The pros and cons of Chinese-style education

How are top students made? The child was a junior high school student and was lucky enough to pass the provincial key exam. My wife is still not satisfied and thinks that the reason why my child cannot go further and get into the best middle school, such as the High School Affiliated to China Normal University, is entirely my responsibility – I have always indulged my child\’s laziness. So when my child graduated from junior high school, my wife arranged a special dinner. It was euphemistically called a farewell party for classmates. In fact, it was just a few parents of classmates-a few parents of top students. After drinking for three times, I realized that she was going to give I take classes. Without eating this meal, I would still be confused. After eating this meal, my eyes have been opened. It turns out that this is how top students are made. Throughout junior high school, as a parent, especially a mother, basically there is nothing serious to do and all you have to do is be your child\’s companion. Deliver meals and vegetables to the children every day; accompany them to this tutoring class and that tutoring class on weekends; every year before the winter and summer vacations, I have to rack my brains to find out which subject and teacher runs the best tutoring class, and then do everything possible to put my child into it. go. You can even follow the class by yourself, with your children sitting in the front row and you sitting in the back row, so that you can supervise both the children and the teacher. In this way, the child is almost like a professional athlete. Behind almost every so-called top student, there is a professional team dedicated to daily life services, strategic and tactical research, intelligence collection and analysis. In comparison, my child is simply a stray cat. I basically don\’t care about his studies. The high-sounding reason is to trust the child, but in fact, I let the child fight against the crazy wolves alone. Fortunately, the child is not defeated yet. But I didn’t want to learn any lessons. During the two years of high school, I still didn’t care much about my children’s studies. It is said that all provincial key points are now surrounded by parents – they rent houses in nearby residential areas, and families of all ages live in them to study with their children. But my children still get up early every day to catch the bus in the dark, and have to change trains in the middle. My son’s classmates now have no leisure time, and even go to the toilet with books in their hands. But my son plays basketball at least once a day. My son has a classmate who is ranked fourth in the whole grade. Taking the exam for Peking University and Tsinghua University will definitely be like searching for something. But the premise is that his parents control his time accurately to every hour. BBC documentary Chinese-style teaching/Chinese-style education documentary 720P HD [Chinese and English subtitles] As long as a child becomes a disconnected kite for an hour, parents will be panicked and keep calling to look for them until the child returns to the desk again. That\’s when a stone fell to the ground. China\’s education is actually a \”mental hospital\”. The competition is so fierce that if you invest even a little bit less, your ranking will fall back by half. Therefore, the child\’s grade ranking has been hovering between 100 and 200. Several teachers have told me many times with great sincerity that my children actually have great potential, which is a pity. I just smiled. My thinking is very simple. It doesn\’t matter whether you have the best grades. What\’s important is that you don\’t spell mental illness. No matter how good your grades are, what good will it do if you are not mentally healthy? The two murders at the University of Iowa in the United States shocked the world. Aren\’t the murderers both top students from China? During my visit to the United States, my translator also talked many times aboutToday, several American students from Peking University and Tsinghua University, although they have always been excellent in their majors, due to mental reasons, they eventually embarked on the path of self-destruction and either went to jail or to a mental hospital. In my opinion, rather, the entire education in China is actually a mental hospital. If athletes sacrifice their physical health in exchange for medals, then top students not only sacrifice their physical health, but also their mental health. They often trade psychological disabilities in exchange for so-called quality degrees. It\’s not just the top students who are the victims. There is a larger group of poor students who have been living in open discrimination without basic dignity and self-confidence. They are even more tragic than the top students. This actually means that no matter whether they are top students or so-called poor students, there is no fundamental difference in their fate. They are all riddled with holes. In this case, perhaps the golden mean is a relatively wise choice? Based on this idea, I have always opposed setting a maximum goal for children, and only advocated drawing a bottom line for children. Don’t ask your children to run at the front, but ask them not to fall off the bottom line. I think that only by doing this can the physical and psychological costs to the child be smaller, and this is the maximum protection for the child. In China, it is too difficult to be an ordinary person. However, our society is not designed this way, and our education is not designed this way. If you raise your children like me, they can only be ordinary people, and it is too difficult to be an ordinary person in China. Our entire social system and education system are not a balanced network structure, but a typical pyramid, with fewer opportunities and fewer resources as you go down. Therefore, everyone must sharpen his head and dig deeper, and he must make himself a master of others. Either one is superior to another, or one is inferior to another. This risk makes everyone shudder. It is not difficult to understand why we are so fearful and impetuous. It was like there was an invisible bloody mouth waiting behind us, and whoever fell behind would be eaten. We had no choice but to chase each other endlessly, even trampling on each other. I am just an ordinary person, and I know how difficult it is to be an ordinary person. Therefore, I neither want my child to pay a huge price to be a top student, nor do I want my child to be an ordinary person like me. There is only one way I can go, let my children float in the sea on a boat, and quit competition completely. Only by completely withdrawing from competition can you be qualified to disobey its entire set of rules and be free from its mercy. This is actually more difficult, and the economic cost of riding a boat on the sea is not something that the working class can afford. But I would rather stay up late, and my children would rather work more part-time jobs after school. After quitting competition, children can finally learn how to cook and wash clothes; they can finally start long-distance travel. In fact, these are things I have wanted to arrange for a long time. I actually have a lot of arrangements for my child. I want him to go to a martial arts school to learn boxing, go to an emergency center to learn lifesaving, go to a gymnasium to learn swimming, and go to a school for orphans to be a volunteer. In short, I think my children need all-round basic knowledge, especially learning to get along with others and integrate with society. However, all these arrangements can only be made on paper and are insulated from school education. whenI had the opportunity to visit the United States and Russia. I saw parents taking their children in twos and threes to watch ballet at the theater, and I saw teachers explaining original world-famous paintings to groups of children in art galleries. I had very mixed feelings. I was envious. , and despair: This is human education, the education of love. When will the spring breeze and sunshine of lovely education and loving education come to our Chinese children? It was only because my child was about to float in the sea that I discovered that so many parents and so many children were using this choice to protest against China\’s education. There should be no less than 100,000 children floating in the sea on boats like this every year. Assuming that each person consumes 150,000 yuan per year, the education investment lost by our country in a year is about 15 billion yuan. I don’t know if anyone has ever done the calculation of this kind of economic debt, especially the debt of people’s hearts.