These five types of parents often stand behind children who grow up to be successful.

Today\’s parents are willing to spend a lot of money on education for the sake of their children\’s learning. Buying a house in an expensive school district, enrolling in various interest classes, sending their children to various tutoring classes, etc.; as long as it is helpful to their children\’s education, parents are willing to spend more money. But with these efforts, will the children really become better in the future? Over the years as a teacher, I have come into contact with many parents and children. After observing for a long time, I found that although each family has different educational concepts and methods, the parents behind those children who grow up to be promising often have these five characteristics. Are you willing to spend time with your children and let you spend 30 minutes with them every day? Can you do it? I think many parents can do this. But are these 30 minutes quality companionship? I think a lot of parents may not be able to do that. What is high-quality companionship? CCTV recommends over 500 excellent documentaries with high scores. Children will become addicted to self-discipline after watching them. The so-called high-quality companionship means that when accompanying their children, parents interact with their children wholeheartedly, without distractions, thinking about work, or Absent-minded. I have always agreed with one sentence: High-quality companionship is a kind of pleasant and harmonious two-way communication. While children become confident and independent, parents will also gain pleasure and growth from it. There was an issue of \”Youth Talk\” called \”Are mobile phones the children of parents?\” There was a little boy named Ye Zijian, who was in fifth grade this year. As soon as he came to the rooftop, he started complaining about his parents\’ love of playing with mobile phones. He said: \”When we were young, you used mobile phones to stabilize us for a moment of peace. When we grew up and were addicted to mobile phones, you started to complain again that it was the mobile phones that delayed us. But have you ever thought about it, adults? When we were young, who put mobile phones in our hands? Who gave up on my care and companionship.\” If you observe carefully, many parents in life throw away their mobile phones in order to make their children obedient and not noisy. Give it to your children and take some time off for yourself. There are also some parents who, when accompanying their children, casually cater to their children with \”ok\” and \”um\” while keeping their eyes on their mobile phones and are not on the same channel as their children at all. In fact, these so-called companionships are ineffective and have no positive effect on the growth of children. The true \”accompanying\” is not just being with the child, but being good at discovering the shining point of the child when accompanying the child; and cultivating the shining point of the child with a \”loving heart and actions\” based on the child\’s personal strengths. . Of course, companionship does not require us to stay with our children all the time, but to be able to respond to our children when they need you. Those parents who provide high-quality companionship spend their entire lives with their children, their eyes are observing their children, their brains are thinking about their children\’s behavior, and their hearts are understanding their children\’s feelings. Any parents who accompany their children seriously and effectively can quickly know the state of their children\’s thoughts and emotions, even through a single movement or look. If a child is a seedling, then the attentive company of parents is the nourishment, sunshine and rain for growth, nourishing the child to grow into a towering tree. Psychologist Wu Zhihong, who is emotionally stable and very patient with children, said:\”Children are the receivers of parents\’ emotions. When parents are uneasy, children will immediately become alert; when parents relax, children will immediately feel happy.\” Not yelling or yelling is a practice for every parent. As parents, our biggest mistake is to give our worst temper and worst side to the people closest to us, while leaving our patience and tolerance to strangers. [Children\’s Bedtime Stories] Collector\’s Edition of 300 Classic Philosophical Stories As a teacher and mother, for a long time, I used to think that children \”cannot become talented unless they are beaten or scolded.\” If you patiently reason with your child, even if you say it a hundred times, it won\’t be as effective as a scolding. But after I learned a lot about parenting, I finally understood why she said, \”Rewards and punishments are tools used to mentally enslave others. This will only induce children to make unnatural efforts.\” Rewards and punishments are good for children. It will only hinder their natural development, and the effect on children will only be short-lived and will not last long. When we educate our children by yelling, punishing, etc., we must remember that this is not educating our children, but just venting our dissatisfaction with our children. As parents, how to control our emotions is a lesson we must learn. A good way to control your emotions is to calm down and give yourself 3 minutes to wait. In order to avoid causing greater conflicts with your children, when you feel that you are about to lose control of your temper, you can temporarily stay away from your children and stay alone for 3 minutes to calm down first. Take a deep breath, listen to music, or enjoy the scenery in the distance. In short, do something to distract yourself. Wait until the mood is completely better before communicating with the child. Know how to praise children appropriately. When we get along with children on a daily basis, we always focus on discovering the shortcomings of the child, but often ignore the advantages of the child. This is the most common mistake many parents make when raising children. Children\’s growth needs the \”love\” encouragement and praise of their parents, just like the growth of plants needs water, sunshine and soil. Parents’ sincere encouragement and praise from the heart can nourish their children’s hearts. Sometimes, a kind word of encouragement can change a person\’s life. When Taiwanese writer Lin Qingxuan was a reporter, he once reported news about a thief. His crime methods were very delicate. At the end of the article, he couldn\’t help but sigh: A thief with such a meticulous mind, such a deft approach, and such a unique style should be successful in any profession. What Lin Qingxuan never thought was that these few words he wrote unintentionally would affect a young man\’s life. After the thief saw the report about himself, he seemed to be awakened and changed his ways. A kind reminder, an encouraging look, these simple actions may greatly encourage a helpless person. To change a person, sometimes just one sentence is enough. The power of affirmation is so powerful. If parents can guide this power to their children, look for their children\’s strengths with appreciation, encourage them, and praise them, you will find that their children will really get better and better. Mark Twain once said: “A word of praise canLet me live to the fullest for two months. \”Every bit of progress a child makes is worthy of joy, and we are always generous in praising our children. However, not all praise is appropriate. Praising or encouraging children correctly is a technical job. How to praise children? Don\’t give general praise, such as you are awesome, you are so smart, etc.; praise your children must be specific and pay attention to the process of the child\’s efforts, so that the children know what is the best in them; let the children understand that the process of hard work is more important than the results. Children Throughout their lives, children are more or less seeking affirmation and recognition from their parents. If they receive praise, respect and recognition, they will be very happy to show their parents how outstanding they are with actions. Li Meijin, a psychologist who sets rules for children in a timely manner The professor once said in \”The Round Table\”: \”Before the age of 6, parents\’ words are gold, but after the age of 12, parents\’ words are garbage. \”In short, parents must discipline their children as early as possible. If they don\’t care when they are young, they will lose control when they grow up. This requires parents to set rules for their children in time at the age when they should set rules. So at what age should you set rules for your children? Which rules are best? Children will go through a \”sensitive period of self-awareness\” when they are 2-3 years old. Children have their own ideas and want to try everything by themselves. If they want to eat by themselves, they will also want to eat when they see adults sweeping or mopping the floor. Go try it; when you see adults cooking and cooking, he has to do it himself. If we carefully review the growth of children, we will find that children of this age do not like to be arranged, but like to do it themselves and experience it. Therefore, The period between 3 and 6 years old is also the best age to set rules for children. Create an environment suitable for children to have hands-on experience, and let them try and explore. When parents set rules for their children, they must use positive Only 2-5 rules are needed for the words and sentences, which should be in line with the child\’s age and ability. Set a good example of self-discipline for your children. Parents are their children\’s role models. What kind of person you want your child to become in the future, you must first strive to be yourself. People. If you want your children to love reading, then you should pick up books yourself and create a family atmosphere full of bookishness for your children. A studious and motivated family will most likely raise a child who pursues knowledge and loves learning. This kind of \”moisturizing things silently\” family influence is difficult to compare with other forms of education. Mr. Yang Jiang, a famous writer and translator, once said: \”I myself was influenced by my parents and turned from being naughty to studious. \”There are many books in Yang Jiang\’s father\’s study. No matter what book, Yang Jiang flips through it and takes a look. His father is doing his own research in the study, and Yang Jiang is reading quietly. When his father moisturizes everything, he Under the silent influence, no matter where or when Yang Jiang encounters a good book, she can\’t help but pick it up and read it. She can\’t let go of the book and is addicted to books. The reason why Mr. Yang Jiang can become a teacher is not only her personal diligence In addition to the pursuit of ideals, Yang Jiang is also inseparable from the influence of her family. Yang Jiang’s father’s teachings and subtle influence allowed her to learn a wealth of knowledge and principles of life. Her mother’s sincerity, humility and courtesy helped her learn to be indifferent to fame and fortune. , cultivate a peaceful mind. There is a saying that goes well: parents are the original, childrenIt is a copy. If you want to have a self-disciplined child, you must first check whether the original parent is self-disciplined enough. Every word and deed of parents is seen by their children, so parents naturally become their children\’s reference. On the road of self-discipline, parents are the best role models for their children. When you put down your mobile phone, your child will be less interested in it; when you work hard to make progress, your child will be more motivated and move forward courageously. What can penetrate into children\’s hearts is not the grand and grand things parents do, but the subtle influence parents have on their children in daily life. The self-discipline of parents leading by example is the best gift to their children, which can benefit them throughout their lives.