These 6 behaviors of parents will make your children hate you in the future

My daughter was very happy to go back to her hometown for the Spring Festival and she could do whatever she wanted. She usually carries it with her and occasionally buys her a drink. When she gets home, her grandfather buys her a box of Sprite. At every meal, her grandfather pours wine and she pours Sprite. I have the intention to stop it, but one is to celebrate the New Year, and the other is the old man\’s wishes. I thought to myself, let\’s talk about it when we get back. But the child didn\’t know that Xiao Jiujiu in his mother\’s heart was becoming more and more lawless under the protection of his grandparents. That day, she decided not to eat. It was fine not to eat. She also drank Sprite on an empty stomach. Everyone else said just drink, but I was the only one who stopped her. You can drink, but you must eat. The two were in a stalemate for several minutes, and she suddenly said: \”Who asked you to come back? Never come back again. Just leave.\” Her harsh words did not scare me. In the end, she compromised and ate first, then drank Sprite. . Reflect on the child\’s behavior. His needs are not met, his mood is not good, and he relies on harsh words to vent his anger. I usually say that drinking too much is not good and I should drink less. But when I see someone supporting me, I immediately become domineering and unreasonable. If you think about it carefully, many of the behaviors of children are not born this way, but are caused by the way adults educate them. In the process of growing up with their children, parents should reflect on whether they have these behaviors. If they are not handled properly, they will regret it in the future and their children will blame you. There is nothing wrong with being overly spoiled. Moderate spoiling can also enhance a child\’s sense of security and enrich a child\’s emotional intelligence. However, excessive spoiling often has the opposite effect. Children who are overly spoiled are prone to be domineering and selfish. While riding the bus, I saw an old man picking up his grandson from school. The old man is over sixty years old with gray hair, and the little boy is eight or nine years old. After getting on the bus, there were no empty seats and the two of them stood. Sun Tzu said: \”Why are there not even any seats? I\’m so exhausted.\” A passenger saw that the old man was old and stood up to give up his seat. The old man said thank you. The grandson saw that he had a seat and sat down. The old man was still standing, carrying his grandson\’s big schoolbag, until he got off the bus. Children think it should be done, and so do the elderly. I just don’t know if this grandson will know how to feel sorry for the old man when he grows up. Overprotective hens love their chicks, this is their instinct. It is also instinct for parents to love and protect their children. However, you should not be overprotective, which will make your children unable to let go and lose their self-confidence. My daughter has a classmate who is picked up and dropped off by her mother every day. Although she is tall, she is timid about what she does. Occasionally, I saw my mother playing with her on the playground. The child is about to go up the slide, and the mother quickly runs over to hold her back. This one is too high, we can\’t go up. Come on, let\’s go up to this small one. The child wants to play on the swing, but the mother doesn\’t allow it, saying what to do if he falls. You can go up if you want, I\’ll support you. This is not allowed, and that is not allowed. Children can only do certain things under the protection of their parents. Without their parents, children do not know how to do it. Everyone complains about mommy boys, no matter how old they are, they always ask their mothers if they want anything. Their behavior has something to do with their parents\’ overprotectiveness. Excessive coercion In the eyes of many parents, the child is not an independent individual, but an accessory of themselves. Why do you say this? Because parents do not know how to respect their children. They feel that children are young and ignorant and should do everything according to their own wishes. Even if they don\’t get married or have children, parents still want their children to be bornAccording to one\’s own wishes, no matter whether the child wants to get married or not, or has found a suitable one, for parents, getting married is the most important thing. If you don\’t get married, your parents will lose face. If you don\’t get married, you will go against your parents. Such parents often force their children to do things they don\’t like when they are young. \”You have to do whatever you want\” is what parents say. Some children are obedient on the surface but passively resistant behind the scenes. Seriously, whatever the parents say, the children will do whatever they say. Giving children the necessary autonomy is a compulsory course for parents. Fully delegating power will not lose the authority of the parents, but will also make the children respect their parents. Over-indulgence in some of my daughter’s abnormal behaviors during the Spring Festival reflects the consequences of our usual indulgence of her. During the Spring Festival, it is just a general outburst. As parents, we feel guilty about her. We always feel that we don\’t spend enough time with her. We try to meet some of her requirements. Sometimes we cannot meet her requirements and she acts mischievously, but we don\’t take it to heart and do nothing to stop her. As time went by, she also used being mean as a magic weapon. She could get what she wanted as long as she showed off her temper. Her bad temper is not something she is born with, it is something that has developed over a long period of time with our acquiescence. We should reflect on this carefully. Although it seems that even if you have a bad temper now, it will not cause major problems, it will still have a certain impact on the child\’s growth. Children from relatives who are overly arrogant cannot use chopsticks when they are 5 years old. They have to rely on teachers for half a year in kindergarten and need help with dressing and eating. His parents said that since he was a child, others have done everything for him. We think that this child will naturally be able to do it when he gets older. But when the child reached the age of 10, his self-care ability was still worse than that of other children of the same age. He was ridiculed by his classmates at school, and he lost his temper with his parents when he returned home. Only then did the parents realize that they were wrong. In the eyes of adults, children are still young and cannot do many things well. What to do if they cannot do well? Of course, adults will do it for them. This can save time and reduce mistakes. Adults take it for granted that this is for the good of the children, but do not think of the consequences. Some parents who are overly picky have very high expectations for their children. Once their children\’s behavior does not meet their expectations, they will make some negative comments about their children. \”Why are you so stupid?\” \”Look at that so-and-so in your class.\” \”You don\’t follow me at all.\” Parents think that saying this is to urge their children to make progress, but they ignore that children also have self-esteem and self-confidence, and they have not been recognized by their parents for a long time. , children will slowly deny themselves and develop an inferiority complex. I feel more and more that educating children is a delicate job. As they grow up, you have to battle wits and courage with them, level up and fight monsters, and constantly improve your own skills in order to have the upper hand. A child is an independent individual with feelings and thoughts. What parents should do is to supervise and guide, rather than making decisions and choices for their children. With the help of their parents, they can cultivate their skills and have the ability to settle down in the future society. This is the best gift their parents can give them.