This kind of father will eventually destroy a family! No matter how busy you are, you have to take a look

There are too many men in this world who have passed down the family line and have children, but they have never truly received the title of \”Dad\”. The word \”father\” is just a label to them, rather than a solemn promise and a sacred responsibility. And a family without father\’s love is simply an invisible disaster. When Rui\’s mother was in high school, Uncle Liu, who lived in the same courtyard, married another woman – Aunt Luo due to the death of his spouse. Speaking of Aunt Luo, she is really a miserable woman. She was married with three children from three men, and Aunt Luo had no father since she was a child. She had never worked before and had been living on government relief. Aunt Luo has never been idle since she got married. She takes care of the three children every day, as well as the endless housework at home. Everyone praises her for her hard work and ability, saying that Uncle Liu has married a good wife. . But every time he heard this, Uncle Liu felt aggrieved, \”When it comes to being a mother, she is equally good, but when it comes to being a wife, why do I feel that my husband is useless?\” Let\’s learn more about it. You know, usually when the two of them are at home, Uncle Liu wants to help Aunt Luo take care of the children, but Aunt Luo either thinks that Uncle Liu doesn\’t know how to take care of them, or she thinks that he is slow and slow, and in the end, she takes care of three children by herself. Children\’s responsibility. At first, Uncle Liu thought that Aunt Luo had just gotten married and might not have gotten used to the new life yet, and that it would be better after a while. However, he did not expect that a year later, Aunt Luo was still living \”alone\”. 3 The child didn\’t take Uncle Liu seriously at all. Later, an enthusiastic neighbor persuaded Aunt Luo to let her and Uncle Liu take care of the child together, so that the child could be closer to Uncle Liu. But Aunt Luo said: \”I have never received care and education from my father since I was a child, and my mother has raised me very well. I think it doesn\’t matter whether the child has a father or not. My mother can take care of the child well by herself.\” Everyone took a look. Aunt Luo insisted so much that nothing happened. Until a year ago, when I went back to visit relatives, I heard about Uncle Liu and Aunt Luo again. The eldest son among the three children brought by Aunt Luo, after getting married last year and having a child, he still keeps drinking with friends. From time to time, he organizes games and goes to Internet cafes to play games. Sometimes he stays up all night. He has no father at all. look like. After his wife tried to persuade him many times to no avail, she sadly divorced him, took the children away, and left him to live a life of a \”tramp\” alone. As for Aunt Luo\’s second daughter, she just entered her first year of high school this year. She was found to be pregnant a while ago, but she doesn\’t know who the child is, which shows how chaotic her private life is. I heard people say that Uncle Liu, who was very handsome in his early years, has been dragged down by these children and turned into a \”bad old man\”. Thinking about the story of Uncle Liu and Aunt Luo, I really feel that father is too important to a family, and father\’s love is the indispensable spiritual food for the healthy growth of children. Relevant surveys conducted by American child education experts have shown that children who lack father\’s love are prone to the following problems: 90% of all homeless and runaway children come from families without fathers; those who have dropped out of middle school 71% of teenagers come from families without fathers; 63% of teenagers who commit suicide come from families without fathers.Family; 72% of teen murderers grew up without a father; Teenagers without fathers are twice as likely to be involved in early sexual intercourse as their peers with fathers; 7 times more likely to become pregnant as teenage girls than those with fathers peer. The fact is obvious, children who lack father\’s love are more likely to have problems! In the \”Where Are We Going, Dad\” column that is popular in China, dads accompany their children on trips; but in real life, dads seem to be starring in the real \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”: You have to work overtime at night, come back later, don\’t have to wait for me. ; You have an appointment with friends to play ball on the weekend, so go out with your child for a walk; when you come home, you will be paralyzed. You will play with your mobile phone on the sofa until you go to bed, and you will not play with your child for a while… If the mother complains: \”I am almost exhausted. Now, can\’t you help me?\” People have 100 reasons waiting for you: \”Do you know how tired I am from working outside to make money all day long? Why don\’t you help me?\” \”Men don\’t know how to take care of children. I\’m afraid I won\’t be able to carry you and make you angry.\”…What kind of excuse is that? Don’t women need to make money to support their families? Can’t you learn if you don’t know how to take care of your children? No wonder mothers say that they live like single mothers even though they have a husband. Many Chinese families now have \”widowed parenting\”. A mother takes her children shopping alone, sends her children to school alone, often eats alone, and occasionally sleeps alone… It seems like she lives alone, but she doesn\’t have much time for herself. She has to worry about the whole family every day. I\’m so tired…Where have all the dads gone? Many men whose children seem to be the only mother think that it is natural for \”men to take charge of the outside world and women to take charge of the house\”. Isn\’t it just for their wives and children to make money to support the family? Occasionally, he complains that he is too tired from work and that his wife does not know how to care about him. Such a father, do you know there is such a position in the world? You have to be on call at all times, there are no holidays throughout the year, and you have to comfort others when they lose their temper. You also need to know finance, medicine, housekeeping and even more. You often have to stay up late. The most important thing is that there is no salary… This position is that of a mother… Think about it, if you work for others in a company, how much salary does your boss give you? It\’s enough to do as much work as you want; but where\’s mom? She is \”working\” for this family. For the sake of her children and this family, she will only do more and more, and no matter how much she contributes, she feels that it is not enough. This is an endless workload, and there is quite a feeling of \”the candle turns to ashes and the tears begin\” \”Dry\” feeling. So, when men complain about high work pressure, they should think more about their wives. Her workload may be more than 10 times that of yours. If you have nothing to do, help your wife with housework and take care of the children, because the home is the home of the two of you, and the children are the children of the two of you. This is your responsibility and obligation. We usually always say that so-and-so \”fights to fight for his father\”. In fact, to a certain extent, real education is to fight for his father. Men should not use being busy as an excuse to avoid taking care of their children. The so-called success is just having time to spend with your children. I hope all men can treat their role as fathers as a career.