\”The young monk went down the mountain to transform into a vegetarian. The old monk told him that the woman at the foot of the mountain was a tiger. If you meet him, you must avoid it.\” This song is called \”A Woman is a Tiger\”. It tells the story of a young monk who went down the mountain to transform into a vegetarian. In order to protect him, the old monk told him to Stories about hiding from women. This song sounds funny, but looking back at our real life, as parents, we are actually playing the role of old monks. Although children are young, their physiological functions are gradually maturing, and it is natural for them to be attracted to the opposite sex. Unknowingly, the children\’s emotional world has quietly opened up. If a child has these three symptoms, it is most likely that he or she is in \”puppy love.\” 1. Interested in the topic of love. Teenagers are full of curiosity about the topic of love, especially those children who fall in love early, and they will be keen to explore everything related to love. Or create your own short stories related to love, and then share your feelings and thoughts with your friends. For example, they will show a strong interest in love novels, love movies, love songs, etc. 2. Pay special attention to appearance. Whether it is a boy or a girl, once they enter the threshold of puppy love, they tend to care more about their appearance and image. For example, the hairstyle you wear, the accessories you wear, the shoes you wear, and even the perfume you wear. When you go out, you spend a lot of time looking in front of the mirror. 3. Children who need pocket money and fall in love late when they come home will ask their parents for pocket money and go to the store to buy various snacks. It is easy to bring them into school and it is not easy for teachers to find out. They will give snacks to the boy or girl they like to make them happy. Now children know how to make others happy at a very young age. They will also go home later than before. Children who fall in love early will spend more time with the people they like. If a child suddenly exhibits these symptoms, parents should pay attention to whether the child is in \”puppy love\”. Therefore, parents need to learn to look at the phenomenon of early love, and guide their children to view love correctly to prevent early love from affecting their children\’s development. 6 Types of Teenage Puppy Love 1. Admiration type Puppy love, for example, because the other person is beautiful or handsome, or because the other person has his or her own special event, plays basketball well, plays the violin well, or because the other person is gentle, kind and considerate. 2. Curious Puppy Love Xiaojie was full of curiosity about girls’ lives when he was in the second grade of junior high school. Curiosity drove him to want to know more about his classmate Xiaoling. He began to look for opportunities to study with Xiaoling, participate in school activities, and even find topics to chat with her during breaks. 3. Imitative Puppy Love Xiaoya’s mother likes to watch romantic dramas, and Xiaoya is also full of yearning for the plots and character relationships in them. She imitates the girls in the TV series and dresses herself up, and also learns how to talk and interact with the boys in the TV series. 4. Follow the crowd type of puppy love. When you see your good friends all have girlfriends, you feel shameless if you don’t have one, so you find a girlfriend under the pressure of public opinion. 5. Compensatory love: Because some teenagers suffer setbacks in their studies and life, or their self-esteem is damaged, in order to achieve the purpose of venting, they often find relationships with the opposite sex, in which they forget their pain and seek compensation. This type of puppy love incorporates real feelings and is easy to develop and deepen. 6. Rebellious puppy love. Due to social awareness and public opinion factors, teenagers’ sexual intercourse is often criticized by parents and elders.Improper intervention by teachers can easily induce the mentality of \”you don\’t allow me to do this, but I have to do this\”. Under the influence of this rebellious psychology, originally normal and appropriate heterosexual interactions may quickly develop into puppy love. Wrong ways to deal with puppy love: 1. Rough intervention, beating the \”mandarin duck\” type 2. Let it go, indulgent type 3. Shifting responsibility, leaving it to school 4. Know-nothing, confused type Wrong handling methods, the results It can be very serious. The first step in the trilogy of correct handling of puppy love: find out the details and have a clear idea. This step is the initial stage of dealing with the problem of puppy love. Parents or teachers need to understand the specific situation of their interactions with the opposite sex. It is also necessary to observe changes in the child\’s behavior, such as whether he or she often spends time alone with a friend of the opposite sex, whether there are any abnormal mood swings, etc. At the same time, it is also necessary to understand the children\’s psychological state, such as their views and feelings about love. By building a trusting relationship with their children and encouraging them to open up, parents can more accurately grasp their children\’s true situation and be fully aware of it. Step 2: Analyze the situation and treat it differently. After understanding the situation, analyze the reasons for puppy love, such as whether it is because of curiosity, imitation, seeking attention, etc.; at the same time, analyze the impact of puppy love, such as whether it has a negative impact on the child\’s study and life. Then different treatments are made based on the child\’s personality and other reasons. For example, if puppy love has not had a serious impact on the child, a more relaxed attitude can be adopted; if puppy love has interfered with the child\’s normal life, more active intervention measures need to be taken. Step 3: Pay attention to methods and provide correct guidance. After learning that Xiaojie was in love early, his father had an open and sincere conversation with Xiaojie. His father naturally led the topic to love and emotions, and asked Xiaoming about his views on love. Xiao Ming was a little surprised, but seeing that his parents didn\’t mean to blame him, he gradually relaxed and began to share his feelings. Dad listened carefully and then gave some advice, such as how to balance studies and relationships, how to respect each other, and how to protect yourself. This kind of conversation allows children to understand the responsibilities and boundaries in love, and also makes children feel understood and supported by their parents. Therefore, instead of \”chasing and blocking\” children\’s early love, it is better to teach children how to love! A message to parents of adolescents: Puppy love is an unavoidable topic in adolescence. There are very few people who have not had a relationship in middle school. And most of them are secret love and unrequited love (unrequited love). Only when they have a good impression of each other can they develop into puppy love. However, parents cannot ignore the dangers of puppy love, which may lead to psychological problems such as inattention, poor learning, low self-esteem, and even deviant criminal behavior. Therefore, we cannot ignore the company and communication with our children just because they grow up. We are always on the road to find love throughout our lives. Love is the most beautiful pursuit in life, it makes our life full of meaning and color. When the family becomes a child\’s source of emotional satisfaction, they are less likely to seek emotional compensation from the outside world.
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