These types of fathers do the most harm to their children

In the eyes of a girl, her father was her support when she was a child and the standard for her future marriage. In the eyes of a boy, his father is his role model when he was a child and the man he wants to be when he grows up. However, in real life, there are always some fathers who ignore the meaning of their own existence and fail to play the role of \”dad\” well, which has a negative impact on the growth of their children. The following is a summary of the different types of dads listed in ascending order of lethality. Is your dad on the list? No. 6 Dads who are overly controlling. Some fathers are too chauvinistic and too controlling. No matter what happens, you have the final say and don\’t respect your children\’s ideas. A father who is too controlling and deprives his children of the opportunity to express themselves and express their opinions will give them a mentality of \”I can\’t do it\”, \”I can\’t do it\”, and \”I\’m not good\”, leading to self-doubt in the child and a cowardly personality. A father who is too controlling will be too majestic, which will invisibly put pressure on his children and have a negative impact on the intimate relationship between father and child. As the child grows, the father will increasingly become a role model and role model for the boy. [Full two seasons] Doctor of Psychology Zhang Yijun\’s mp3 of children\’s emotional intelligence course, teaches you how to raise children with high emotional intelligence. A dictatorial father will form such an impression in the minds of boys: men and fathers are dictators. Thus copying himself into a copy of his father. Suggestion: Dads should learn to let go and give their children the opportunity to express themselves; accept their children and allow them to do what they like at their own pace. In this process, children are allowed to demonstrate their abilities and tap into their potential abilities. No. 5: Dads who never leave their mobile phones. Fathers are busy at work and even busier after work. They lie on the sofa as steady as a rock and never leave their mobile phones. His wife asked him to help with the housework, and the children kept pestering him to play games together. They never raised their eyebrows and refused to move for a long time. You have to take your mobile phone with you when you go to the toilet, and you stay in the toilet for half an hour. In short, mobile phones are closer than children! If a father ignores his child because of his mobile phone, this is undoubtedly a kind of cold violence. The child will feel that his father is perfunctory and naturally will not want to communicate with him. If parent-child communication is hindered, the child will become withdrawn and autistic. Many of the behaviors of children are imitated by their parents. If a father plays with his mobile phone in front of his children all day long, the children will naturally imitate him. Children have poor self-control and are naturally prone to addiction when exposed to mobile phones, which is particularly detrimental to children\’s vision, interpersonal communication and learning. The most important thing is that if a father is obsessed with mobile phones and ignores his children, the children will feel that they are not valued. The children may even feel that their father does not love me anymore and that they are not important without their mobile phones. Under such circumstances, children will become very irritable and even think of ways to confront their parents in order to gain their attention. If parents do not understand the situation and scold their children, the children will feel even more aggrieved, and the parent-child relationship will become estranged. Suggestion: Put down your mobile phone and don’t let your children have the feeling of despair that “the farthest distance in the world is when I am by your side, but you are playing with your mobile phone”. No. 4 Irritated Dad Children are the shadow of their parents. Children learn very well through imitation. If your father has a bad temper and hits or scolds you at every turn,It\’s very likely that the child is the same, or even more so. If the father loses his temper when something goes wrong, then the child will use the same method to vent when he encounters similar situations in the future. Of course, there is another situation, that is, there are two extremes in the personalities of the father and the child. If the father is violent and irritable, the child will develop a humble and cowardly character in fear, becoming less and less active and less talkative, which is not conducive to the establishment of self-confidence. Over a long period of time, the psychological development is not perfect. If the situation is serious, it will cause psychological shadow and even trauma. Suggestion: A father with a bad temper must restrain his emotions and learn to solve problems through communication and patience instead of getting angry at every turn. Conveying positive energy to children is an invaluable asset to their growth. No. 3: The father with no integrity. Before the age of 10, the father was the god in the eyes of his children. The children worship and trust their father from the bottom of their hearts, and every word of their father is like an edict to the children. However, many fathers always use tight time and busy work as excuses for breaking trust with their children, or they directly use coaxing to stall their children, thinking that the children are young, so they just make up any excuse to deal with it. When a child wants to have dinner with his father, his father always answers \”tomorrow\”, but every time \”tomorrow\” comes, there is always a missing set of bowls and chopsticks on the table. The child wants to go to the amusement park with the whole family, and the father promises to \”definitely go there next weekend.\” But every time when the child packs up and sets out in high spirits, the father is always missing. What\’s more important is that the father\’s repeated breach of trust will make the child develop a bad habit of not being trustworthy to others, which will directly affect the child\’s character. Suggestion: Every father should take the promises he makes to his children seriously. If he cannot do so, please do not make them casually. Because of your breach of trust, you not only lost your child\’s trust in you, but also created a sense of panic in your child\’s psychology. Even the most trustworthy father can\’t keep his word. Who else can you trust in this world? No. 2 The Missing Father There has always been a misunderstanding in Chinese families that \”men are the masters of the outside world and women are the masters of the house.\” In family education, the father always acts as the \”hands-off shopkeeper\” and leaves the children to the mother. The father cannot be absent from family education, especially before the child is 12 years old. If the father is not highly involved in the child\’s growth, the boy will easily lack masculinity and become a bit \”girly\”; while the girl will invisibly take on some male roles, like a tomboy. Children are very simple. They think that if my father loves me, he will spend time with me just like my mother loves me. If my father does not often accompany me, that means he does not love me. Suggestion: Dads must be involved in their children’s education and communicate with them at least twice a week to understand the joys and worries in their lives. Sometimes you might as well reduce some unnecessary entertainment, exercise or go out with your family once a week, and increase the opportunities for communication with your children and family. When you are unable to accompany your children, communicate with them frequently through phone calls, WeChat, etc., listen to them, express appreciation and love to them, and let them feel that you are always in your heart. No. 1. The father who makes his mother angry. The best love a father can give his children is to love his children’s mother. In the minds of children, fathers are often powerful and strongsymbol. As the child\’s protector, the father should give the child a safe home, and the child\’s greatest sense of security comes from seeing his parents love each other, especially his father\’s love for his mother. Moreover, the father sets an example of love for his children with his actions. Children can learn from their parents what love is and how to love from an early age. If the father often quarrels with the mother, it will cause fear and emotional instability in the child. If things go on like this, problem behaviors and psychological imbalances are likely to occur. If a child often sees his mother crying sadly, he will try to comfort her with his limited understanding. When the mother\’s mood improves, the children will take it as their responsibility to make the mother happy and assume the role of father in the family. But children do not yet have such mature knowledge and psychological endurance, and various psychological problems will occur. Suggestion: Dad needs to maintain good and close communication with mother, understand the hard work of his wife in raising children and running the family, and express his gratitude and praise to his wife. When children see it, they will naturally feel that their hearts are blooming and live a very happy life. A father who loves his child\’s mother with all his heart will not only make the child feel loved, but also fill the mother\’s heart with happiness. Only such a family will raise healthy and happy children.