These 4 bad habits of parents are most likely to spoil their children. It’s not too late to change them now

Yu Minhong once gave a very vivid example in a family education lecture: The family is a copy machine, the parents are the originals, and the children are the copies. If there is a problem with the copy, then we must go back to the original to find the problem. In daily life, every word and deed of parents subtly affects their children. Parents must first set a good example for what they want their children to be like. Many of the habits of parents will be imitated by their children. The teacher would like to remind parents to pay attention to the following four bad habits, so that they can be corrected early! I always like to say that everyone has a comparison mentality among other people’s children, and the competition between children is also the competition between parents. Many parents talk about \”other people\’s children\”. Such comparisons will not only cause psychological gaps for themselves, but will also be full of resentment towards their own children. This ultimately leads to excessive harshness and harshness in educating children. Children receive more criticism than affirmation and become less and less confident. Suggestion: Everyone’s family, parents’ education methods, and personal learning abilities are different, so parents do not need to hold their children to the standards of other people’s children. Every child has his or her own strengths. Only by providing solid support and affirming their children\’s efforts can parents cultivate optimistic and confident children. Instead of always focusing on the excellence of other people\’s children, it is better to work with your children to become outstanding. Doting on your children too much is not love, but \”ruining\” your children. Many parents love their children so much that they are reluctant to let them do housework and wash clothes. Taking care of everything, being accommodating and obedient. This actually deprives children of hands-on opportunities and eliminates the opportunity to develop self-reliance. In the future, when entering university and entering society, it will be difficult to be independent and even more difficult to adapt to collective life. Pampering your children too much will also make them learn to evade the responsibilities they should bear, making them indifferent to right and wrong. Suggestion: People always have to learn to grow up on their own. Every adult was once a child who struggled over time. At a certain age, start cultivating children\’s hands-on skills, allowing them to participate in housework, and develop a sense of responsibility. Let your children do their own laundry and tidy up their room, and understand the importance of independence. Let your children go through the training themselves, and then they will understand that only by giving can you gain something. Otherwise he will just be a lazy kid who is ungrateful. Procrastination, no sense of time Procrastination occurs in both adults and children, but children have a simple concept of time, let alone time management. Parents procrastinate in doing things, such as going to bed late and getting up late, not cooking on time, leaving the clothes for the day to be washed the next day, etc. These little habits will attract children to follow suit, making them even less aware of time and gradually developing the habit of procrastinating. Suggestion: Parents should form a style of doing things today, instill a sense of time in their children from an early age, and make them aware of the importance of time. You must have a plan when doing things and be strict with yourself. Arguing in front of children The best education parents can give their children is to love each other between husband and wife. In the eyes of children, parents are solid support and family is a warm harbor. Only a loving family can make children\’s hearts full of love, sunshine and confidence. Some parents quarrel in front of their children and even use their children as a punching bag. In front of their children, the couple looked at each other coldly.The bad words add up. Children who grow up in this kind of atmosphere will either be extremely insecure or learn from their parents to use violence to solve problems. Children will also learn from their parents to find fault with others, not face up to their own mistakes, and choose to use extreme methods to solve problems. Suggestion: Everything will be prosperous if your family is harmonious, and there will be no obstacles that cannot be overcome. The quarrels between husband and wife are beyond the control of children, but they are the ones that hurt them the most. When encountering problems, try to communicate and solve them. Do not use vulgar language or abuse in front of your children or use violence to solve problems. After couples quarrel, they should also provide psychological counseling to their children, tell them the whole story, and teach them how to deal with problems. Let the child know that his parents\’ love for him will only increase. Educating children is a lifelong career for parents. Only by doing a good job in family education and being a good role model can children truly win at the starting line!