There is a significant difference between the children raised by mothers who love to dress up and those who never dress up 20 years later

Mother\’s Day is coming soon, have you bought any gifts for yourself? Yesterday, I thought to myself that I haven’t bought new clothes for a long time, so I planned to go to the mall to pick a few pieces to treat myself. As a result, my husband had a \”disgusted\” look on his face. While complaining that he was not treated so well on his birthday, he tried to dissuade me: \”You wear work clothes at work and don\’t go out much. Who are you showing me when you wear new clothes?\” I was holding back my big move. When I wanted to refute my husband, my daughter came over to help me: \”Dad, what you said is wrong. I just like to see my mother wear beautiful clothes and dress up beautifully. Last time my mother sent me to school, she wore that pink dress and painted My classmates all praised my mother for her beauty when they saw her. Mom, I support you in buying new clothes. You are so beautiful!\” I was almost laughed at what my daughter said. I didn\’t expect that children would attach so much importance to their mother\’s dressing up. I remember reading this sentence on the Internet: A mother who always grooms herself beautifully will raise very different children from a mother who never dresses up. After growing up, the gap becomes even more obvious. A mother’s beauty gives her child confidence. I remember during the parent-teacher conference in my daughter’s kindergarten, the teacher specifically emphasized: When parents pick up their children, don’t just put on pajamas and come there. I was puzzled when I heard this. After all, it is not uncommon for some mothers to go out in pajamas and flip-flops without having time to change clothes when their children go to school early. I\’ve done similar things. I don\’t feel anything wrong, but the unbearable looks from others and the ridicule from my children\’s peers will become a psychological burden on my children. Reminds me of a share I saw online. There was a mother who heard her daughter say that there was an art performance after her elementary school graduation, and she volunteered that she wanted to attend. But her daughter hesitated and told her, \”Don\’t come if you\’re busy.\” Finally, this mother went and saw that the mothers of her daughter’s other classmates were all dressed up and looking good. Looking back at myself, I look out of place wearing ordinary everyday clothes. Even her daughter heard her classmates talking about it: \”Why doesn\’t your mother wear a beautiful dress?\” \”Your mother is so tacky.\” At that moment, she understood why her daughter didn\’t invite her to watch the performance. Child experts point out that children begin to have aesthetic awareness at the age of 1. Between the ages of 3 and 6, they enter the \”Oedipus stage\” and begin to have the \”Oedipus complex\” and \”Electra complex\” in their hearts. Therefore, they will pay special attention to and be attached to their parents, and refer to their parents\’ images to establish a \”perfect\” themselves in their hearts. The level of a child\’s self-esteem is also inseparable from the external evaluation of \”appearance.\” If a mother is unkempt and slovenly, her children will easily be affected by this image and become less confident and have a lower sense of worth. When a child sees his mother dressed refreshingly and elegantly, which is eye-catching, he will project his positive evaluation of his mother\’s image onto himself, full of self-recognition and affirmation. Even Zhang Yijun, a doctor of psychology, said, \”The more fashionable the mother, the more confident the child; the better the mother\’s figure, the prouder the child.\” Most children, like adults, will always \”judge people by their appearance.\” When he sees his mother as beautiful, well-groomed and fresh, he can\’t help feeling full of joy, pride and confidence in his heart. A mother’s neatness nourishes her child’s spirit. Author @夏半月 There is a cousin whose mother is very good at dressing herself up. YearNearly 50 years old, her figure is still tall and slim, her skin is rosy and fair, and her black and thick hair makes her look particularly young and energetic. Although the family conditions are average and the family relies on the father\’s income of less than 4,000 a month to make ends meet, the mother can always keep the house in order. Not to mention that because of the tension and cramped life, I don’t live like a yellow-faced woman. Every time I go to school to visit my cousin, all my classmates praise my cousin’s mother for being young and beautiful. Under the care of her mother, her cousin also grew up to be beautiful and good-looking. Her skin is as white and tender as milk, her hair is black and thick, and she looks as if she is extremely white and rich. Because of her outstanding appearance and popularity, my cousin has been the host of various school evening parties since high school. When I started working after graduation, I was deeply loved and reused by my leaders due to my clever, clever and nimble personality. There is also a 57-year-old old colleague of hers. Many women of the same age have wrinkles on their faces, have given up dressing up, and spend every day waiting at home to take care of their grandchildren. But this colleague is not only very professional, he drives himself on self-driving trips when he has time, and he also takes good care of himself. Wear a silk cheongsam today to highlight your slim figure; wear a denim T-shirt tomorrow to live a youthful and beautiful life. Under her influence, her daughter also developed a keen interest in fashion. When I grew up, I studied fashion design, and the clothes I designed were highly sought after. I opened a studio two years after graduation, and my future was bright. How the mother is, the child will live like. I am tired and busy all day long, and I am too lazy to spend time on grooming myself, so I let myself become unkempt and messy. That child will only follow one another. Even if he has a \”love for beauty\”, he doesn\’t know where to start and doesn\’t know how to take care of himself. And those mothers who are willing to spend time on themselves and every detail of their lives. Even if the reality is trivial and ordinary, she always has a way to deal with the problem in an orderly manner and tidy everything up. Her meticulousness and neatness not only show her inner sense of order generously, but also make herself comfortable. It will also infect the children around them, allowing them to learn to pay attention to themselves and manage themselves well. Mothers who love cleanliness and know how to dress up are using their own spiritual energy to nourish their children\’s ability to deal with the world. Mother\’s taste creates the pattern of children. Sun Ruixue said in \”Capturing Children\’s Sensitive Period\”: The temperament of adults is caused by the aesthetics of childhood. The aesthetics of childhood establishes the aesthetic tendency and quality of life of a person\’s life. Mom loves beauty, and she doesn’t necessarily have to wear famous brands, put on heavy makeup, and show off her appearance. Instead, she is passionate about life and lets her children see her pursuit of a better life and her own requirements and tastes. Host Nigmaiti’s mother loves to look beautiful and would go to a tailor every time she wears clothes. Because he is sensitive enough to life and his emotions are outgoing, whenever he senses that his son has a little bit of \”talent\”, he will continue to encourage and praise him. She used the children\’s drawings drawn by her son as a basis for designing clothes, praising her son that he would definitely become a designer in the future. Seeing her son writing a diary and dreaming of being a novelist, she held the composition in her hand, read it over and over again, and even read it to others for appreciation. During those days when he was growing up, Nigmaiti dared to dream under his mother\’s fancy \”praising\”. Even if he encountered failure or setbacks, he would always think of his mother\’s encouragement and work hard to persevere. In his heart, mother lovesSmiling, cheerful, informal, and never compromising with life. His mother\’s requirements and standards for him made him understand that \”there are regrets in life, but we must try our best to regret them.\” All the nutrients from his mother’s words and deeds seeped into his life, keeping him cheerful and enthusiastic about life. Nowadays, I see more and more mothers who are willing to invest in themselves to become elegant and elegant. In the gym and on the sports field, mothers roll up their sleeves and sweat to keep themselves young and energetic; in front of the computer and under the desk lamp, the whole family has fallen asleep soundly, but they are working hard to improve themselves for their dreams and visions; even if Others have never made any demands on them, thinking that it would be good for them to focus on raising their husbands and raising children, but they always have the energy in their hearts and feel that they can do better. They prefer to hold their fate tightly in their own hands and live with their own dignity. And children will also follow suit, regard their mothers as benchmarks and role models, and live their own wonderful lives. A mother’s dignity gives her children the ability to love, and she particularly recognizes this passage: “A mother who is willing to dress up must know how to love herself.” She is willing to spend time on herself. In her heart, she is the C position and the leader of the stage of life. Big heroine. Only by loving herself can she have enough energy to love her children and become a lifelong blessing to her children. When the famous children\’s prose writer Ms. Gui Wenya recalled her mother, she described her mother like this: She was a queen-level goddess. I particularly love beauty, always dressed neatly and elegantly no matter where and when I go. With soft hands, as delicate as a little sheep, he is diligent and tidy at home, but outside, he is cheerful and forthright, speaks his mind, and is very authoritative. Even if the marriage was unhappy later, he never complained. Instead, he became a good friend of his ex-husband and his current wife, often enlightening and helping her. Every time I visit my children, I will bring them beautiful new clothes, toys and delicious candies. On days when I can’t see them in person, I often write letters to my children. The letters are written in smart, beautiful handwriting and vivid writing style, which makes the children feel very loved. In this way, Gui Wenya was not affected by the shadow of \”parents\’ divorce\” at all. She used the love and romance conveyed by her mother to write touching, innocent and brilliant words one after another, becoming a representative of the \”true color school\” in contemporary Chinese children\’s literature. writer. I have read a mother\’s sharing, and I still remember it: \”Who said that becoming a mother means being disgraced? That you have to focus on your children and not have your own life and career? NO! I am myself first, and then The child is his mother. For the sake of self-consistency and self-pleasure, you must never give up the pursuit of beauty after becoming a mother.\” This declaration of \”mothers must love themselves\” has given encouragement and confidence to many mothers who have almost lost themselves. No matter what hardships we have experienced in the workplace and family, or the difficulty of raising children, we should not live perfunctorily, let alone treat ourselves carelessly. Don’t think that it’s enough to just wash your face before leaving home, pick something out of the pile of clothes and put it on. Love yourself well and enjoy every moment of dressing up. Just like what the host Jing Yidan\’s mother said: \”At any time, don\’t forget to love yourself and don\’t forget to enjoy beauty.\” When we tidy ourselves up, develop a healthy figure, behave elegantly and appropriately, and exude mature charmforce. Children\’s views on themselves and their understanding of the world will also be affected and inspired. A mother\’s serious attitude towards life is the greatest prerequisite for children to learn to love themselves and embrace life. Just in time for Mother\’s Day, I would like to share a message with mothers: You are beautiful and full of charm. I look forward to letting your children see you bravely shine your due light and achieve the best version of yourself in the days to come.