The words that hurt the mother the most, the family without consideration is the saddest

Leo Tolstoy has a famous saying: Happy families are all alike, but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. But there is one similarity among these unfortunate families, that is, families without consideration are the most miserable. A mother shared with me a scene she encountered on WeChat: On a long-distance bus, a mother was holding her 6-month-old baby, and the father was sitting next to her. The child was crying on the way, and the mother kept trying to coax her. She had no choice but to caress the child with breast milk. The father beside him was sleeping in various positions. At first, he thought he could not hear the child\’s crying at all, but occasionally he heard that he was not crying. She said patiently: \”I\’m so tired of crying!\” It seemed like it was disturbing him to sleep! At this time, the mother expressed that she was very sorry for not taking good care of the child, and quickly breastfed again. I am also a mother, and I completely understand how difficult it is for this mother. It seems that mothers are omnipotent if they have breast milk, but little do they know that breastfeeding is very hard! I wanted to help hug the child, and look at that father, sleeping so soundly! I really want to scold you! We have become accustomed to such scenes. Because in the eyes of many men, they think whoever has breasts should take care of the children. So you often see yelling and impatient fathers, and mothers with guilty faces. So the baby cried and called to his wife, \”Go and feed him quickly.\” The reason is simple, because you have breasts and I don’t. However, sometimes babies don\’t want to drink milk, but just want to be held by their parents. Or maybe you have a stinky poop and need to change a diaper. When the children are older, if they make a noise, the irritable father will hit them directly. He also cursed, \”It\’s your mother\’s habit. Go find your mother.\” Maybe the child just hopes to get your attention, get a response from his father, and let you play with him for a while. Not being considerate hurts both the children and the wife. 2Who should take care of the child? Reality has presented the answer in front of us: mother takes care of it. Because mothers are attentive and considerate, maternal love has extraordinary energy and provides the best protection for their children. We humans, and even most animals, grow up in our mother\’s arms. But this doesn\’t mean that dad can just ignore it. A father who is only responsible for making money will always leave a gap in the heart of his children. When my son was in kindergarten, he once made a special sharing. Ask the children to give their parents an award. In the video recorded by the teachers. Many children gave their mother the \”Best Stir-fried Vegetable Award\” because she cooks my favorite dishes every day. My mother works very hard and I love her. Some children gave their mother a \”My Favorite Award\” because she is my favorite person. And what about the award given to dad? One boy said, I give my dad a \”Best At Work Award\” because my dad is always at work, at work! I know my dad works hard, but I still hope that my dad can play with me more. Another girl gave her father a \”Best Drinking Award\” because he always likes to drink. He drinks outside and drinks when he comes home. I hope my father can drink less and pay attention to his health. Some of the parents in the audience were smiling, some were thinking, and some were crying silently. In the eyes of children, parents are their favorite people. They came here for their parents. I long for my father to spend more time with meself. 3 But why do so many fathers confidently abandon their children to their wives? The answer is inconsideration. An inconsiderate husband may even say the most hurtful thing to a mother: \”If you don\’t go to work, you can\’t even take care of your children at home.\” This sentence has a huge impact. Because when the husband said this, he occupied the supreme theoretical high ground. I make money from work, but you don\’t, so you should take good care of your children. It seems impeccable and every word makes sense. But he didn\’t take into account the feelings of a mother. A mother\’s love for her children has nothing to do with whether she makes money or not. But you feel that if you make money, you don\’t have the responsibility to take care of your children, but if you don\’t make money, you have the responsibility. And what’s even more heartbreaking is the neglect of a mother’s contribution to the family. It’s not what you mean by not working to make money. They just put their time and energy into it and integrated themselves into the family. As a result, you said that she didn’t go to work, so taking care of the children was not her job? How about hiring a nanny, a part-time worker, a cooking aunt, or a nanny? I\’m just afraid that the little money you earn is far from enough. Besides, do you really use your wife as a nanny? So, don\’t blame your wife for not treating you as her husband. 4Nowadays, many friends who have become parents gather together. Most of the talk is about how to raise children. When lamenting that the years are like a butcher\’s knife, he often pops up: \”Are you planning to have a second child?\” Sometimes, I see some friends happily saying, \”We are planning!\” As long as you pay attention, you will definitely find that there is someone behind her. A good husband who understands her and loves her. Mothers who wave their hands in a hurry often say they don’t dare to give birth because they have no money. Some mothers remained silent, their hearts bleeding silently. I wish I could stuff the whole baby back into my body, and then make the decision all over again whether to have a baby or not. They are often hurt by reality. Rousseau refers to \”the place of the family\” in Emile. It is said that in every happy family, dad has his own place. To understand this position, it actually means loving your wife, children, and this home. \”Husbands and wives should choose each other. So it is up to you to choose the person who matches you, but you must choose an honest man, whose character must be able to make you like it, and whose character must be compatible with yours. Suitable. As long as he has the ability to work, as long as he has good character and loves his family, he can be regarded as a person with considerable wealth. If he can make his profession respected by people, His social status is very honorable. \”In fact, it is not difficult to be a good husband. But it’s also difficult.