There is no rule without rules. Before the child is 6 years old, these 5 rules must be established for him.

Nowadays, many parents know how to set rules for their children, but it is easy to think of it but too difficult to do it! I promised that I could only watch one episode of cartoons, but when I turned on the TV, I couldn\’t seem to stop. How many times have I told you not to buy any more toys? Once you enter the supermarket, you will go straight to the toy section and act recklessly if you don’t buy them. Why do rules for children not work? Could it be that the stick-and-stick education of the older generation of “tiger mothers and wolf fathers” is the “truth” in parenting? I believe that many parents are faced with this kind of parenting embarrassment: on the one hand, they are worried that having too much control will make their children unable to breathe; on the other hand, they are afraid of excessive freedom and worrying that their children will be \”raised crookedly\”. No rules, no standards. These five rules must be established before the child is 6 years old. Rule 1: Regular work and rest, and develop good behavioral habits. For children, rules mean developing good behavioral habits. Good habits can change a person\’s destiny and determine a person\’s life. Psychologist William James once said: \”Sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.\” However, behavioral habits It doesn\’t take a day or two to develop a good habit, but it is very easy to break a good habit. This is why in the preschool stage, great emphasis is placed on children\’s good living, daily routine, etiquette and other habits. Only by developing good behavioral habits from an early age can children benefit from them throughout their lives. Rule 2: Do what you can do yourself. Dr. Montessori advocates that parents should let go of their hands and let their children boldly try and explore on their own. However, the reality is too difficult! Most parents feed and dress their children at home. Even when children reach elementary school age, their parents still take care of all the activities within their capabilities. As everyone knows, parents\’ blind domination will not only reduce the child\’s happiness, but also make the child more likely to become a \”giant baby\” and even cause the child to lose the basic ability to take care of himself. If you want your children to truly grow, you must be willing to use them. For example, do housework. The purpose of letting children do housework is not to let them do too much work, but to cultivate their many abilities through housework. Many children in the Montessori Kindergarten are very fond of cleaning activities in daily life areas, such as sweeping the floor, wiping tables, cutting paper, pouring beans, etc. Through these tasks, children can find imitative behaviors that they want to do at home but are prohibited. Sooner or later, a child\’s life is his own. As a parent, you must be willing to delegate authority, give your children the opportunity to try, and let them do their part well through continuous practice. Rule 3: Don’t take other people’s things, and return them to their place in time. A reporter once interviewed Kapitsa, the Nobel Prize winner in physics, “In your life, where do you think you learned the most important things?” He said: \”I personally feel that the most important stage in life is not in university or in the laboratory, but in kindergarten.\” He continued, \”Here, I learned a lot, such as things that are not my own. Don\’t take it; wash your hands before meals and rest after meals; do what you promised others; put things back where they were taken…\” After children are 2 years old, they can better distinguish between \”yours\” and \”yours\” \”Mine\”, when the child selfAfter the sensitive period of consciousness arrives, parents must set rules for their children in time. Let him know that he cannot take things that are not his and that he has control over his own items. Before the child is 6 years old, he has a strong sense of order. Especially children aged 3-4 years old have very strict requirements on the location of objects, the passage of time, order, agreements, etc. Therefore, when you find that a child in your family has some special habits and loses his temper for no reason, such behavior is usually a sign of the child\’s pursuit of a sense of order. At this time, parents should set a good example and put things back where they were taken in a timely manner. Rule 4: Everything has boundaries, and rules cannot be violated. Children with a sense of boundaries can clarify the boundaries between themselves and others, including material and physical boundaries, and can also know how to protect their own boundaries, have rules and a sense of responsibility. For children, rules are boundaries, what can and cannot be done. The establishment of a sense of boundaries is a gradual learning process. If children do not develop boundaries and establish a sense of rules before the age of 6, they will often do things in life that cause headaches for their parents. What rules should be established for children aged 0 to 6 years old? Dr. Montessori has already told us the answer, three basic principles: do not harm yourself, do not disturb others, and do not damage the environment. Set six basic rules for your children: 1. No rude or vulgar behavior. 2. You are not allowed to take other people’s things, and you must control your own things. 3. Put things back where you took them. 4. For toys and all public supplies, whoever gets them first can use them first, and those who come later must wait. 5. Don’t disturb others. 6. Apologize when you do something wrong, and have the right to ask others to apologize. If a child has boundaries in his mind, he will understand his boundaries when doing things, and he can be responsible for his own emotions, behaviors and attitudes. Rule 5: Be responsible for doing things and have a pattern in mind. Zeng Guofan once said: \”Those who plan for great things first pay attention to the pattern.\” The size of the pattern in the mind determines whether the vision is long-term, and whether the vision is long-term determines the success or failure of things. As the locomotive of the family train, the father must have a far-sighted vision and a big picture. Only a father\’s big picture can ensure that the family\’s development direction is correct. A father is worth a hundred teachers. The father is the first male figure that a child comes into contact with in life. He shoulders the important task of helping children understand the world and society correctly. Therefore, how high a child can fly in the future often depends on how big the father\’s pattern is. Therefore, when setting rules for your children, you should let them develop a sense of responsibility and responsibility, and have a sense of pattern in their hearts. And this requires parents to set a correct example for their children through their words and deeds in their daily lives. Through precepts and deeds, children are given correct guidance. Parents’ views and patterns are the most valuable resources for children. In short, children\’s understanding of rules goes through a perceptual process, and 3-6 years old is the best time to establish rules. When parents set rules for their children, they should not be too \”authoritarian\” sometimes. Some rules can be discussed and discussed with the children. The key to setting rules is to implement them. Parents should adhere to the principle of gentleness and firmness, and do not compromise and change easily. I believe that in the near future, children willYou must be able to become a person who abides by the rules, understands the rules, has light in his eyes, and has a pattern in his heart.