Consultation case: This time the visitor is a young man. He said: \”I am experienced in relationships. I have been in love five times and am currently experiencing difficulties. At the beginning of each relationship, I loved the other person very much. , however, as time goes by, I always find a problem with my partner – being too strong, which brings huge pressure to me, and ultimately leads me to choose to end the relationship. \”The counselor is not allowed to be strong five times in a row. There is no doubt that this is a subconscious choice on the part of the man. By analyzing the man\’s family background, the counselor found that the man\’s mother also had a strong personality, and many of his decisions were controlled by his mother, regardless of his own wishes. Over time, this relationship pattern has become deeply rooted in his life. He is both addicted to such \”love\” and trying to get rid of this control. It can be observed from this consultation case that the mother\’s parenting style has a profound impact on the child\’s personality formation, and may even lead to the child\’s lifelong psychological disorders. Psychologists point out that mothers with these six personalities may cause long-term psychological damage to their children and even produce psychological defects. 1. Controlling mothers. Mothers of this type usually believe that as long as they satisfy their children materially, they have fulfilled their maternal responsibilities. They often arrange their children\’s future and often say to their children: \”I am doing this all for your own good.\” Such mothers rarely consider their children\’s true feelings and often do not understand their children\’s real needs. Children who grow up in such an environment usually strive to meet their mother\’s expectations and hope to gain her mother\’s recognition and praise. But these children often have difficulty recognizing whether their emotional needs are legitimate and whether they are worthy of love. 2. Show off mother This kind of mother is usually a perfectionist and has superior conditions. They are accustomed to being praised in front of others, pay great attention to their social image, and always want everything to appear perfect. Therefore, their children often become tools to maintain this image. They have very strict requirements for their children, such as excellent grades and versatility, regardless of whether the children want it or not. The reason why such mothers are strict with their children is just to show themselves to outsiders. In essence, they are very selfish and do not really consider the feelings and needs of their children. 3. Intrusive mothers: This type of mother puts great pressure on their children and likes to get involved in all their children\’s affairs. They even invade their children\’s private lives and hardly give them any private space. Their continued disregard for their children\’s boundaries results in their children\’s diminishing sense of self-identity. This kind of continuous intervention from childhood to adulthood makes it difficult for children to lack personal space and develop independent personality and complete self-awareness. 4. Mothers with role confusion type usually lack the due sense of responsibility and rarely give their children the necessary care and support. Instead, they regard their children as the labor force of the family. This situation is often seen in families with multiple children, where the older children have to take on household responsibilities from an early age, take care of younger siblings, and even provide financial support for their younger siblings so that they can receive an education. Children who grow up in such a family environment often show excessive catering to others in interpersonal interactions and tend to ignore their own needs.It is difficult to find true happiness and satisfaction in life. 5. Emotionally unstable mothers. This type of mother often has a changeable attitude towards their children. Sometimes they praise enthusiastically, sometimes they criticize harshly, and sometimes they appear very cold. Therefore, the child needs to be extremely careful in getting along with the mother, constantly trying and exploring how to win the mother\’s love. Over time, this unstable parent-child relationship can weaken children\’s ability to self-evaluate, making it difficult for them to judge which actions are correct. This kind of mother\’s emotional instability can easily cause the child to feel insecure, and then start to question his or her own value, forming a severe sense of inferiority. 6. Angry Migration Mother In life, some mothers who are divorced or resentful of their spouses tend to transfer their anger to their children when they are emotional, and sometimes even use violence. Children who grow up in this environment often lack a sense of security, easily feel that they are not loved, and find it difficult to establish a sense of trust. This type of mother\’s behavior not only has a serious impact on the child\’s emotional development, but also threatens the child\’s physical and mental health. Mothers\’ different parenting styles have a significant impact on children\’s psychological and emotional growth, which may lead to various psychological disorders in children as they grow. These problems, if not recognized and dealt with promptly, can affect a child\’s entire life.
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