The truth from a class teacher: Children who grow up to be incompetent all have one thing in common in their families.

In the vast field of education, every class teacher is a hard-working gardener. They not only impart knowledge, but also gain insights into the secrets of children\’s growth through day-to-day observation. Today, we are going to discuss the truth from a class teacher: Children who grow up to be incompetent often have one thing in common in their families. This commonality is not simply material scarcity or affluence, but a certain lack that is deeply rooted in family education concepts, atmosphere, and parental behavior. 01 The Invisible Hand of Family Education First of all, we must make it clear that the impact of family education on children’s growth is far-reaching and immeasurable. An experienced head teacher discovered in many years of educational practice that children who grow up to be uncompetitive and fail to fully realize their potential often come from family environments with common characteristics. These families, regardless of their economic conditions, may have deficiencies in educational concepts, family atmosphere, etc. Lack of goal-oriented family education: Many domestic and foreign studies have shown that clear goal orientation is a key factor in stimulating children\’s inner motivation and promoting their growth. However, in some families, parents often lack the awareness to set long-term goals for their children, resulting in children lacking a sense of direction and self-motivation as they grow up. Although this \”free-range\” education method seems to give children more freedom, in fact it may cause children to miss good opportunities for development in confusion. Overprotection and coddling: Another common problem is overprotection and coddling. This kind of education deprives children of the opportunity to solve problems and face difficulties independently, causing them to lack necessary life skills and coping strategies as they grow up. When these children step out of their families and face complex and ever-changing social environments, they often appear powerless and vulnerable. As shown in a foreign study, overprotected children are more likely to suffer from psychological problems such as anxiety and depression in adulthood, and their performance in the workplace is often unsatisfactory. Lack of effective communication and emotional support: In some families, there is a lack of effective communication channels between parents and children, resulting in insufficient emotional support. This emotional alienation will cause children to have deficits in their sense of self-worth and social skills, making it difficult to establish healthy interpersonal relationships. A domestic psychological study pointed out that emotional support in the family is an important cornerstone of children\’s mental health. Children who lack emotional support are more likely to have behavioral problems and academic difficulties. Neglecting the cultivation of interests and personality: In addition, some families place too much emphasis on academic performance when educating their children, while neglecting the cultivation of children\’s interests and personality. This approach may inhibit children\’s creativity and desire to explore, leaving them feeling lost in pursuing their interests and passions. A foreign study on the development of children\’s creativity shows that encouraging children to pursue their own interests and passions can significantly improve their creativity and problem-solving abilities. In order to illustrate this issue more intuitively, we can cite several real cases at home and abroad. 1. Little A comes from an over-indulgent family. His parents unconditionally meet his material needs, but neglect to cultivate his sense of responsibility and self-discipline. As an adult, Little A suffered repeated setbacks at work and was unable to adapt to social rules. This case vividly demonstrates theThe negative impact of excessive spoiling on children\’s growth. 2. In the United States, a study on family education and children\’s future achievements found that children who come from families with clear educational goals and a good communication atmosphere tend to perform better academically and professionally. Not only do these children have greater self-motivation and problem-solving skills, they are also able to maintain a positive attitude when facing challenges. 02 The solution: Reshaping family education. Faced with the above problems, we can’t help but ask: How to solve this dilemma of family education? The answer may not be complicated, but it requires sustained effort. Set clear educational goals: Parents should set long-term and short-term goals together with their children, and stimulate their children\’s self-motivation and sense of direction through goal management. These goals should be consistent with the child\’s interests and abilities, but also challenging. Cultivate children\’s independence and responsibility: Give children appropriate freedom and responsibility, and let them try and make mistakes within a safe range. In this way, children can learn to solve problems and face challenges independently, thereby developing perseverance. Strengthen family communication and emotional support: Parents should have in-depth communication with their children on a regular basis to understand their inner world and provide emotional support and guidance. This emotional connection allows children to feel empowered to be understood and supported, allowing them to face various challenges in life with greater confidence. Respect and cultivate children’s interests: Encourage children to pursue their interests and passions and provide necessary resources and support. This will not only stimulate children\’s creativity and desire to explore, but also help them find their own path in the future. Family education is the cradle for children\’s growth and the key to shaping their future destiny. As parents and educators, we should deeply understand the importance of family education and strive to create a growth environment full of love, respect and support for our children. Only in this way can we cultivate more capable and responsible children and contribute to the harmony and progress of society. Let us work together to build a blue sky for our children\’s future!