The \”Seven Deadly Sins\” of Chicken Baby Parents

Speaking of which, many traditional Chinese virtue stories, such as Meng\’s mother moving three times and Hua Di teaching her son, are essentially \”chicken babies\”. Put yourself in their shoes – in order to have better educational resources for your children, your mother actually moved her children three times. Isn\’t this enough? However, the virtues that were praised in ancient times have now become derogatory terms. At the end of the day, scarcity is more valuable, and when too many people do this, virtue turns into vice. Parents in the era of involution blindly urge their children to study, which is not only unsightly, but also shows various \”human nature\” in the process due to excessive competition. This article will talk about the \”seven deadly sins\” of chicken baby parents. 1. Arrogance Many parents of chicken children will have an inexplicable sense of superiority, regardless of whether they are really superior, and consciously form a chain of contempt. Parents with high education despise parents with low education, those with more classes despise those with few classes, those who go to institutions despise those who are chickens, those who are chickens despise those who are not chickens, and those who are not chickens despise the above-mentioned people who have no childhood. Those who are good at English despise others who do not have an international perspective and cannot listen freely; those who are good at Chinese language despise others who ignore their mother tongue and are illiterate and will suffer in the college entrance examination sooner or later; those who are good at mathematics despise others who have low IQs and are destined to be scumbags in the future; those who are good at sports despise reading dogs who wear glasses and have no physique Ruin a life. There are also fantasy chains of contempt such as \”Girls will no longer be able to do it when they grow up, and we boys will naturally counterattack when we get older.\” \”Academic champions are all born from preschool, and they will lose their advantage in a few years.\” You have to ask people to find some. A sense of superiority, even if it is imaginary. In the final analysis, it is all a kind of human nature called \”arrogance\”. 2. The contrast between jealousy and blind superiority is the ubiquitous blind inferiority. I entered a group of chicken babies and took a look around. Why are other people’s kids so awesome? ! Why are other people’s children so obedient? ! The daily life in the Chicken Baby group is when one parent tells the story of his or her child, and other parents exclaim, \”Other people\’s children never disappoint me.\” After all, people always compare, consciously or unconsciously. There have been various comparisons since the children were born. Whose child is the fattest? Whose child will turn over first? Which child can speak first? Which child is the first to learn to read? Whose child is the tallest? After entering school age, there are more people who can compare with others, and there are more people who are inferior to others. The fire of jealousy is burning in invisible places. Those who cannot control their emotions will make sarcastic remarks or even spread rumors behind their backs. Those who can control their emotions well will secretly pity and hurt themselves. Jealousy is a sharp knife that cuts people\’s blood. Jealousy is a hissing coal from hell. If you don\’t control it well, it will hurt others and yourself. 3. In this circle of anger, there is no one who dares to stand up and say: \”I have never yelled at my child!\” Sometimes I look at the messy papers, the math questions that I can\’t understand no matter how I explain them, and the repeated prohibitions. Mobile game time, watch the time pass by and your children will work hard for you. The anger of many old mothers and fathers will soar to the full level in an instant. Once the lion\’s roar skill is used, the relatives will not recognize it. In the past few years, there have been talks about love and freedom, positive discipline, and there have been a lot of \”mothers\”, \”experts\” and \”spiritual teachers\” who have written books. I don\’t believe that all of them have a stable core and never get angry with their children. Even if I don’t get enough protection, I’ll secretly yell at home.If you have a baby, someone will write a book and tell you? After yelling and arguing, speak calmly. Boundless anger will not help. You must identify what the problem is with your child. If you really don’t know it, what’s the use of breaking the child’s legs? Or look at what\’s wrong with you. Are you forcing your children to use the standards of an online prodigy? Study habits should be developed slowly, efficiency motivation should be improved scientifically, and anger should not become the normal state at home. When the blood is boiling, the reason is not clear, words and deeds are easy to exceed the limit, and it is not suitable for others and yourself. If he really has a heart attack or cerebral infarction, the child should forget about learning cultural knowledge and learn how to get along with his stepmother. 4. Lazy people hang themselves under apple trees, but hardworking people can grow flowers in the desert. Some parents will blame their children\’s performance on IQ. Although there is a big difference in IQ between people, for the vast majority of people, in the compulsory education stage, they are far from being able to compete with IQ. stage. Parents often say that their children are lazy, but in fact they themselves are just as lazy. We won\’t discuss those parents who don\’t care about their children at all. Let\’s just say that in the circle, many mothers and fathers hang out in groups and attend training classes. It\’s a bit unfair to say that they don\’t pay attention to their children\’s learning. But, If he (she) really uses his or her brain to study the learning path of his or her child, it would be very tiring and lazy. After being sent to a training institution and paying the money, I feel at ease. I don\’t want to judge with my heart what exactly was said, what the effect was, and whether the child can make progress in this kind of institution. When it comes to joining groups, I don’t like to use my brain very much, I just like to be a hand-in-hand party – when I see someone posting resources, I don’t care whether they are used or not. Let’s talk about it after we go in; if you see a famous person saying that a set of books is good, you will immediately buy it and take it home to collect the ashes; if you see a liar who is intentional or unintentional, saying that he has a unique secret book and a one-step learning method to win, he will not care about his head or a moth in the fire, and he will not care about his body. Money, you can\’t even hold it back. The above is also the current situation of chicken babies that I have witnessed in groups over the years. In the end, even if you reach out and get it back, you are too lazy to execute it, or you will stop executing it if you encounter a little difficulty or trouble. Compared with being too lazy to use your hands, being too lazy to use your brain is scarier. 5. Greed: Some people lose what they have because they want more. Lao Tzu said: If you know what you are satisfied with, you will not be disgraced; if you know you are still, you will not be disgraced, and you can last a long time. The general meaning is to advise the old parents in the chicken baby industry: That’s enough, the child is already doing well. If you are not satisfied and have to compete with other cow babies, then you will only bring shame on yourself in the end, and there is no sustainability. ! When you are a baby, you must have a good sense of how much the child can digest, how much ability it has, and when you can no longer add more, just stop. This way, you will not face the danger of the child being tired of learning, rebellious, or even becoming stupid as he learns. . Even if you want to increase the amount, you should add it little by little. Don\’t eat a fat man in one bite. If the deficiency is not replenished, it can easily bring about negative effects. Everyone has their own ability limit. It doesn’t mean that the child is exhausted from studying and is dying. If you shout \”Burn! My little universe!\” the child can defeat the Golden Saint in two levels. Many children are actually very good, but their parents are always so greedy. 6. AnxietyThe five deadly sins mentioned earlier, arrogance, jealousy, anger, laziness, and greed, are all human nature, and they are ubiquitous things that have filled history since the beginning of human written records. But anxiety is a new word, and it is only in this era where everything is developing rapidly and information is highly developed that this widespread social disease will appear. ——Parents who worry that their children will lose at the starting line, who worry that they cannot compete with others, who worry that their children’s IQs and abilities are not as good as others, who worry that their children will achieve nothing in the future and have a chance to stand out. If greed and fear are the two brothers in the stock market, then jealousy and anxiety are the twin sisters in the chicken circle. They are inseparable and can be seen everywhere. Anxiety can make people sick. Small anxiety can make people unable to sleep during the day and night, making it difficult to look happy if they are depressed. Major anxiety can even seriously affect the mental state, causing the family to never have peace and end in tragedy. If you want to be less anxious, firstly, you need to figure it out and do whatever you like; secondly, lower your requirements, but you may be surprised; thirdly, completely twist the horns, be your own master, and make others anxious. 7. Vanity I don’t know if you still remember going to the obstetrics and gynecology department for a check-up during pregnancy. Two major ovulations will make people very nervous. At that time, did you think about training teams, key high schools, Tsinghua University and Peking University, causing smoke to rise from your ancestral graves? no? At that time, I had only one thought in my mind – as long as the child is healthy. All arms and legs are born. In the big environment, parents begin to hope that their children will learn well, perform well, be good in culture and sports, and be good in everything. After they are good, they will want to do better and compete with others. There is no end. . It can be as small as a final exam, ranking high or low; as big as being promoted to junior high school, college entrance examination, or whether you can go to a prestigious school – it can cause dramatic fluctuations in parents\’ moods, and involve parents\’ face issues. Yes, in this era, having a baby in the family is a very honorable and honorable thing, so parents gradually forget their original intentions and just want to use their children’s results to show off their own face. If they are not satisfied, they will be extremely disappointed. , putting too much excessive pressure on children intentionally or unintentionally. It is the norm in this circle to hate people and laugh at others. Behind the vanity, there are four big words written – \”Desire is hard to fill.\” In the world of mortals, as long as a parent hopes that his children will study well, he will not be able to cleanse himself of greed, anger and ignorance. This is all living beings, this is the chicken circle. If the above seven sins are sins, then the chicken baby itself is the \”original sin\”.