These are the three mortal enemies of children! Cure your child’s procrastination quickly

A few days ago, Dora\’s mother just opened the backend and met \”Junjun\’s mother\” in the message area – a mother who was tormented by her child\’s rubbing problem and was about to go \”crazy\”. She coded a huge article with good intentions. Huge message… Junjun\’s mother said that her child is getting more and more naughty now, and parent-child conflicts are about to break out! I have been beaten and scolded, but I really have no choice in dealing with such a little guy, but I really want to get rid of this bad habit in my child! I can understand Junjun’s mother’s anxiety. Dilly-dallying and procrastination are the biggest enemies of learning. And many children are still in the heat of dillydallying. Now, using Junjun’s case as the object of analysis, combined with the situation of most children who are dawdling, let’s seriously discuss where the source of children’s dawdling comes from? How should parents respond? Lack of concentration. Many parents believe that their children’s dilly-dallying is mostly caused by “playfulness”. As everyone knows, in the final analysis, it is because the child does not have the habit of focusing! This is also the main culprit of lack of concentration – causing children to become dawdling! Junjun’s mother said that her child has difficulty concentrating in class and often looks around or makes small movements or skips work. When no one is supervising, his learning efficiency is extremely low. He cannot remember the homework assigned by the teacher. He often loses everything. The quality of his homework varies. ; There are many carelessness and mistakes… Junjun’s mother also talked about this phenomenon a lot. However, we conclude that it is all because of children’s lack of concentration! Many children do not have enough concentration so they procrastinate, which affects their learning efficiency. This is also the main reason for poor performance. Reduce children\’s distraction and improve concentration: 1. Organize a quiet environment and an independent space to eliminate noise interference. Parents should not interrupt their children when they are concentrating on studying or playing. The child concentrates on doing one thing well for a period of time. 2. Parents can read, build blocks, play Sudoku games with their children, or ask their children to help pick up small things, ranging from one to several items, and require the children to complete it in one go. For example: help with a bunch of grapes, a fruit plate, a pack of tissues, etc. 3. Teach your children to try the “5 More” rule. When your child wants to give up, tell yourself: I can hold on for five more minutes. After completing these five minutes, start a new round of five minutes. In this way, children\’s older learning goals can also be completed within such multiple consecutive five minutes. 4. In terms of diet, candies, caffeinated drinks, or foods mixed with artificial colors, additives, and preservatives will stimulate children\’s emotions, affect concentration, and cause dilly-dallying. Be sure to eat less! 5. Another way to improve concentration and reduce distraction is to exercise, such as playing badminton or basketball. Studies have found that when exercise reaches a certain level, the brain will automatically secrete dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine. These neurotransmitters are related to learning and memory. Therefore, children can focus on learning and have better memory effects after exercising. I have no sense of time. When I was interacting with Junjun’s mother, I was still trying to find out more information, so I asked her, how is the child’s awareness of time management? Junjun’s mother said that her children have no sense of time at all and always feel that time can never be spent. When doing homework, focus on it for three minutes, copying words for a while, and doing a few words for a while.Mathematics problems are constantly changing, and they can do whatever they want, but they seem to have no idea how to arrange time… In fact, children\’s brain development is not very comprehensive. They have no sense of time, no time management, and no ability to distinguish between learning and entertainment. Clear, not understanding the order of doing things, being restless and dilly-dallying. If you want to reduce friction, you must start with time management: 1. Guide children to find the time period when learning is most efficient. If the child feels that the ideas are clearest and faster when writing at night, then encourage the child to write at night; if the child feels that he is most inspired when reciting mathematical formulas in the morning, then support him; if the child feels that writing in the afternoon is the most inspirational, then support him. When it comes to sorting out English grammar knowledge points, it is the most efficient, so just trust him. Focus does not mean that children can keep their brains spinning like a top during all their learning time and continue learning without stopping. There will be times when your child gets sleepy and needs a break, but it\’s important that you let your child figure out when he learns most efficiently and then encourage him to take advantage of it. 2. Roughly determine the learning tasks to be completed in a day. Studying task cards will help children reduce dilly-dallying. Parents can prepare a small notebook for their children to plan and record learning activities for a day, a week or even longer. When children express the learning tasks they are thinking about in their minds in the form of words, they will see it more clearly and have a greater sense of purpose for what they have to do every day. Encourage children to complete an item and mark it in time. Children must be supervised to complete learning tasks such as homework and summary of wrong questions, and do them solidly. 3. The speed measurement method allows children to feel \”I can be fast\”. Parents can help their children record how many math questions they can complete in a unit of time (such as half an hour or a quarter of an hour), how many English words they can memorize or how many Chinese words they can memorize, etc., and then estimate based on this speed. Approximately how long does it take for the child to complete all the homework. The speed measurement method can stimulate children\’s motivation to learn, allowing children to realize that they can complete learning tasks quickly, and their self-confidence is significantly improved. 4. Decompose tasks and emphasize the coordinated operation of multiple organs. Your child\’s homework involves several subjects. Parents should inform their children of the need to break down tasks and manage goals. Which homework to start with first is a question worth thinking about. Generally speaking, it should be judged based on factors such as the child\’s current learning status and mastery of knowledge. Assignments that require in-depth thinking should be completed first when the mind is clear; less difficult assignments such as copying words can be completed later. In addition, children should also know the new knowledge points learned in each course and to what extent they have learned them. 5. There is another tip, which talks about the coordinated operation of multiple organs. For example, when reading, be more diligent with your hands, take study notes while reading, or read aloud while reading, etc. Multiple organs are involved in the same learning activity at the same time, providing more intense stimulation to the cerebral cortex, reducing friction and improving efficiency. Resistance is causing trouble Junjun’s mother said that she used to think that her children could do their homework quickly and could have extra time to study! Junjun’s mother always attaches great importance to her children’s learning and will also add some extension activities to her children.Questions to exercise thinking. But now I am so worried, hey, not to mention extended studies, even normal homework has to be done in the middle of the night! I asked him why he had to do it so late, and every time he complained about too much homework! Also, every time after finishing homework, the child will always say: Mom, I have finished the homework you asked for. You can pack my schoolbag for me… At this point, I found that Junjun’s mother’s child has developed an interest in learning. Resistance may not be as heavy as the children say, and dilly-dallying is a method used by children to resist. If the child does this, it shows from the side that the child lacks a sense of responsibility for learning and mistakenly thinks that he is learning for his parents. In addition, it should be noted that the amount of homework assigned by parents should be moderate. Do not be greedy for too much, do not take too long, and do not be too difficult. Otherwise, it will cause children to be tired of learning and dilly-dally. To reduce children\’s dilly-dallying, it is necessary to cultivate children\’s sense of learning responsibility. Responsibility is the most precious seed in the world. If it is sown in children\’s hearts early, they will reap a lifetime of happiness. ——Bacon This shows the great significance of responsibility to life. For children who are still in the student stage, there is no doubt that cultivating a sense of responsibility for learning is a top priority: 1. Parents should use democratic education methods to clarify the equal status of children and parents, as well as the current division of labor, such as : Parents are responsible for making money to support the family; children are responsible for studying well; family members are responsible for different housework matters. 2. Let children deeply understand that they are responsible for their own learning. Things such as packing stationery and school bags must be done independently. You are responsible for your own learning situation and encourage your children to finish things from beginning to end. Even if you are punished for making lots of mistakes in homework or not being satisfactory in exams, parents should support them. 3. Parents should tell their children that learning is never easy, and foreign countries are no exception. During the student stage, studying hard, mastering knowledge, and improving skills is to prepare for future life. 4. Parents should use thoughtful words instead of commands or urgings to give their children the freedom and space to grow. Thinking words let children know how to learn, which is far more effective than forced learning, and the phenomenon of choosing to resist parents by dilly-dallying will disappear. Educating children is not something that can be accomplished overnight: Prioritize clearly, and habit cultivation should be given top priority; dilly-dallying is common, and the reasons and methods are the key! Dear parents and friends, when you see your child struggling, don’t criticize your child, think more about the subjective and objective reasons for your child’s poor performance; think about whether you are qualified to be your child’s role model. Once you understand it, educate yourself!