The pros and cons of family intergenerational education

Influenced by traditional culture and concepts, the phenomenon of inter-generational parenting is relatively common in my country. Many grandparents will help their children take care of the next generation. They provide support and share the pressure for young parents, but there are also some problems, such as between two generations. Conflicts and disagreements arise on children\’s education issues due to different concepts, or some young parents simply shift all childcare responsibilities to their own parents, which has a negative impact on the growth of their children. What role should grandparents play in intergenerational parenting that is reasonable and conducive to the harmony of family relationships and the healthy growth of children? The role of grandparents in intergenerational parenting. Traditional Chinese culture has a distinct tradition of mutual assistance among family members. Regardless of whether the grandparents are actively or passively involved in the upbringing of the third generation, they have objectively helped their children reduce the pressure of parenting, which deserves the gratitude of the younger generation of parents and should not be taken as a matter of course. Download the full collection of a real Yu Shiwei lecture: Preschool children’s family education story case selection, all 156 issues. However, in the process of helping to raise the third generation, grandparents really need to clarify their role positioning and understand that parents should always be the main body in raising minors. Responsible. The \”Family Education Promotion Law of the People\’s Republic of China\” also clarifies the status of parents as the main responsible persons in family education. Article 14 stipulates: \”Other family members who live together and have full capacity for civil conduct should assist and cooperate with minors. Parents or other guardians should implement family education.\” Only when parents and grandparents clearly understand their roles in child care and cooperate with each other can they ensure that children grow up in a healthy and harmonious family environment to the greatest extent. How should grandparents position their roles in intergenerational education? Ancestors are supporting characters rather than protagonists. Grandparents must first clarify their status as supporting roles in child rearing, and young parents should be allowed to take responsibility and play their role as protagonists. Even in real life, grandparents may spend more time with their children than parents, but they cannot take over the role. Instead, the leading role should be consciously left to young parents, and young parents should be encouraged to become the core of the family and form a sense of responsibility in parenting. For example, some wise grandparents will often say to their grandchildren: \”Let your parents make the decision on this matter.\” Or to young parents: \”The children\’s affairs are at your disposal.\” Grandparents are facilitators, not substitutes. When helping young parents raise their children, grandparents should always remind themselves of their role as facilitators. When it comes to issues related to children\’s training policies or parenting concepts, grandparents should respect the opinions of their children\’s parents rather than make decisions for them. Grandparents can give their own suggestions for young parents to refer to, but they cannot do everything for them just because they are worried or because they see the shortcomings of young parents in raising their children. The ancestors were collaborators rather than competitors. Grandparents can also play the role of collaborators in child rearing. Cooperation should be about the strengths of both parties, complementing and cooperating with each other, rather than competing with young parents for their status in the family or in the minds of their children. Grandparents should see the advantages of young parents, such as more advanced thinking and broader vision. The two generations should give full play to their respective strengths, form a cooperative structure, and jointly provide children withCreate a healthy and harmonious growth environment. Advantages and disadvantages of grandparents in inter-generational parenting. In inter-generational education, grandparents should neither belittle themselves nor be stubborn. They should objectively understand their own strengths and weaknesses in helping their children raise children, and strive to remain positive, optimistic and open to learning. mentality. The advantages and disadvantages of grandparents in intergenerational education are mainly reflected in the following aspects. First, there is plenty of time but it is easy to neglect the cultivation of children\’s time concept. Grandparents often have plenty of time after retirement. They don\’t have to rush their children because they are in a hurry, leaving the children, especially the younger ones, in a state of tension and anxiety. Grandparents have sufficient and flexible time to spend with their children, which meets the needs and rhythm of their children\’s growth and development. However, grandparents may also relax in cultivating their children\’s time concepts and living habits because they have enough time, and may easily develop the bad habit of procrastination in their children. Second, they are tolerant but prone to spoiling children. Because of the separation of generations, grandparents are often more tolerant of the words and deeds of their grandchildren, which can give children time and space to make mistakes and satisfy their desire to explore. Due to lack of ability, children may fail to do what they want when exploring the world, such as breaking cups, soiling clothes, etc. Our ancestors often adopt a tolerant attitude. At the same time, grandparents can easily lose their sense of principles and rules, leading to doting and pampering of their children. The third is experienced but prone to being stuck in the old ways. Because grandparents have rich life experience and certain parenting experience, they can handle emergencies appropriately and can effectively help inexperienced young parents reduce the anxiety and distress in parenting. At the same time, grandparents must also realize that with the development of the times, some past parenting concepts and experiences are no longer suitable for the current era, and they need to adjust their old concepts and parenting behaviors with a more open mind. The educational wisdom of our ancestors in intergenerational upbringing is not easy to educate children, and it is even more difficult to educate children across generations. Only when grandparents play their roles properly can the family be more harmonious, the children healthier, and oneself happier in his later years. Let go more and promote the improvement of young parents’ parenting abilities. Young parents have no childcare experience or professional training. They need to learn in practice how to play a good role as parents and take on family responsibilities. During this process, grandparents should be more hands-off and tolerant, allowing young parents more opportunities to learn and practice, and more opportunities to accompany their children to grow together, thereby improving their own parenting abilities and literacy. Grandparents can also have some hobbies and space of their own, and avoid putting all their attention on their grandchildren. This way they can find their own position in a three-generation family with a more peaceful mind. Communicate well and help young parents establish their parenting authority. In the process of raising grandchildren, it is easy for grandparents to develop deep relationships with their children, and it is easy for them to become a \”refuge\” for children to escape discipline. When parents set rules for their children, our ancestors cannot unprincipledly protect their children and cause the parents to lose their prestige and the children to lose their respect for the rules. Grandparents should serve as a bridge between parents and children, help parents establish prestige in the hearts of children, and strive to support and cooperate with parents in the proper education of their children. If they have different opinions, they can also actively communicate with younger generations to reach an agreement on parenting issues. . Clever coordination, good job\”Lubricant\” resolves family conflicts. Wise grandparents can also play a good role as coordinators in assisting young parents in raising children. Young parents will have different parenting concepts due to their different growth experiences and living habits, and conflicts will inevitably occur. At this time, the grandparents must consciously play the role of \”lubricant\” and avoid simply choosing sides, so as to better resolve family conflicts rather than expand them. Pay attention to inheritance and let good family traditions be passed down from generation to generation. Ancestors should be aware of their important responsibilities in inheriting and forming good family traditions, and use their words and deeds in daily life to set an example for future generations. Ancestors may wish to use traditional festivals or family reunion days to tell family history, family traditions, etc. to their descendants, so that children can hear, see, and feel the importance of passing on good family traditions from generation to generation, which will also help them invisibly. The third generation develops correct values. As long as grandparents have an accurate role positioning for themselves and have a good and open mind, they will definitely be able to play an active role in accompanying their grandchildren to grow up, become good assistants to young parents in raising children, and allow themselves to enjoy happiness in their family relationship. of later life.