The root cause of children’s education problems lies with their parents. Don’t owe your children these three debts or you will regret it for the rest of your life.

A few days ago, Yangyang\’s mother complained to me about something: She said that a parent in her child\’s class reported the school to the Education Bureau. The reason for the parent who filed the complaint was that his second-grade children had too much homework and stayed up late doing their homework every day, which put a lot of pressure on them. Later, when we chatted, we found out that in fact, there were not many homework assignments. It was just that this child usually liked to procrastinate. The assignments that should have been completed at school had to be put off until he went home to continue writing. When parents help their children with homework, they are probably on the verge of collapse. They simply file a lawsuit with the Education Bureau and ask the school not to assign homework to the children in the class. Every time we talk about educating children, there are always parents who think that educating children is a matter for school. As everyone knows, on the road to education, parents should not be lazy, and children should not be lethargic. The Russian writer Tolstoy said: \”All education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine percent of education, should be attributed to parents.\” He believes that parents are the first person responsible for their children\’s education. If you want your children to become talented, parents should not be lazy with their children. Today you owe these three debts to your children, and you will eventually have to pay for them with your children\’s future. When it’s time to discipline, don’t indulge. Parents who truly love their children understand that their children need discipline. In the eyes of parents who do not love their children, the happiness of their children is the most important thing, and they can let their children be naughty and mischievous. Gradually, the child will become lawless, uneducated, and unable to keep up with his grades. This will harm the child for a lifetime. I once took the subway and met a mother and son. The little boy was clamoring to play with his mobile phone. The mother kept trying to persuade her, but the child was dissatisfied and immediately said, \”Hurry up, do you hear me?\” The mother may be. Worried that the child would disturb other passengers, I had no choice but to take out my mobile phone and give it to the child. When they were about to get out of the car, the mother asked the child to put the phone away, but the child seemed not to hear and remained motionless. Sometimes, children have more and more behavioral problems, which are often directly related to their parents\’ indulgence. Such phenomena are not uncommon in life. For example: \”If you don\’t play games for me, I won\’t do my homework and go to school!\” \”If you don\’t buy me toys, I won\’t eat.\” Faced with their children\’s crying and acting, many parents will soften their hearts and agree. If you agree this time, the next time you meet what your child wants, he will use this method to deal with you. There is a saying, \”The best way to destroy a child is to let him live his life the way he likes.\” Educate your child as early as possible, and your child will thank you in the future for not being indulged when he should be disciplined. When children are young, their understanding of the world and the future is not comprehensive, and they need guidance and direction from their parents. As parents, if you love your children deeply, you must be ruthless and don\’t indulge your children. Otherwise, you will regret it when the day comes when your children wake up. Don’t miss the habits that should be developed. Educator Mr. Ye Shengtao said: \”What is education? To put it simply, it is just one sentence, which is to develop good habits.\” Every child loves to play and naturally rejects good habits, but once Developing good habits is a lifelong treasure for children. A child is just a natural stone. Can it be sculpted into exquisite works?Good quality, hard work is still in every parent. If you want the seeds of good habits to take root in your children\’s minds, parents may wish to start with the following three points. 1. Let your children do whatever they can do. Children can only rely on themselves for their own path in life. When a child is very young, it is necessary to cultivate his ability to think independently and his awareness of doing his own things. \”Please help me complete it independently\”, this is the inherent requirement of every child\’s nature. Dr. Montessori said, \”Never help a child by doing something he thinks he can handle.\” Suhomlinsky said: \”What children try to do when they grow up, they should be allowed to do it. \”Give children an environment for free development to help them grow better.\” Education is such a process. Only by letting children do what they want will they grow. 2. Encourage children to make choices that they can make on their own. Sometimes, children have no opinion and lack autonomy. The main reason is that their parents are too \”competent\”. Everything is planned for the child, from what clothes to wear and what snacks to eat, to enrolling in tutoring classes and interest classes, everything is completely under the control of the parents. Many parents are afraid that their children will make wrong choices, so they take some detours and make plans for their children. Their intentions are good. But after all, the road must be walked by the children themselves. Parents should take the initiative to give their children the right to choose and tell them to be responsible for their own choices. As long as there is no principled error in the general direction chosen by the child, parents should let go appropriately and give the child the right and freedom to choose. 3. Good example and guidance from parents. If the parent is the original, then the child is the copy. If there is a problem with the copy, the original copy should be corrected. In short, what you want your child to be is what you want your child to be. If parents want their children to develop good habits, they must first see if they can do it themselves. Teaching by example is always better than words. Some truths have been said many times, so it is better to do them yourself. The more excellent parents are, the more they know how to take personal responsibility for their children\’s education. Madame Curie attached great importance to her daughter\’s education and specially opened a \”children\’s study class\” for her children to educate them personally. Under her training, her two daughters became better and better. Their family won four Nobel Prizes in total, and they were called \”award-winning professional households\”. If life is a school, then parents are the best teachers. Cai Lixu talks about discipleship in detail 40 episodes mp4+mp3+pdf full series 5.1GB When it’s time to accompany your children, don’t be absent. What kind of person a child will become in the future largely depends on the family education of the parents. The most precious gift that parents give to their children in childhood is never toys or material satisfaction, but your attentive companionship. Companionship does not require us to stay with our children all the time, but to be able to respond to our children when they need you. Some parents accompany their children, but instead of doing their own things, they play on their mobile phones or watch TV, just \”accompanying\” their children. This kind of companionship has no guidance, no education, and it cannot give children a sense of security and happiness. I once read this passage on the Internet: 10 years later, if you give your current house to your children, they will answer you: It is too old! 20 years later, you take your current carGive it to children and they will tell you: Stop being ridiculous! 30 years later, if you give the current RMB to your children, they will smile and say: It’s not worth anything anymore! However, if you can give your children a good and scientific family education as they grow up, and accompany them attentively. After 30 years, the child will say: \”Mom, Dad, you are so wise, thank you from the bottom of my heart!\” The real \”accompanying\” is not just being with the child; it is being good at discovering the shining points of the child and being good at it when accompanying the child. Try to develop him. So how do parents discover their children’s shining points when accompanying them? In fact, some special performances or special \”hobbies\” of children are the highlights. Have you noticed? Children under 1 year old will put anything in their mouths as soon as they get it; children around 2 years old will stare at the ants on the ground on the side of the road for a long time; children over 4 years old like to cut paper. There was no second job change in the morning… Behind all the children\’s behaviors, they point to a golden and precious concept \”sensitive period\”. Excellent parents can always seize the critical period of their children\’s development, provide their children with enough companionship, and make full use of the once-in-a-lifetime sensitive period of their children\’s growth. The age of 3 is a critical year for cultivating children\’s creativity. They encourage children to draw, make up stories, play with colored clay, and do handicrafts. The age of 5 is the year when parent-child relationships are most intimate and harmonious. They often accompany and praise children; the age of 6 is In the year when children begin to have inner conflicts and become rebellious, they give them more patience. When you pour companionship, patience and love into your children, your children will naturally reward you with a star-like self in return. Every outstanding child is born with the care of his parents. Education has never been a matter of course; if you want your children to be excellent, you have to work harder. The achievements of children are the result of their parents\’ hard work and careful cultivation. As a parent, who doesn’t love their children deeply and at the same time work hard to cultivate and support them, just so that the children can be good enough in the future? No matter how good a school is, it cannot compare to attentive parents. No matter how good a teacher is, nothing can match the words and deeds of parents. Click \”Like\” and encourage all parents.