The snacks at roadside stalls are unsafe, what should I do if my children like to eat them? This mom kills two birds with one stone

Currently, many parents are struggling with the issue of pocket money for their children. After some children take money, they like to buy junk food at canteens or roadside stalls near the school. How should parents guide them? Today, I would like to share with you a little secret. This is also a method that I have discovered myself, and the practical results are very good. 1. The source of pocket money. I once introduced the magical \”Star Method\” to all parents (click on the blue words to read the original text). This is the main way for our two children to obtain pocket money. Because this method can inspire children, they can experience a sense of accomplishment and value, and also know how to cherish it. I applied for a bank passbook for them, and when they saved up to 100 yuan, I would save it for them. Of course, they can freely dispose of these \”properties\”, they just need to tell their parents. 2. A little trouble with pocket money. My son has always been frugal and rarely buys anything at the school gate. Let me talk about my daughter’s story here. It was through this discovery that I came up with the idea of ​​letting my children “shopping freely”. This happened during the winter vacation, when my daughter was learning calligraphy in a training class. She told me more than once that many children went downstairs to buy food from the canteen during class breaks. The snacks at the canteen are very attractive to children, but their safety is worrying… Over the years, we have been taking our children to regular supermarkets to buy things, so my daughter has never been in the habit of buying snacks at the school gate. After listening to what my daughter said, I felt a little worried that my daughter would get into this bad habit, because the child\’s self-control is limited after all. However, one day, when I sent her to practice calligraphy, I accidentally discovered that she made a coin bag out of waste paper and put a few coins in it. I understood her intention at that time. She probably wanted to get addicted to shopping. This is completely understandable. After all, a child\’s self-control ability is limited. When she sees other children running to buy food, she naturally feels itchy in her heart. If you don\’t react like this, you\’re not a child. However, when I think about the safety of the canteen, I feel like an ant on a hot pot, worried that my children will get into such bad habits. Because it is difficult to develop good habits, but it is easy to develop bad habits. However, I knew that I needed to stay calm at this moment, have empathy, and master certain communication skills, so I didn\’t talk to her directly. I communicated with her like this, saying: \”Baby, is this the coin purse you made? Every day I see other children going downstairs to buy things. If it were me, I would also want to try it. Have you thought about it? What about shopping addiction? But what can I buy with this little money?\” This is equivalent to giving her a step down. I feel that saying this has empathy, hints, and guidance. Fortunately for me, my daughter really took steps in this direction. She said: \”Mom, I want to buy rubber.\” I smiled and said: \”Okay! I know baby wants to try to buy things by yourself. Mom used to take you to buy things. You don\’t have that feeling, right? But here is the canteen. The quality of the erasers inside is indeed not very good. When school is over, can we go to the sports store at the entrance of the community to buy some? There are more varieties there. Mom won’t go in, but will just wait for you at the door. You can do whatever you want.Pick, how about it? \”My daughter happily agreed. When school was over, I kept my promise and took my daughter to the cultural and sports store to buy erasers. In fact, it is impossible for us to tie up our children and force them to play with whom they should and should not play with at school. ? Therefore, we can only think of a way to let the child recognize it from the heart and let her decide which one is more meaningful? Only when the child recognizes it from the heart, can he take action and persevere. So, I It took me a whole morning to come up with a practical way, which is \”free shopping\”. 3. \”Free shopping\” appeared. After school, I said to my daughter: \”Baby, you have grown up, haven\’t you?\” Want to try shopping by yourself? ” She said, “Yes, Mom.” ” I continued: “I thought of a very fun game. Just let you go to the supermarket to buy things by yourself every month. Mom gives you ten yuan every time, and you decide for yourself what you want to buy or not. Mom won’t go with you, so you just need to see the delivery date clearly and have no more than 10 yuan left, okay? The daughter said happily: \”That\’s great!\” \”When I got home, I asked my son for his opinion again, and he agreed very much. True to his word, I took them there that afternoon. As originally agreed, I gave them ten yuan each to let them go. They entered the supermarket alone, and I waited quietly outside. They were really happy and very involved. This shopping took a long time, and I waited for a long time. I guess they were making choices and struggling inside, right? But I never went in, I believe They can do it themselves! After a long time, they finally returned home with a full load. The son spent 7.8 yuan on two small books, and the daughter spent 9.2 yuan on snacks. Haha! This is the first time for my daughter to shop freely. Harvest This is my son’s first free shopping experience. From this, I can also see the hobbies of the two children, haha! Because my son is particularly obsessed with books. Although there are many books at home, he said he still wants to buy them. Where is my daughter? She usually rarely They eat snacks, so it’s normal for them to have fun occasionally. I don’t judge the products they buy, just praise and encourage them. Because none of them exceed ten yuan, and the snacks my daughter chooses are all in the near future, so I I feel that they have done a great job during this free shopping trip. I told them that the remaining money will be left to them to keep for themselves, what should be spent and what should not be spent. I believe they will become more and more knowledgeable in the future. \”Experience\”, these are knowledge that cannot be learned in school. Seeing their full sense of accomplishment and satisfied expressions, I seized the opportunity and asked, \”Baby, do you like this way?\” Which do you prefer to buying things at the canteen? The daughter blurted out: \”Shopping freely!\” I took the opportunity to continue: \”I also feel that it is better to shop freely in the supermarket. There are many products and there are choices.\” You can also enjoy your shopping addiction, and at least safety can be guaranteed. The daughter said: \”Yes, I like it very much!\” \”Then from now on, in addition to daily shopping, how about I let you do free shopping once a month?\” ” They all agree very much! 4. The magical effect of “free shopping” is now available every monthThe first \”free shopping\” is one of the things they look forward to most. Since then, my daughter has never mentioned to me the products at the canteen at the school entrance, as if she has become \”immune\” to it. After constant exploration and experimentation, they have become more and more experienced in shopping, know how to select goods, learn to measure the value of goods and how to control the money in their hands. Compare similar products based on weight and price to choose the most cost-effective one, and of course make sure the production date is the latest. In short, they learned a lot through the free shopping experience. This trick not only allows children to consciously resist some temptations around them, but also cultivates children\’s awareness of independent decision-making and learns to rationally manage the pocket money in their hands. Isn\’t it a double-edged sword? Hope this method can help you too!