The right way to do homework with your child

At the beginning of the new semester, I heard many friends say that doing homework with their children is simply a task. Today we will take a look at this mother\’s skills in helping her children do homework, hoping it will be helpful to everyone – In the evening, my child sat across from me doing homework. She is 11 and a half years old and in sixth grade. I have talked with parents in their children’s classes about doing homework. Very few children do not need to be accompanied. Most parents feel that they still need to be accompanied in elementary school, but the way of accompanying them should be particular. When my child was in kindergarten, my father and I spent very little time with him, which left some hidden dangers. During the first two years of elementary school, the child\’s daily habits were not caught up in time. As a result, when the child was in third grade, the problem of distraction was more obvious. Now he is still fighting this stubborn problem, but he is getting better day by day and the effect is obvious. There are \”three questions\” before doing homework. In the past, we let her do homework in her own room, but the child can\’t control herself, and she hopes that I can accompany her. Later, we let her sit on the dining table to do her homework. Once she found toys or snacks in her little hands, we immediately took them away and put her extracurricular books aside to keep her surroundings fresh and refreshing. Our kitchen is open and connected to the living room. The dining table is relatively large. She sits across from me, and the computer I use for work is also placed on the dining table. She does her homework, I work or do housework, and there is silence under the lamp. How Parents Educate Their Children: A Complete Set of 10 Children\’s Education mobi+epub+azw3 We immediately cleaned up the kitchen after eating. There was no trace of food on the dining table, which turned into an office desk and a desk. This prevents the child from remaining in the relaxed state during the meal and starting to become nervous, knowing that he has to concentrate on homework. We don’t want to label our children as “unfocused” or “poor in self-control”. We think that our children probably need more training. In fact, with patience and persistence, she can slowly become more focused. Parents’ confidence and patience are very important. The training process is a process of teaching children methods and teaching people how to fish. Parents must realize that there are long-term benefits to doing this and don\’t be afraid of it. Our training method is that when the child is out of school, we must chat with her for a few minutes to understand: 1. How much homework is there in each subject today? 2. What are the difficulties in the assignments in each subject, and why do you find them difficult? How do you plan to solve this difficulty? Later, this question also evolved into: Is the homework in this subject physical work or mental work? The so-called physical work refers to things like copying new words. We let her do this kind of homework when she is low on energy. 3. Which subject do you plan to start with today and why? For example, if you are in good spirits, start with the difficult ones, and if you are not in good spirits, do the \”physical work\” first. You can’t just ask “Do you have a lot of homework?” In the past, it was not enough to just ask “Do you have a lot of homework today?” Children who are not focused enough tend to avoid the important and put the troublesome homework behind. The reason why children find homework troublesome is because they have not learned to decompose troubles (many adults are not good at it yet, let alone children whose brains are still developing). For example, when she was in fifth grade, the school distributed a book called \”Chinese Studies\” and required the children to recite several ancient poems every week.We were most afraid of reciting, so if we were afraid of anything, we would do it in advance. I specifically coached her on how to learn to recite ancient poems efficiently, such as teaching her to find out what rhyme the poem contains, and find out the key words to describe the scene. Sometimes I would find recitation videos with pictures for her to watch to help her understand the poem. What are you talking about. In short, I helped her learn to spend a few minutes mastering several features of a poem, so that she can recite it much faster. I often compete with her to see who can recite it faster, but of course I always give in to her. At that time, she first arranged time to recite three ancient poems on weekends, so that on the day when the homework of reciting ancient poems was assigned, she was not afraid at all, she felt relaxed and could do her homework quickly. We accompany children to do homework, focusing on helping children master the methods and gradually strengthen self-management, so as not to let children lose their autonomy. After the child tastes the benefits of mastering how to manage her own affairs, she will gradually take the initiative to communicate with us about the difficulties of today\’s homework, how she thinks about this difficulty, what areas need our help, and what areas she can handle by herself. If the teacher assigns a composition, she will usually think about what to write first and roughly what points to write, instead of thinking about what to write when she opens the homework book as before. By the sixth grade, she had begun to proactively estimate the time required for various assignments. Although there were still deviations, this was a great improvement. Don’t be sloppy when signing the homework book. When we need to sign the homework book, we are not sloppy. When her father checks her math homework, if she finds an error, he will not directly tell her which question is wrong. Instead, he will tell her that there are two wrong questions and she should find them by herself, forcing her to check her homework again to strengthen the checking. Habit. After discovering the wrong question, I then discussed with her why the error occurred. Whether the concept was not understood or the necessary steps were omitted. Dad attaches great importance to her ability to do it right the first time. Every week, the quality of this week\’s homework will be reviewed. For example, why are there so few excellent + and so many excellent – in math homework this week? Is it carelessness, poor writing, or other reasons? She was asked to turn the situation around next week, strive for more high-quality homework, and get more excellent grades. There was a math test before, and she got 99 points. She was frustrated that she didn\’t get 100 points, and she made a mistake on a very simple question. We told her that if she got more good grades in her homework, the probability of getting 100 points would be much higher. In this way, she will associate the quality of homework with test scores, and will take the initiative to improve the quality of homework. I am responsible for checking Chinese homework and English homework. For Chinese homework, I only look at the teacher’s last grade. If it is not 100 points, I will carefully look at where I made the mistake. If it\’s 100 percent, I don\’t care. My view on Chinese language learning is that reading is the foundation. I usually spend more time helping her find extracurricular reading materials. Her reading volume may rank first in the class. What I have paid more attention to recently is her English learning. They had three English teachers from the third grade to the sixth grade. The teaching quality of the third and fourth grade teachers was not high, leaving hidden dangers. Although her English test scores are good, her foundation is not solid. So I spend a relatively large amount of time on English, 20 minutes to half an hour every day. Listening, reading and memorizing must produce some results every day.After persisting in this way for two semesters, I already have the concept of phonetic symbols, and I also know how to recite and memorize words according to the phonetic symbols. At the beginning of her grammar learning, I planned to provide patient and persistent tutoring to help her establish concepts and make up for the shortcomings of school education. Since we keep in mind that everything we do is aimed at making children more independent, the content and methods of companionship are also quietly changing. By the 6th grade, I was less involved in the specific learning of Chinese and still only provided reading conditions. We never help our children pack their schoolbags. Normally, we never help our children pack their schoolbags. She doesn’t want us to touch her schoolbag because it contains some of her own little secrets. But I will ask her to use the two zippered file bags I bought her to pack the textbooks and homework books, as well as papers and drafts into different categories. Discuss with her every week which of her things should be placed where in her schoolbag, and help her develop the habit of placing things regularly. At home, various document bags are prepared for her, and various reference books and papers are sorted as much as possible so that they are easy to find. Stationery also has suitable storage bags. Before going to bed, you must prepare textbooks and other items for the next day. Slowly, you will find that your child is already familiar with this routine. Before going to bed, she packs her schoolbag quickly and checks whether the bicycle key is in a fixed position (easy to use for school the next day). Make your child\’s life orderly. If you want your child to be focused, you must clarify some of your child\’s time. For example, the time for breakfast and dinner, the time to start exercising in the evening, the time to fall asleep at night and the time to get up in the morning. At the same time, let the children understand why they are arranged in this way, such as how long it takes to digest dinner without affecting their sleep at night, how to exercise without being too excited before going to bed and unable to fall asleep, how long a child of this age needs to sleep every day, and what will happen if a lack of sleep causes What kind of harm. Gradually, the child\’s life becomes orderly. Only by being orderly can you focus. An orderly life will make children\’s brains clear. A chaotic brain will inevitably lead to insecurity, because children will feel that everything is out of control, and orderliness gives people a sense of control, so they can focus. Tips for Accompanying Children with Homework Looking back now, we have provided the following guidance in accompanying children and training them to do homework efficiently: 1. What kind of pen-holding posture can help you write quickly and well. This is very important for children to be able to complete homework and exam papers quickly. 2. How to use pens of different colors to make annotations and notes in textbooks without making the text invisible. 3. How to write numbers and formulas clearly, beautifully and quickly. The main reason for not being neatly written is that I started doing the questions before I even thought about it. Therefore, she was required to make a draft and estimate the space arrangement on the paper before writing. 4. How to understand the English teacher’s classroom language. There was a time when we found that children’s English books were full of little people. Based on experience, we knew that this was because the children were distracted in class, and distraction was often due to incomprehension. When I asked, sure enough, the 6th grade English teacher basically taught in English all the time, which was very different from the 5th grade English teacher. Although they are all the most commonly used sentences, our children still can’t understand them. So we targeted thistraining, and strengthen the preview link. In this way, there will be fewer villains in the textbooks. 5. Pay attention to preview and review, and the focus of preview is to ask questions and bring them to class; review requires finding weak links. The weaker the link, the more time is invested in review, and let the children learn to think more specifically about the weak link. In this way, she can see the problem and have ideas for solving it, and can estimate how much time it will take to solve the weak link, so she can learn to review every opportunity. Through long-term training, she can firmly remember these concepts in her heart and guide her actions. In short, we believe that the key for parents to accompany their children in doing homework is to have a clear concept, and to understand that accompanying children now is to avoid accompanying them in the future. Specifically, our goal is to provide companionship for those in grade 6 of elementary school who do homework, for those who do homework in junior high school with less companionship, and for those in high school who do homework without companionship. In this way, we realize that what we need to focus on when accompanying children is the development of various basic habits. We should work tirelessly to let children taste the sweetness of good habits and be willing to stick to them.