The tepid \”Ruyi\’s Royal Love in the Palace\” turns out to be a parenting drama

\”Ruyi\’s Royal Love in the Palace\” has been aired for most of the season, but behind the overt and covert fights among the concubines, there is also the competition among the elder brothers for the throne. For the sake of mother and son, all empresses have shown their talents, but they have also stepped into many pitfalls. Even today, more than two hundred years later, I still can\’t help but sigh that it is a parenting drama that has given us viewers a lot of inspiration. Excessive force is counterproductive. It is said that parents\’ anxiety is poison to their children. This can be seen in the mother and son of the queen and the second elder brother. Queen Fucha\’s natal family belongs to Manchuria and has a high status. However, the Fucha family, which was once the emperor and the courtiers, and had great fame in the Kangxi Dynasty, began to decline since the Yongzheng Dynasty. In the play, Emperor Qianlong dotes on Ruyi and does not seem to have any preference for her as the main queen. This makes the queen very insecure, so her son becomes her only hope. You are the legitimate son. If you fail to live up to your expectations, who else can the Queen count on? In order to make the emperor pay more attention to the second elder brother, the queen forced the second elder brother to study hard, and arranged his day to be full: he would get up at 5 o\’clock in the morning to study, and then go to the minister\’s study room to review books, learn riding and archery, cold and summer No rest, only four days a year. Due to severe lack of sleep, the second elder brother fell asleep while studying. However, the queen did not let him rest, but blew the cold wind outside the door to wake him up. With such an overly strict mother, the second elder brother is destined to have a tragic fate. He was weak, overworked, and exposed to cold wind for a long time, which caused him to catch wind-chill and finally died. The queen thought this was her way of loving her children, but if you think about it carefully, it was actually selfish. Throughout the ages, parents have used the same method to hope that their children will succeed and encourage their children to succeed – filling their children\’s time with homework, as if no matter how hard they work, it is not enough. A survey involving the living habits of teenagers and children in cities across the country shows that 35.5% of parents believe that learning is the most important thing for their children. What is even more frightening is that 11.3% of parents believe that it is okay for their children to sleep less in order to study. In the TV series \”Little Farewell\”, the \”tiger mother\” Tong Wenjie played by Hai Qing attaches great importance to scores and provides a \”cramming education\” to her daughter. She gets up at 5:30 every morning to memorize vocabulary words, attends various cram schools, and completes various after-school homework. Even when her daughter’s grades fell due to high pressure, she even said confidently, “I can’t become a top student under pressure.” Pressurized into a scumbag.\” Good parents understand the principle of moderation. They will not condone their children\’s naughtiness, but they will never suppress their nature. They are willing to give their children space to balance study and life, and they understand one more truth: excessive force will only be counterproductive. Don\’t let crisis education ruin your children. Among the few sons of Emperor Qianlong, the eldest brother is the most sensible one. Not only does he study hard, but he is also very experienced in dealing with people. The eldest brother\’s biological mother, Concubine Zhe, died early, and he was raised in his house since he was a child. The queen secretly made trouble, and everyone in the elder brother\’s house treated him badly. He was not well fed or clothed. Later, when he was raised by Ruyi, the situation improved. Because the second elder brother was praised by the Taifu for being like a prince, the eldest elder brother was unhappy. He asked Ruyi why he couldn\’t be a prince? Ruyi told him that because the second elder brother was the queen\’s son, and his mother-in-law and herselfThey are all concubines, not as good as the queen. Let him not say such words in the future to avoid causing trouble. Since then, the eldest brother has behaved more maturely in front of others. In order to have a place of his own, he had to put away his childish nature and deliberately cater to the preferences of adults. He is so sensible that it makes people feel heartbroken. Children who are too sensible actually have a sense of crisis, feeling that they may lose everything at any time, so they dare not fight and live cautiously. Losing the innocence and willfulness that a child should have is a deep despair. The so-called understanding is nothing more than ripening the mind in advance. The queen herself is also such an example. Because she had to bear the fate of the entire Fucha family early on, she made every move and calculated everything. She lost her love and herself in the deep palace. Sensible children like to cater to others and often ignore their own feelings. They lack the courage to be themselves and are always held back by a sense of crisis. British psychologist Winnicott proposed the concepts of \”true self\” and \”false self\”: If a person\’s self is constructed around one\’s own feelings, it is the \”true self.\” But if a person\’s self is constructed around the feelings of others, that is a \”false self.\” Children who grow up under a sense of crisis education have a common problem – they have a very low self-evaluation, feel that they are inferior to others, are prone to shrinking when things happen, and lack self-confidence. Therefore, children who are too sensible usually do not live a happy life. A child\’s growth is inseparable from the company of his parents. Children will lead a different life with or without their parents\’ company. This sentence has been fully confirmed by the elder brother. Before Ruyi raised her eldest brother, the child was cared for by a wet nurse and taught by a teacher, but his life was still full of problems. He was not attentive to his homework, was too playful, and was looked down upon by Qianlong. But since Ruyi took over the important task of raising the eldest brother, the eldest brother\’s life has undergone tremendous changes. Ruyi regards her eldest brother as her own and takes good care of him. The eldest brother\’s arm was bruised, and Ruyi applied medicine to him personally. She also often accompanied the eldest brother to read and write, chat with him, and enlighten him. The fifth elder brother also became Qianlong\’s proudest son under the education of Ruyi and Hailan. It is the responsibility of parents to accompany their children to grow up. But nowadays, many parents leave their children to their grandparents, causing more and more children to have many problems when growing up due to the lack of parental companionship and affection. Jackie Chan is a typical example. He is very successful in his acting career, but he cannot be said to be a qualified father. For his son Jaycee Chan, his wife has always been taking care of him, and Jackie Chan feels guilty. Once, Jackie Chan went to pick up his son from school, so he went. But after waiting at the school gate for a long time, my son didn\’t come out. It turned out that his son was already in junior high school, and he went to his son\’s original elementary school. Jaycee Chan suffered a serious lack of father\’s love in his childhood. Later, when Jackie Chan learned that Jaycee Chan had committed a crime, he cried with guilt. Li Ka-shing once said: No matter how successful a person is in his career, it cannot make up for his failure in educating his children. The son is as valuable as the mother, so the mother must be strong. Many people say that in the palace, the mother is as valuable as the son. Even a concubine who is not favored will be able to grow up if she has a son. But after watching \”Ruyi\’s Royal Love in the Palace\”, you will find that it is actually Zi Ping whoMother is precious. Because the second elder brother was the eldest son, he was destined to be the prince when he was born. And because the eldest brother is the eldest son of a concubine, no matter how hard he works, no matter how talented he is, no matter how much the emperor likes him, he cannot be a backup candidate for the crown prince. It turns out that it is not that the child is valued based on the mother, but that the child must first rely on the strength of the mother to be safe and prosperous. This point actually has great educational significance for modern society. Rather than relying on children to change their own destiny, mothers should be more supportive in order to truly become their children\’s confidence. Although \”Ruyi\’s Royal Love in the Palace\” is a palace fighting drama, every time we see the fate of these children in the palace, people can\’t help but sigh. The parenting style of the parents determines the life of the children, and every word and deed of the parents determines the fate of the children. The future of the child. In fact, raising an excellent child is neither as difficult nor as easy as imagined. It’s not difficult, because the most effective education can be accomplished in every moment of life. It’s not easy because the words “teaching by words and deeds” require constant efforts from parents. As Mu Xin said, the essence of love is actually a self-education. Therefore, the deep-seated love parents have for their children is companionship and fulfillment.