The top priority for first graders: getting kids to love learning

Recently, I chatted with four or five new parents of Xiaodoubao, and found that the parents (mainly mothers) are in a \”fighting\” state without exception. A mother said that after her daughter learned the characters in class, she asked her to write each character several times when she got home. If the child doesn\’t want to, the mother will just \”press down and write. The habit of studying should be cultivated as early as possible.\” A father said that his child would sleep on the pillow at night after going to school because homework and extracurricular classes filled her time and she was very tired. Another father said that his daughter is mainly controlled by her mother, who will watch her children do their homework and remind them to correct mistakes when they find mistakes, which makes the children more annoying. I feel distressed and worried. What makes me sad is that it is not easy for both adults and children, and what I worry about is that it is difficult for children to develop their self-motivation. I have heard someone say to a child who is about to enter elementary school more than once: The splint is about to be put on! Now that I see what these parents are doing, I suddenly feel that this sentence is correct. It is the parents who put small splints on their children. The child doesn\’t like the splint, but he doesn\’t dislike the parents. He just dislikes the \”triggering event\” that made the parents do this, which is going to school. He would think: If I hadn\’t gone to school, my parents wouldn\’t have enrolled me in so many classes, wouldn\’t have forced me to write so many words, and wouldn\’t have made me correct my mistakes all the time. Then he goes from liking school to hating it. A child who is tired of studying is unlikely to achieve good academic results. Therefore, when the child first goes to school (if possible, he can advance to the kindergarten stage), what we have to do is not to \”cultivate habits\” in a forced way, nor to enroll him in a large number of cram schools, nor to watch the child write Homework eliminates every mistake and instead cultivates children\’s interest in knowledge and love for learning. When a child falls in love with learning, parents do not need to supervise or force him, he will explore and practice on his own initiative. \”You want me to learn\” becomes \”I want to learn\”. How to make children fall in love with learning? Here are a few methods you can try. Talk to your children about \”interesting things\” at school and make them fall in love with school. Ask your children every day: \”Is there anything interesting (interesting) today?\” The child may not be able to tell at first. Parents give him some tips, such as what to eat. What new friends did you meet, what jokes did your classmates tell, etc. Slowly, children will consciously pay attention to these positive things and take the initiative to chat with their parents. When the school has special arrangements, such as sports meets, concerts and other activities, if the child does not take the initiative to ask, we can take the initiative to ask, using a tone of concern, enthusiasm or even envy. On the fourth week of school for Xiaobao, the school organized an autumn outing. I said to Xiaobao, \”It\’s great. There is an autumn outing just after school started. I didn\’t even have it in the first grade.\” Xiaobao was immediately proud. Many schools now give children small stickers as rewards. Parents should not ignore these little things. If a child shows off to us, we will immediately support him by saying \”so beautiful\”, \”so handsome\”, \”so cool\”, \”put this on and his clothes (schoolbags, textbooks) will look better\”. If the child doesn\’t mention it, we take the initiative to pay attention, \”Hey, there is a little post, did the teacher send it?\” and then praise it. Allow enough time for children to exercise and read \”leisure books\”. In primary school, especially in the lower grades, most or even all of children\’s extracurricular time should not be used for narrow-sense learning. Class knowledge is not complicated. If you listen carefully in class, you will be able toYou can understand the absorption. \”Fried leftovers\” after class will make learning narrow and boring. In order to avoid \”losing at the starting line\”, enrolling children in advanced cram schools is often counterproductive. It’s hard to be productive with a tired kid. Studies have found that exercise can cause the body to secrete endorphins, chemicals that can give people a feeling of excitement. Think about how happy and satisfied your children and their friends will be after running wild! Children who often experience this feeling are more motivated and efficient in learning. Extracurricular books might as well allow children to read in a variety of ways. Those who are not very literate should continue to read picture books. Excellent picture books are best for building a spiritual foundation. As long as it is a healthy book, children who can read independently can read whatever they like. Comics, detectives, history, martial arts… Although these \”idle books\” cannot help children improve their academic performance immediately, their nutrition is more comprehensive than teaching aids. If a child hates reading because he can only read \”designated books\”, it will be very difficult to develop an interest in reading in the future. Children who do not read enough generally have insufficient learning potential. Don\’t stare at your eyes, give your child time to grow. If your child\’s handwriting is not good, it may not be an attitude problem, it may be an ability problem. Some children over 6 years old may show advanced writing and pencil-holding skills, while others need more time to develop. Homework that adults think can be completed in ten minutes actually takes half an hour for some children. If your child is struggling to write or does not write neatly, don\’t give him more pressure. When his small muscles develop better, he will write faster and better. It is normal to have mistakes in homework. Let the children check by themselves after they have finished. Don’t remind and point them out every once in a while, which will affect the child’s rhythm and even affect his mood. Praise your child as soon as he checks it out, and praise him even more if his mistakes are decreasing day by day. He is more and more motivated to learn. It doesn\’t matter if the child can\’t detect it. He will listen to the teacher and be more careful next time. Don\’t take the responsibility of checking on yourself, and don\’t force him to correct or punish him for writing more. Homework written with emotions will not make children progress. It is normal to lose points in the exam, which means there are gaps in your knowledge and you just need to make up for them. The grades obtained in primary school have minimal impact on future life, so there is no need to compete with your children over those points. Let children be the protagonists of learning, with decision-making power and a sense of achievement. Children are students at school and must obey the teacher\’s instructions. If you have to obey your parents\’ arrangements when you go home, it will be difficult to take initiative. If you want to cultivate your child\’s sense of time and planning, you can ask him: \”What are your plans for tonight? What do you need my cooperation to do?\” If there are any omissions in his arrangements, communicate through discussion and suggestions, \”I saw the class group Teacher Li said there is something that requires parents to sign. What kind of homework is this? When do you plan to do it? \”If he wants to play parent-child games first, he will play the games first. If he wants to read the extracurricular books first, he will read the extracurricular books first. We are responsible for providing emotional value: \”The arrangements are quite comprehensive, with fun and learning, and a good balance between work and rest.\” Many first-grade children who have just entered school like to teach their parents, which is an excellent \”learning\” opportunity. Children imitate the teacher\’s classroom teaching, which is both review and consolidation. It is much better than writing and reciting in a regular manner. Parents can be more sloppy and give their children a chance to correct their mistakes, and they will teach harder. Parents can also mentionLet the \”little teacher\” answer some questions to prompt him to think. If your child is not in good condition and doesn\’t want to learn, then he won\’t learn. If he is worried about being criticized by the teacher, comfort him: \”When the state is not good, the learning effect will not be good. I will explain it to the teacher.\” When learning is not a burden, and when parents understand and support him, it is natural for him to fall in love with learning. thing. For a person who really likes to learn and will like to learn for a long time, do we still need to worry about his future?