The saddest thing in the world is that even your parents don’t believe you

On National Day last year, our family went to visit Beijiushui, Qingdao. The gate of the scenic spot is far away from the parking lot. After getting off the shuttle bus, you still have to walk a kilometer or two. Finally, we entered the scenic spot. Two hundred meters from the gate, there was a small lake with many stone benches. My mother said: \”Let\’s sit here and watch the children for you.\” I said: \”We have just entered the scenic spot. The children finally came. Let them see the scenery.\” We continued to walk up the mountain. During this period, my mother had been extremely anxious. Every time she saw a stone bench, she would say: \”Don\’t let the children go. They can\’t walk anymore. Don\’t get exhausted.\” Emotions are a very easily infected virus. Under such strong instructions from grandma, both children began to stagger, pouting and muttering: \”I can\’t walk anymore.\” By this time, we had walked about three kilometers. There were so many tourists during the National Day that I was also shaken. . I discussed with Lu Zhonghan: \”The children can\’t walk anymore.\” Next to it is a big stone, and under the stone is a clear stream. We sat on the rocks and rested for a while. The children took off their shoes and socks, stretched their feet into the cold and clear autumn water, and laughed and screamed. Being in such a picturesque place, surrounded by family, full of joy, this overflowing feeling is probably happiness. Before my bubbles of happiness were complete, Lu Zhonghan put on the children\’s shoes and said energetically: \”It\’s time for rest, let\’s go up the mountain.\” My mother couldn\’t understand what Lu Zhonghan was saying, but she could understand him. I mean, quickly say: \”There are all steps from here. The children have to climb up and down. What should I do if they can\’t walk?\” There is a great advantage of transnational marriage. During the conversation, we can freely choose what we want to understand. That part. When my mother said this, Lu Zhonghan led a child with one hand, walked past my mother and smiled at her, and then my third son sang a song and left. All I could say was: \”Mom, why don\’t you take a rest while I go up first.\” Sidi is already seven years old and should be able to leave. But Zimi is only four years old, and I don’t know how long she can go? But it doesn\’t matter. If I really can\’t walk anymore, I let my father carry me. We continued walking, singing and telling stories as we walked, pointing out the grass in the forest, the birds on the mountains, and the twists and turns of the creek. Children who have lived in the city for a long time are like little birds out of their cages, chirping and laughing. In this way, we walked to Chaoyin Waterfall at the end, singing and laughing. It was a little tough going down the mountain. Both children were really tired. We become good parents, meeting all our children\’s requests, stopping for ice cream and a grilled sausage, and intentionally not mentioning whether we are tired or whether we can still walk. On the road, someone is selling small porcelain birds that can be blown into sound when filled with water. The children each picked one, and Lu Zhonghan began to change the tricks, teaching them how to use breath control to blow out different chirps regularly. Turning their attention to other places, walking and stopping, and with constant encouragement, the two children walked down the mountain by themselves and completed the entire journey. When we found my mother at the entrance of the scenic spot, the two children rushed over to grandma and said, \”I walked back by myself.\” When they said that, they raised their heads high,His little face was bright and full of pride. My mother was so surprised that she couldn\’t believe it. Her eyes were wide open, and she kept asking, \”How did you do it?\” This became a glorious story for the children. During those days at home, my mother told everyone about it. Walking through Beijiushui was really tiring, so every adult sincerely praised, \”Children, you are really great!\” With this victory, the children turned into little camels that can store endurance. We went to Sri Lanka during the Spring Festival. The Lion Rock has 1,200 steps carved into the cliff. It was raining, and the children climbed up and down. At five o\’clock in the morning, the children hiked on the 11-kilometer Horton Plateau, a native mountain road, by themselves. The children understand what persistence is; they understand that when they are tired, there is no need to worry, rest will restore their strength; they understand that as long as they don’t give up, they can definitely go back. For Lu Zhonghan and I, a family of four walked together to see the scenery at the end of the world. The scenery was extremely beautiful. Mr. Lu has a sports bracelet. According to his bracelet records, we walked 7 kilometers in Beijiushui, 8.4 kilometers in Lion Rock, and more than 12 kilometers in total on the Horton Plateau. \”Achieving it\” is a sense of satisfaction that can expand, making us feel full of joy. After settling down, it will slowly accumulate into self-confidence. In this world, there is nothing more precious than confidence. But in fact, the worries and anxieties in the name of love in the world do not come from love so much as from the disbelief of parents or adults. In their hearts, parents simply do not believe that their children can survive, do not believe that their children can do it, and do not believe that their children can have a future of their own. Today we are a hundred times more enthusiastic about education than the previous generation, but our anxiety about education has increased a thousand times. After reading many educational theories, parents should remember to \”encourage\” and \”praise\” their children, which is more meaningful than criticism and blame. But without the support of trust, the encouragement is like flowers that have been cut. The flowers are in full bloom and are waiting to wither as a decorative background, which means nothing. I always remember that when Zi Mi was two years old, I took her to an early childhood education class. Next to us is a young mother, elegant and intellectual, with a soft voice and a gentle attitude, guiding and inspiring every movement of her child. \”Do you want to draw a star? Where do you want to draw it? What color do you think is better?\” The mother asked while showing her daughter what to do with her hands. If her daughter disagreed with her, the mother would continue to ask gently. , until the daughter executes her instructions accurately. Every time her daughter does something right, the mother will applaud and praise her. She clapped very gracefully, tapping the palm of her other hand gently with one hand, trying to imagine the president\’s wives on their overseas visits. There were two-year-old children in the audience, and everyone’s crowns were painted in a mess. This little girl’s flawless crown became an example. She was invited to the stage to demonstrate. Her mother kept clapping her hands gently and applauding, even smiling. No change, as if wearing a mask. Yibuyi stamped it with various colored seals under the instruction of her mother and displayed it in front of six or seven children. In the hearts of adults, it has no joy value at all. This mother is not really happy, I just read too many parenting manuals and practice encouragement and praise as a means of education. How can it have any positive meaning when facing your own children with a mask of false encouragement that has no appeal or warmth? In fact, in most cases, with this kind of false encouragement and praise, parents are actually hiding the fact that they are guilty, anxious and distrustful. For example, this mother must have confirmed in her heart that if her daughter does it on her own, the crown will definitely be destroyed. So I\’m going to drag her forward. Adults always think that children are young and don\’t understand anything, so they don\’t tell them the truth and make an illusion, \”I\’m proud of you.\” It’s not that the child doesn’t understand, it’s just that he doesn’t know how to speak. Sincere trust, heartfelt encouragement, spontaneous joy, and the superficial and incomprehensible showmanship deceive not the children, but the parents themselves. We thought the children would believe that we were sincerely joy. The most valuable asset parents should give their children is faith, not love. Because it is human nature and natural for parents to love their children. However, confidence is like a crystal clear diamond, which goes from heaven to earth. It is very rare and requires hard work, cultivation and establishment. One day, children will understand the fact that the world is not beautiful, they are not geniuses, and they may not be number one even if they have made great efforts. As a mother, I want to help my children understand that before they get bruised and bruised, I want to help them learn to believe in themselves more than their own imperfections! Because trust in oneself is the most domineering strength in the world! Believe in yourself and we can all change together, because the world is in our hearts!