The rescue of a third-year junior high school kid made me feel so distressed that I wanted to cry.

On Zhihu, there was a question that invited me to answer: A third-year junior high school child asked for encouragement. After seeing his situation, I felt very sorry for this child, and the more I looked at it, the more I wanted to cry. I\’m in my third year of junior high school and I can\’t hold on any longer… Can you encourage me? The pressure is really great. I really don’t know the use of going to school. After working so hard, I have to work as a cow horse for capital. We are all that cheap labor force, some are alive but dead. I arrive at school at 6:20 every morning and don’t go home until 7 in the summer (the school is not closed). I have to study for another three or four hours when I go home. What’s the point? ? My hair was falling out every day, and my appearance became ugly because of staying up late every day. I felt really uncomfortable. If you don’t get enough sleep at night and can’t get up in the morning, your efficiency will be very low throughout the day. If your efficiency is low, you may not be able to keep up with what the teacher teaches in class, and you may not be able to keep up with the problems you get home and do them slowly. Isn’t this vicious? Is it a cycle? Our key high school requires at least 689, and if it gets better, it will cost 700 and up. The most rubbish Pugao, 603, and the best Pugao, 642. These are all the minimum scores, with a full score of 760 points, and these are all converted. According to my grades, I couldn\’t pass the exam at all. You said that since I can\’t pass the exam, why should I try hard? You may say that the result is not very important. What is important is that you work hard and don\’t regret it. But these are all empty words! In fact, parents don\’t care at all how much effort you put in. They never pay attention to the process, they only care about the results. The result is not good because you didn\’t work hard. Otherwise, if you work hard, why can\’t your grades improve? What\’s more, which of the things taught in school can be used in society? (Except information) I actually often wonder, do they love me, or am I the one who can make their faces shine? I really like a saying on the Internet, \”Love is liking you as you are, not turning you into what I want you to be.\” I feel like I have a lot of physical problems now, such as tinnitus, frequent dizziness, and my eyes turn black like snowflakes. Occasionally, Chest tightness, breathlessness, etc. Even if I pass the exam later but my body collapses, is it really worth studying like this? I have a relatively strong self-esteem. If I don\’t do well in exams, I can\’t understand in class, I can\’t keep up with the teacher, I will feel uncomfortable for a long, long time. I even shed tears when I listen to it. Sometimes I want to ask the teacher to solve the problem, but I don’t know where I am failing to keep up and where I am not good at it. I feel really powerless. 642 Ah, it’s too far away for me. I am just an ordinary student. If I were in other provinces, I would be able to get into a very good general high school with a score of around 600. Nowadays, you can’t even get into a technical technical school without a score of 450. What on earth do we need to take the exam? A good high school, a good university, a good job, getting a wife/getting married, etc., our lives never seem to stop, nor do we really relax. They are all rolled inwards, rolled hard. Does it really matter whether you pass the exam or not and go to high school? Is it so important that you don’t care about your own body? Will I be unable to live in the future if I fail to pass high school? Why do parents pay so much attention to it? I really can\’t understand it. I don\’t need the pressure they put on me, and I\’m not the kind of child who can learn well under too much pressure. Too much pressure will only make me collapse. I give myselfI already have a lot of stress. There is still more than a month left, and even the Great Luo Immortal can\’t save me. Maybe I really am what my dad said, the mud that can\’t hold up the wall. After reading the answers, I wanted to say something. The choice my family gave me was Chonggao, the best school in Waipugao. If you don\’t pass the exam, you will come down to work. If I could go to a technical school, the pressure would naturally be reduced, but I had no choice. I can only work hard to get that 22.5% admission rate and become a 22.5% person. Classmate, I feel sorry for you, and I want to give you a hug first. I totally agree with your idea. For more than a month, even the gods could not save him. However, whether you do well or not, your grades and school should not define you. Although the proportion of self-taught examples is small, they are numerous. And as you said, even if you graduate from a prestigious university, you still need to continue learning after you enter the society. Therefore, a test of academic qualifications is not as good as a test of learning ability. At this point, I feel too deeply. I majored in applied mathematics in college, and originally wanted to switch to finance or computer science for graduate school. As a result, when I was a junior in college, my family told me not to go to graduate school. First, the family is poor and the parents are old and can no longer farm. Second, I was too naive and naive at that time. I had no experience in dealing with people and did not know how to be tactful. It would be a good thing to get out of society and experience it early. So, in my junior year of college, I couldn\’t find my direction and started to get tired of studying. After working, I went through many vicissitudes, and only around 2015 did I rekindle my passion for learning. From 2018 to the present, Focused Learning has researched a unique thinking framework tool, and has recently successfully applied it to mathematics learning and education, helping some friends. As someone who has passed the high school entrance examination, A Nuan, a middle-aged uncle, wants to tell you three things the most: 1. Communicate with your parents: \”My hair is falling out every day, and my appearance has become ugly because of staying up late every day. I feel really uncomfortable.\” \”I have a lot of health problems, such as tinnitus, frequent dizziness, black eyes turning into snowflakes, occasional chest tightness and breathlessness, etc.\” Do your parents know about these problems of yours? If you don\’t know, I suggest you have a good chat with them and tell them your dilemma, your frustrations, your thoughts, and what\’s in your heart. But please note that during the communication process, do not make any accusations against the parents. Even if your parents are \”for your own good\” type of parents, even if they are a little bit vain about your studies, it is normal. If your parents know about your stress and the problems caused by it, you can also tell them the latest situation. I don’t know what type of parent your parents are, but as long as you restrain your dissatisfaction with them during communication and only talk about your own predicament and the help you want, even an outsider like me will feel sorry for you. As a parent, How could I not feel sorry for you? 2. Reduce stress on yourself. My classmates, what affects your performance the most right now is precisely stress. You\’re under a lot of pressure, and it\’s not your fault. The era and environment you live in, your school and family, all contribute to your stress. When an avalanche occurs, no snowflake is innocent. Let me tell you my study story. 44 years ago, I was born in a rural area in the Pearl River Delta. My family grew up very poor.I almost couldn\’t open the pot. Day after day, year after year, I plowed the fields. Although I was the youngest in the family, I was afraid of farming early on. It was too hard. Therefore, it became my creed to go to school well, get good grades, go to university, and leave the countryside. However, even in this desperate attempt, I have never failed on an exam due to stress. When I was in junior high school, among the more than 600 students in the small town middle school, I ranked second in total scores and was admitted to the best high school in the city that year. After the college entrance examination, I went to Xiamen University. The high school entrance examination was already 28 years ago for me. Looking back on that year, it was also very exciting. Taking the initiative to fight for the goal is happiness. But it is very painful to roll passively due to external pressure. Moreover, it will cause every step you take to be deformed, and you will have to put in as much effort as you need to succeed, but you will not get the results you want. I recently listened to \”History\’s Little Carriage\” with my children and told the story of Xiang Yu\’s desperate situation, which is somewhat similar to your current situation. Since there is no way out, let\’s go all out and give it a try. But if you want to get the results you want, you have to reduce the pressure on yourself. Regardless of what was said before, communication with parents is successful or not. Regardless of whether your parents change their attitude for you, you can still fight for your future. Because this kind of hard work experience will become a valuable asset in your life. To be honest, although I had a smooth academic journey, I encountered a lot of setbacks after I graduated and started working. He is dissatisfied with his job, but a middle-aged man cannot just leave a job that is decent, stable and remunerative under heavy pressure. However, my struggle experience during my student days gave me a tenacity to refuse to admit defeat. With this tenacity, I have gradually become more and more determined in my slash business in recent years, and it has begun to bear fruit. Therefore, even if you know that you cannot achieve your goal, you can decompress yourself, go into battle lightly, and give it a try! When you travel lightly, you may be able to create miracles. Pressure can crush you, or it can also become part of your motivation. As for ways to reduce stress, if you search online, you will find many. Such as running and other exercises, such as meditation and deep breathing, such as chatting with people you trust. 3. Check for omissions, fill them in, and lay a solid foundation. Most of the questions that determine exam scores are basic knowledge. Therefore, in the remaining month or so, what you should do most is to thoroughly understand the basic knowledge in the textbook. For example, test yourself on words, phrases, sentences in English, concepts, formulas, axioms, theorems and important conclusions in mathematics. What do these things mean? Why do we have these things? How to use these things? In other words, for each basic knowledge point, ask what, how, and why in a self-questioning and self-answering manner. When answering, it is best to say it with your mouth. The place where you get stuck is the place where you have no grasp. If you are stuck on a knowledge point, go to the textbook and fill in the gaps. Of course, you can also discuss with classmates and ask teachers for advice. If you are in self-study or other situations where it is inconvenient to use your mouth to make sounds, use silent reading and speak to yourself in your mind. Now is the era of mobile Internet. Maybe you are not allowed to use electronic devices in school.equipment, so there is no way to actively search for articles, videos and other resources online that explain these knowledge points. But you also have to remember that there is a method. After all, life is a marathon. The high school entrance examination is just the most important test for you right now. In short, hope is still there, take off your burden and give it a try!