This road can lead children to nobility

When choosing a house, because my children are relatively small, I prefer to choose a community with a children\’s play area, with slides, seesaws and other facilities. If I can\’t take my children out to play, I can still have fun in the community. Therefore, every time my agent takes me to view a house, I will walk around the community. The place where I spend the longest time is the recreation area. First, I can chat with people in the community and learn about the property, community safety, etc.; It’s to feel the overall atmosphere of the community. In addition to residents of this community, residents from other places also come to play with their children in the play area. Once, I met a grandma taking her little granddaughter to play on the slide. The little girl looked like three or four years old. When she saw other children coming out of the gated unit, she said longingly: \”Grandma, grandma, I do too. I want to live in a house where I can swipe my credit card, have a big garden, play in the sand, and drill holes!\” When grandma heard this, she turned on Tang Monk Mode without thinking: \”Oh my ancestors, how can we afford this house? It\’s just your dad and you. With Mom\’s small salary, you can\’t afford a house in Beijing without food or drink for the rest of your life. It\’s already good enough to support you in kindergarten…\” The little girl was very disappointed. She already had self-esteem and looked around, with red circles under her eyes. , curled his lips and wanted to cry but didn\’t. She stayed on the slide for about tens of seconds. After sliding down, she said to her grandma: \”Let\’s go.\” At that moment, I felt very sorry for that little girl. She was innocent and had beautiful dreams, hoping that she could become a resident. The little princess in the new house was given a slap in the face by her grandma, and her longing for life was cut off. How I wish my grandma would say: \”Okay, go back and tell mom and dad to let them work hard so that we can live in a good house like this as soon as possible.\” In this way, we not only protect the beauty of the child, but also plant hard work in her heart There are seeds that may make your wishes come true. The most common words in life that make children extremely frustrated are these – how can we buy it; how can we afford it; how can we compare with theirs; you shouldn\’t want this thing, knowing this How much of your parents’ salary will it cost? They are like sharp swords that prevent children from making their own demands, kill their expectations for the future, and imprison them in the porridge and rice in front of them. Some people may say that happiness is piled up with money. Without money, how can we talk about happiness? To be honest, happiness is not necessarily related to money. When buying new year’s goods before the Chinese New Year, ordinary cherries in supermarkets cost 70 to 80 yuan per pound. They are relatively luxurious fruits for ordinary Chinese families. When our family of three passed the cherries aisle, a little boy was staying there. He didn’t cry or make a fuss. He just repeated to the couple next to him: “Mom, Dad, I’ve never eaten this kind of fruit.” Here.\” The couple looked at each other, a little embarrassed. But after hesitating for a moment, my father took a deep breath and said, \”If you haven\’t eaten it yet, let\’s buy two kilograms to try. If dad applies for one-day shift in the second grade of junior high school, he can buy five or six kilograms!\” Turning his head, dad weighed a pack. Putting the beef back on the counter, my mother whispered: \”That\’s your favorite sauce beef!\” My father\’s answer touched me very much: \”It\’s okay if I eat less. It\’s not like I haven\’t eaten it before. Children need to be more experienced. After eating it, he may feel that it isWell, maybe he would like to eat it more, but we can’t stop him from wanting to try it, right? \”The \”thought of wanting to try\” in this father\’s mouth is the child\’s yearning for a kind of thing or a kind of life. This yearning is largely the driving force for making life better. When I was in middle school, my sister\’s neighbor was a The tenant, the husband of the tenant is in jail for unknown reasons. The tenant is studying in the county with his two children. The eldest is in the second grade and the second is in preschool. There is no help from the elderly. The tenant is alone inside and outside. And no Talking about the fact that my husband is in jail, just saying that taking care of two children alone makes me extremely tired every day. But the tenant has a bright smile on his face every day, and takes his two children to a restaurant every weekend. The two children They also have good personalities. Someone teased them with malicious intentions and asked why their father was not at home all day. The children answered in unison: \”My father went to the south to make money!\” \”Two years later, the tenant\’s husband came home, and the whole family moved to their home in the south. Before leaving, I said goodbye to my sister. First, I thanked my sister for taking care of her in the past few years, and second, I asked my sister if she needed some furniture from her home. My sister said Asked why she wanted to leave her hometown, she smiled and said: \”The children are still young, so we can\’t let them be bullied too early because of adults. My eldest son has always said that he will be a policeman when he grows up. If someone says something unpleasant, the child will be worried.\” Feeling uncomfortable? \”Although I have never contacted this neighbor since then, with such a good mother who can make good out of a bad hand, their life will definitely not be bad. When I was a child, for beautiful things, the small village where I lived was Repulsive, at least on the surface. If your daughter has her hair permed or wears high heels, she will be pointed at and said to be \”foreign\”, a derogatory term that means stinky. If it goes too far, there will be moral kidnapping. , I muttered that my parents still wore patched clothes, so the younger generation took the lead. Growing up, I accepted the idea that girls’ love for beauty would affect their studies, so I started growing my hair long after I graduated from college. The most terrible thing is that for a long time I felt that I \”shouldn\’t and don\’t deserve to have beautiful things\”: I only bought clothes at discounts, and I didn\’t know what style suited me for a long time; I only had to eat enough to satisfy my hunger. , the environment of the restaurant does not matter; the things at home are only useful and will be thrown away after they are worn out… This mentality of \”not worthy of having good things\” slowly changed after meeting several friends who pay attention to the quality of life. Later, I had classmate Zhe , and I want to give him all the good things I can. A friend has been working for more than ten years and basically keeps struggling. When asked why she rarely stops, her answer is this: \”We are all ordinary families. It is our destiny for ordinary people to become a struggling generation. Having experienced material poverty, we must at least try to give our children a relatively peaceful living environment so that they can see more beautiful things after being satisfied with basic food and clothing. \”Experience determines a person\’s pattern to a large extent. The more experience, the more calm and open-minded the child will be. Because the child\’s daily experience will be combined into their life; and as parents, we are in a lot of situations. largely determines their experience. So,When children express strong interest in things they have never experienced before, even if we cannot meet their needs at the moment, we must carefully protect their fascinated hearts. It is those small or big wishes that inadvertently broaden the scope of children\’s lives. The breadth of life… Otherwise, even if Dong Qing, who is famous in the circle of friends because of \”Chinese Poetry Conference\”, talks about his childhood when he \”can\’t look in the mirror or wear clothes\”, even if he finally receives an apology from his father, he still feels extremely regretful.