There are no shortcuts in parenting, it’s just that some people are carrying the burden forward

There is a saying that says, \”The greatest misfortune in life is to be indifferent when you should be struggling.\” The same is true for raising children. Many people think that children should be left alone and let their nature take their own course. But you need to know: it is nature, good has good roots, but evil has bad habits. The first few years after a child is born should be the most difficult years for parents. Because facing a new life means that a pair of young people have to learn a new skill – \”how to be good parents.\” Don’t talk about “waiting for the flowers to bloom” when you need to study hard the most. I still remember that when I found out my wife was pregnant, I felt a little nervous, and then I thought I should learn something, because I had no idea how to raise a child. So I started buying books and reading to understand what I should pay attention to, what I should eat, and what I should do during pregnancy. As a result, I have not stopped and have been studying until now. My son will be four years old soon. I feel like I\’m following in his footsteps and growing. I remember when I took my baby home from the hospital and gave me a bath, I had to wrap the belly button with gauze. Even the elders at home didn’t dare to do it, so I took the initiative to do it myself. Then give him a bath, dress him, hold him with his shaking head, talk to him, and play with him. In fact, it is not written in these books, you have to learn it bit by bit in life. Later, I created my own set of gymnastics based on the radio gymnastics we did at school, and did them for the little one every day. As a result, my wife showed me a video of \”Baby Passive Exercises\” one day, and it turned out to be very similar. I got a big thumbs up from my wife and it also boosted my confidence. Later, when you study, you will find that children have commonalities, and the root causes of many problems are the same. Family problems cause children\’s problems. A few days ago, an aunt was complaining to my mother: She had raised a son and also had to raise a grandson, and her life was too hard. I had to hold the baby during the day and stay up late to tuck the baby in at night. I barely slept a full night\’s sleep, and I felt several years older. Speaking of this, I couldn\’t help but look at her. She was really much older than my mother. There is a lot of white hair on the head, and the person is very haggard. We all know that her son works outside. Because he doesn’t have any skills and is very fun. He often plays cards and earns almost nothing after excluding expenses every month. Therefore, the grandparents are responsible for the child\’s milk powder and clothes. But she added, \”But it\’s okay. My grandson is sensible and knows how to care about me. He said that I am the person he loves most in the world.\” Then she smiled to herself, which was a bittersweet feeling. This should be both pain and happiness. Many parents do not take care of their children after they have given birth because they think it is too hard to take care of them. If there is no practical recognition of the identity of \”parents\”, I think many people will not be able to truly become parents. Only when you grow up with your children and move forward with heavy burdens can you truly feel the weight of these two words, parents. If you live a carefree life and are a parent who abandons your parents, someone must be shouldering the weight for you. And this person often loves you, and is your wife or husband, or your parents. You must love this person well. There are no shortcuts in parenting, it’s just that some people are willing to bear the burden and move forward. It’s tiring to take care of children, it’s every dayA sentiment shared by anyone who has raised children. For example, the problem of children sleeping has exhausted countless parents. Suddenly he kicked off the quilt and rolled to the other side of the bed, lying across the bed or rolling under the bed. Being able to get a full night\’s sleep is the most urgent wish of countless parents. Especially when a child is sick and has a cold, he or she can\’t sleep at night, waiting all the time and feeling anxious. When a child reaches school age, which kindergarten should he attend? Will you get into fights with your classmates when you go to school? Is the school safe? Will the child like their school? …the worry is overwhelming. What should I do if my child doesn’t like reading but loves watching TV? What should I do if my child doesn’t like studying and always comes last in exams? What kind of person will my child become? It must be excellent and excellent. But what does excellence mean and what can I do about it? I think these questions will trouble almost every parent. Someone will share some methods with you, but will the methods work? After trying a lot, I discovered that there really are no shortcuts to parenting. Parents\’ self-learning and progress is the key. Only when you personally take care of your child, actively feel the child\’s growth, and understand the child, will those methods be effective. In fact, there are many shortcuts in this world, but there is no shortcut to growth. When it comes to parenting, those who are dumber may do better. I am not a smart person by nature and like to achieve my goals step by step. Therefore, in the process of raising children, I also like to take it slow, watch over my children, and implement the parenting methods I approve of gently but firmly. I never thought about changing my children, but I always tried to change myself. For example, when I first heard my child cry, I couldn\’t stand it and would lose my temper with him. As a result, I got worse and worse, scaring the child and hurting myself. Later I discovered that no child cries for no reason. Many times it is because parents do not understand their true needs. For example, if a child wants to eat yogurt, you give him an apple and then order the child to eat it. For example, when a child enters the sensitive period of order, he has to open the door by himself, brush his teeth first, and sit where he usually sits. But parents use willfulness to force their children to compromise, and the result is that the children will only express their protest through crying. Some mothers asked me, \”My child is lazy, what can I do?\” Others asked me, \”My child doesn\’t like to study, what should I do?\” I really couldn\’t answer. Because I can\’t tell you an answer in one sentence or a few sentences. When many parents face problems with their children, they always hope to find a \”surgeon.\” With one cut, all diseases will be eliminated. But this is impossible. Because I know that every child comes into the world crying, enters different families, receives different education methods, and experiences different lives. Only the person who stays with him every day is most likely to help him. Over the years, I have also come into contact with countless experts and lectures. In fact, in the families of experts, children still have a lot of problems. Don\’t believe what they say can be solved by one method. There is no magic formula, no real shortcut, it’s just that someone is carrying the burden and knows a little more than you. As long as you are diligent enough, willing to learn, and willing to change, the so-called shortcut is actually the path you are taking. It just takes timeProof, don\’t rush to get results. You just need to always ask yourself: \”Can I endure hardship?\”