point, and their processing speed of information may be slower than that of girls. Girls are particularly sensitive to the intonation of voices, while boys are less responsive to sounds in their ears, especially when the sounds appear in the form of language. Therefore, boys are not as good as girls when it comes to listening to teachers. Boys are more suitable for a hands-on and brain-using learning method. Girls are on average 1 to 1.5 years ahead of boys in reading and writing. The nerves in girls\’ brains responsible for language, meditation, listening, intonation and other areas are more developed, so reading and writing will be easier for girls. Boys\’ brains are inherently insensitive to language functions such as reading and writing. Advice for parents of boys If possible, please do not enroll your son in school before he is 6 years old. Boys are less developed than girls. This \”lag\” is temporary and there is no need to worry too much. However, in reality, we not only ignore the difference of \”developmental backwardness\”. Moreover, the current education model is basically based on language communication, emphasizing speaking, memorizing, and speaking, which are girls\’ strengths. Boys may stop listening after ten minutes or so in class, so boys tend to fall behind as soon as they start school. Moreover, today’s primary and secondary schools, including kindergartens, are all pursuing a “quiet culture”. Schools place special emphasis on being quiet and not running or jumping. These requirements are not easy for boys to adapt to. So parents should not force boys and girls to stand on the same starting line. Sports are a boy\’s nature, and this is inseparable from the male hormones in the boy\’s body. Exercise can stimulate the boy\’s brain and body to develop better, and also give the boy a chance to vent the irritability caused by hormones. Therefore, in view of the physiological differences between boys and girls, what we parents can do is to try to let boys study for one year later, so that boys and girls in the same class can reach similar levels in all aspects. What can parents do for boys? Now, a phenomenon has appeared in many hospitals. August every year will usher in a peak period for caesarean sections. Because after September 1st, you cannot apply for admission that year, which means that you will go to school one year later than other children. This phenomenon also shows that many parents are not aware of the fact that boys develop late. Therefore, parents must not force things, just let nature take its course. In addition, when parents find that their son is lagging behind, don\’t be anxious, and don\’t compare your child with others. You must wait and encourage him, actively discover some good aspects of your child, and help your child build enough self-confidence. Letting children love learning is more important than learning well. The child\’s mind is not perfect. This is a developmental problem. It isQuestions that need to wait. Dear parents, please be more patient and tolerant for our boys!