There are 13 things parents should avoid when new students enter kindergarten!

Parents\’ work plays a vital role in children\’s adaptation to kindergarten life. During the process of children entering kindergarten, many of our parents and friends are often at a loss as to what to do. Their starting point is to ensure that their children can adapt smoothly, but the result is that it backfires and has the opposite effect. Today I would like to share with parents the 13 things to avoid when new students enter kindergarten, to help parents avoid the phenomenon of \”crying, making trouble, and compromising\” smoothly, so that their children can enter kindergarten safely. 01 One taboo: Compromise blindly. If you can’t deliver it today, you will deliver it tomorrow. This is currently the most common problem for new students entering kindergarten. Parents blindly postpone the time of kindergarten because they feel sorry for their children\’s crying. The child cries, and the parents feel distressed, but they still have a sense of luck: maybe tomorrow, he can happily go to kindergarten! This will make the child feel that as long as he persists, he may not need to go to kindergarten. Then when you send your child to kindergarten again, the child\’s crying will become even more intense. 02 Two taboos: Two days of sending and one day of rest. Some children cry more when they first enter the kindergarten, don’t eat as much as they do at home, and get angry easily. The parents felt very distressed and wanted to give the child a few days to rest at home to recuperate. In fact, there is a misunderstanding in this idea. After a child rests at home for a day, he will feel more unfamiliar when he comes to the kindergarten. Especially for new children who have not yet established an attachment relationship with the teacher, drop-off and drop-off will be a problem. Stopping will make the child\’s adaptation process twice the result with half the effort. Insisting on sending children to kindergarten is crucial to their children\’s adaptation. 03 Three taboos: The child cries, and I cry too. It was the first time I left my baby, and I saw my baby crying so hard. It is reasonable for parents to feel distressed. However, parents’ emotional contagion on their children is too strong. It is common for parents to cry with their children during the reception of new students in kindergartens. This causes children to mistakenly think that their parents do not want them, and makes them think that going to kindergarten does not matter to them. , it is a very painful thing for parents, aggravates the child\’s separation anxiety, and is not conducive to the child\’s adaptation. 04 Four taboos: \”I\’m waiting for you outside.\” This often happens when grandparents send their children to kindergarten. When a child opens his mouth to cry, he immediately says to the child: \”I won\’t leave, grandma is waiting for you outside.\” \”Grandma is going to buy you something delicious, be back soon!\” This statement may be effective temporarily, but when the child finds out that he has been deceived, he will feel very uneasy because he doesn\’t know where grandma is. It makes them feel insecure. 05 Five taboos: \”Don\’t cry, I\’ll be the first to pick you up after school.\” Many parents will promise their children like this. When the child cries and says to you, \”Mom will be the first to pick me up!\” Do you have the heart to reject your child? So many parents casually promise: \”Okay, mom will be the first to pick you up!\” If you can really do it, of course we are not opposed to this method, but there are so many parents, can you guarantee that you will be the first? If you can\’t, please don\’t respond to your child like this. Please respond to your child in another way: \”Mom will pick you up early!\” \”Mom will pick you up at four o\’clock!\” If easy promises are not fulfilled, it is easy for children to feel that parents\’ words do not count. , then the prestige of parents in the hearts of their children will be greatly reduced. And once the child knows that his parents have cheated,I will reason to other things, so will the parents come to pick him up? The child is unsure. 06 Six taboos: \”If you cry again, I won\’t pick you up.\” \”If you cry again, I won\’t pick you up!\” These are the urgent words of angry parents, but our frontline teachers often hear them. Parents say this to make their children stop crying, but the children often cry more and more. Why is this? Because the child\’s understanding ability is limited, what the child understands is that you will not come to pick him up. This negative effect will make the child feel fearful, fearful of kindergarten, fearful of teachers, and even more fearful of separation anxiety. 07 Seven taboos: Just stay with your child for a while and it will be better. \”When the child cries, I will just stay with my child for a while and it will be fine!\” Many parents come with this mentality. They think that as long as they stay with their children for a while, it will be better. After a while, the children will be able to happily say goodbye to their parents. However, things often backfire. If parents stay a little longer, it will only prolong the child\’s adaptation time and prolong the child\’s crying and separation anxiety. Because at this time, the child has realized that the parent may leave, separation anxiety has arisen, and begins to cry. After all, the parents are leaving, and the children still have to face it alone and try to adapt. 08 Eight taboos: \”Don\’t cry!\” Every parent does not want to hear his or her child cry, and cannot accept his or her child crying in front of him or her. In fact, in the face of separation anxiety, children choose to cry to vent their feelings, which is a normal way for children to express themselves. Suppressing children\’s crying and using coercive means to force children not to cry is not conducive to children\’s psychological growth. 09. Don’t leave after feeding. Some parents are afraid that their children won’t have enough to eat, so they always want to feed their children before leaving in the morning. However, children who say goodbye to their parents after eating are prone to crying and vomiting. Moreover, if parents stay in the activity room for a long time, other children will be emotionally infected, which is not conducive to children\’s adaptation. 10 Don’ts: Looking outside the window will inevitably make parents feel uneasy after dropping off their children, so some parents lie outside the window to see if their children can adapt. However, if their children find out, their crying will intensify. 11 Eleven taboos: Asking children with negative hints, \”Has a child hit you?\” \”Is the teacher being mean to you?\” Parents are very concerned about their children, but we must know that such negative hints will only make children more afraid of kindergarten life. I unconsciously formed associations such as kindergarten being bad, children hitting me, teachers being cruel to me, etc. We can ask children: \”Which child did you meet today?\” \”Did the teacher praise you?\” to help children recall the good days of the kindergarten and build a good feeling for the kindergarten. 12. Twelve taboos: You must make up for your children at home in the first few days after entering kindergarten. Generally, they don’t eat as much as they do at home, so some parents will deliberately bring snacks to their children and want to make more for dinner at night. Fish, shrimp, meat and eggs provide nutritional supplements to children. In fact, it is easy for children to get angry when they first enter kindergarten. When eating, they should drink more water and eat more light foods. For fish and meat that are easy to produce phlegm and cause internal heat, they should eat as little as possible and eat more vegetables, which is beneficial to the child\’s immunity. improvement. 13. Do not control yourself when restingIt’s not easy to look forward to weekends and holidays, so play with your children and relax! So we see that many children have a hard time adapting on Mondays. On the one hand, the children have two days of rest and are unfamiliar with the environment. On the other hand, the children\’s work and rest patterns are inconsistent with those in kindergarten, which leads to disordered work and rest order. On rest days, parents should try their best to match the kindergarten\’s work and rest time to help their children form a regular work and rest time. 3 to 6 years old is a critical period for children to develop a sense of order. Developing regular work and rest habits will benefit children throughout their lives.