The worse the mother is, the better the child will be! It’s so timely to see it now

We are surrounded by good mothers who love their children eagerly, but if this kind of love turns into doting, it will be a sharp knife that destroys the child. A few days ago, my best friend complained to me that her son was 4 years old. She took care of the baby all day long for fear that something would happen. Over the past few years, my best friend has suffered from back pain all day long. She couldn\’t stand it anymore a few days ago, so she went to the hospital for a checkup, and it was said that she had a lumbar disc herniation. Can you say she is not a good mother? She works hard all day long to guard her child 24 hours a day, but if she holds the child in her mouth for fear of melting and holds it in her hands for fear of falling, will her child grow well? I am the well-known \”bad mother\”. During the winter vacation, Apple and I lived at my grandma\’s house for a while. I said, \”Don\’t wash Apple\’s clothes. Let her wash them by herself.\” My mother shouted: \”You Do you think your child is twenty years old?\” I smiled and said, \”If she is twenty years old, she will not only wash clothes, but also cook for you.\” At that time, she washed her own clothes and cleaned her room. of. It\’s not that I\’m lazy, it\’s that my children are getting older and have to take on the responsibilities of housework. Although Apple is also pampered by the elders, sometimes he likes to act coquettishly. But I think it\’s normal. Girls are not \”ladies\”. But now she has become a little girl who has her own opinion in everything, explores independently, and refuses to give up when encountering difficulties. If I do everything for her, make decisions for her, overprotect her, and remind her to \”slow down\”, \”be careful\” and \”don\’t do it\” from time to time, then this child will have no sense of security in the world. Talk about the courage to explore the world? If you try to be a good mother in everything, you will end up with a bad child. Because of your over-protection, the child becomes timid; because of your hands-on approach, the child becomes unassertive; because of your interference, the child becomes rebellious. And if a \”bad mother\” takes control of everything about her child, this control teaches her child to have influence and control over the surrounding environment. This helps children grow independently and allows them to learn more knowledge. When a problem occurs, children do not just passively accept it or cry helplessly, but they control the problem within the scope of their ability to handle it, turn passivity into initiative, find ways to solve the problem, and achieve final victory. And \”bad mothers\” don\’t dote on their children. It is normal for children to encounter problems. If parents stand up to help them at this time, they will lose the confidence and courage to challenge. In other words, parents standing up to help their children actually deprive their children of the opportunity to challenge and survive. Therefore, \”bad mothers\” have the confidence to give their children the confidence to challenge life and the courage to do so in the future, instead of hiding behind their parents\’ backs and being just followers. \”Bad mothers\” will also understand their responsibilities better. Let the children participate in everything as much as possible, instead of asking the children to take responsibility. Such children will have a more sense of mission. Although sometimes children may be hurt, they will not avoid responsibility because of fear. You might as well try to be a 60% mother, maybe you can get a 120% child! When not eating, don\’t trot around him. In order to let the child take a bite of food, you don\’t eat for half an hour. Confiscated his bowls and chopsticks, and ate by himself when he was hungry. When you fall, don\’t panic and rush to help.Smile and say to him: \”It\’s okay, stand up by yourself.\” When going to school, don\’t be his alarm clock. If you are late, you must be responsible for it. Parents cannot accompany him for a lifetime, and people always have to grow through lessons. When in class, don\’t ask what class will be tomorrow every day, and then help him pack away his stationery and books. You must learn to organize your own things yourself. If you really forget to bring something, don’t send it over. You can find a solution on your own or borrow it from a child in the same grade. When studying, don\’t help him check his homework question by question, but check it yourself. If he makes a mistake, let the teacher help him deepen his impression. During the exam, there will be no one to check for wrong questions. The road ahead is still for children to walk on their own. Mothers can only watch, but not support, and help, but not coddle. From today on, I hope you are also such a \”bad mother\”.