There is a group of charming nannies 119 in the United States who are so awesome that they can take care of naughty children in a week without beating or scolding them.

\”Nanny 119\” is an American reality show. Program content: Children are disobedient, paranoid, violent… As a parent, are you at a loss? In the United States, there is such an organization, the nanny center, which accepts citizens’ requests for help regarding their children’s education, and then dispatches corresponding experts according to the situation to provide on-site guidance for a week until the problem is solved. Recently, I was looking at the hot searches and a piece of news about naughty children shocked me. This child is indeed ill-disciplined, but what surprises me even more is the nationwide carnival that followed the news by beating the naughty child to vent their anger. Netizens were shouting for beatings and killings, as if not skinning the \”naughty child\” was not enough for the people to get angry. One netizen said directly, \”Hit his head against the wall so hard, just like in the TV series, he will either lose his memory or die. I want to see which one you are.\” It\’s just that it\’s easy to shout and kill, but violence is really Can it solve the problem of naughty children? Is the only way to deal with naughty children is to beat them up? In the United States, there is a nanny center that specializes in treating naughty children. They receive help from citizens about their children\’s education, and then send corresponding experts according to the situation to provide door-to-door guidance for a week, solving the problem without beating or scolding. The process of super nanny managing naughty children was recorded and made into a reality show: \”Nanny 119\”. After watching this show, first of all, you can be comforted. It turns out that the problem of naughty children is not unique to us. In the United States, there are also many naughty children, and the level of bears may be higher. In the show, you can always see children lying on the ground and shouting loudly, \”I hate you, I want to kill you.\” You!\”, the angry parents yelled hysterically: \”Stop it!\”… Then, you can get a way to change the situation. The super nannies will reform the naughty children as much as possible within a week and save the parents who are on the verge of collapse. Let\’s see how they do it… Jim and Nikki live in Minneapolis and have two naughty children, daughter Jordyn and son Jackson. The two children fought almost every day, ran around, banged things, threw things, and at one point even liked to say \”I\’m going to kill you\” to their parents. Mom Nikki began to fear the home because of its chaos and No respect. Super nanny Debbie will take on the important task of changing the family and helping them return to normal. On the first day of observation, Debbie discovered that the order of the family was reversed. The parents were not like the parents, and the children made the decisions in the family. When mom Nikki wanted her daughter to take off her skates, all she said was, \”Jordyn, please don\’t walk around the room with your skates on.\” Jordyn completely ignored her. Neither father nor mother can control the children at all. During dinner time, Debbie discovered that the family did not eat together at all. Jackson ate in the corner, his father was on the other side, and her mother was the only one sitting at the dining table to eat. There were no rules at all. After dinner, her mother was about to start working. She told Jordyn: \”I need to be alone and make a phone call.\” But Jordyn didn\’t want this. She forced her way into her mother\’s room and started playing by herself, not caring whether there was someone else or not. It affects my mother. What surprised Debbie even more was that during the confrontation with her child, her motherCompromised easily. Debbie decided to start by setting rules. According to the rules, Debbie moved the TV from Jordyn\’s room. According to the rules, Jordyn will no longer be able to watch TV before going to bed, but will listen to her mother\’s stories instead. According to the rules, Jackson can no longer use bad words for no reason and must learn to respect others. At the beginning, it was very difficult to enforce the rules in this family, because the mother was always worried that if she did not follow the child\’s wishes, it would lead to alienation in the parent-child relationship, and she habitually gave in and compromised. To this end, Debbie had a long talk with her mother Nicky and asked Nicky to exercise her rights as a parent. If we continue to compromise, it will be the children who will be harmed in the end. After a long conversation, Nikki finally decided to make a change. After making the change, she was pleasantly surprised to find that the parent-child relationship was not alienated, but she gained the respect she deserved, and the relationship between her child and her became stronger because of mutual respect. close. In fact, behind many naughty children there is a doting parent. One compromise will only lead to more compromises, until subconsciously they believe that it is impossible to control the child, and finally have to let it go. To change this situation, parents need to establish rules. More importantly, after establishing rules, they must make their position clear and stick to them. As Debbie said: \”The rules have been set and sticking to them is the only way to get your children to respect you.\” Dads Rich and Susie, who cannot be absent, named their eldest daughter Shasta after a volcano , because she may break out at any time, and her younger brothers and sisters are also in a lot of trouble. Her father, Richie, often travels by bicycle, leaving her mother, Suzy, alone at home to deal with the children. Susie said: \”I never thought it would be like this when I was pregnant. These three children are driving me crazy!\” The room was messy as soon as it was cleaned up. The eldest daughter Shasta was very willful and kept provoking. The younger brother Charlotte He has a bad temper and his catchphrase is \”No, no, I don\’t want it!\” Kaia, who has just turned two years old, is the youngest. As long as she is not watched carefully, she will get into big trouble. Nanny Stella discovered the family\’s problems on the first day she arrived. While her mother, Suzy, was cleaning up the kitchen, everyone else just looked on. At night, the father is lying on the sofa, and the mother is feeding the child in the kitchen. When the children start to cause conflicts, the father always excuses himself to go out for a ride to avoid responsibilities, leaving all the responsibilities to the mother. Mother Susie would complain: \”Rich is having a great time, but I\’m like a windmill that can\’t stop!\” Stella realized that this was a typical widowed parenting family, where the father was absent and the mother was anxious. The mother\’s anxiety makes it impossible for her to stay calm when educating her children. Her demands on her children are always intermittent. Before one thing is completed, she has to start urging her children to do another thing. Under such anxiety, the relationship between the child and the mother is very tense, and the child is not willing to listen to the mother at all. To change the family, it was clear that Dad Rich had to contribute by switching his passion from cycling to family. At the Saturday family meeting, Stebby pointed out daddy issues seriously: \”I would have left the baby to you, and then I would have been out for so long.between. \”Under the guidance of Stebby, Susie also vented her many years of grievances: \”Rich, you are too selfish in your use of time and very irresponsible to your family. \”In the end, Stebby decided to help Richie and Susie improve their relationship first. The method she gave was: the mother took a day off, and the father was responsible for taking care of the baby during this day. Soon, the busy Richie felt his wife\’s Painful, it is not easy to deal with three children. He no longer has any room for maneuver. He has to muster the courage to take on the responsibility of a father, restrain the children\’s behavior, resolve disputes between them, and decide Set some rules and be responsible for their daily diet. A day later, Richie said on camera: \”I finally understood that only when I returned to the family could I give Suzy time to breathe. And this is good for Susie. Only if she gets better, our lives will be better. \”Change yourself first. Shifen and Sean are a police couple. Although they are both police officers, their personalities are very different. Dad Sean has a gentle temper and is tolerant of everything, while mom Shifen is very strong and has a hot temper. They After having six children in four years, unexpectedly a set of twins, and then triplets, the whole family was in chaos. Suzy, the mother, looked haggard and full of intense feelings for each child. The nanny Stella was assigned to help the couple get out of trouble. She observed that Susie, the mother, often couldn\’t help but suffer from occupational diseases when facing her children, scolding or yelling, \”Don\’t do this, or don\’t do that.\” After breakfast, mother Susie summoned the children downstairs to do housework, \”Hurry up, come on, teamwork is needed here!\” \”\”Listen carefully, now we need to classify…\” This sounds like giving orders rather than recruiting new recruits. When the baby calls mom, Susie will impatiently say: \”Go to dad, I\’m busy. Please, don\’t cry to me. \”Other times, when the children did something wrong, the way Suzy talked to them was like interrogating a prisoner. Nanny Stebby decided to arrange some time for mother to play with the children, hoping to see Suzy Being able to talk to the children like a real mother, not a police officer. While playing with the bubble machine, a little accident happened. My daughter Mary got soapy water in her eyes. Mary pulled her mother\’s clothes. She started crying, and before Mary completely collapsed, her mother sent her away roughly. Dad Sean wanted to take Mary to wash her, but mother Suzy said indifferently: \”It\’s just a little soapy water, wipe her with your vest.\” Enough. ” Stebby found the problem and told Suzy: “You have trouble expressing your feelings to your children. Why does it make you irritated when your child cries, but it feels natural for you to yell? \”This sentence hit Susie\’s pain point. Although she was very reluctant to accept this fact, in order to return the family to normal, she still tried hard to cooperate with Stebby to control her emotions, as Stebby suggested, Make more physical contact with the children and learn to hug and kiss them. After a week, the chaotic situation in Suzy\’s house improved. When Suzy integrated into the children\’s world and understood her children, she also found peace. heart of.This family revolution is more like a mother\’s self-transformation. When Susie understands that \”if you want your children to change, you must first change yourself.\” Everything will change for the better. direction development.