This year’s college entrance examination is approaching, and this mother’s handwritten letter has gone viral

Dear child, as the college entrance examination is getting closer, my mother can feel your anxiety increasing day by day. In recent days, the smile on your face has become less and less, and you are a little panicked when you see the exercises you did wrong. Worried about making mistakes in the exam, you study the questions and memorize them over and over again, and refuse to sleep until late at night. Seeing you like this, my mother is worried about you but also proud of your persistence and seriousness. Today, you told your mother that you woke up from the dream of college entrance examination again last night, and your mother was heartbroken after hearing this. At this moment, looking at your back writing furiously at the desk, I decided to write you a letter. I wanted to share my mother\’s heartfelt words with you. I hope it can bring you strength and accompany you as you grow. Facing the anxiety of the college entrance examination, everyone will have children. You ask your mother, why do you feel anxious when facing the college entrance examination? Is it because you are too fragile? Mom wants to tell you that many people, including mom, worry about gains and losses when facing things that are important to them. This is normal and not your fault. The college entrance examination is the first major event you have encountered in eighteen years. You have studied hard for twelve years for this day. Especially after entering high school, preparing for the college entrance examination has become a crucial thing for you. When you entered the third year of high school, you even reluctantly gave up your favorite painting. Your mother still remembers the moment when you packed away your painting supplies. Although you are reluctant to give up, your eyes are firm. You said that the temporary separation is to pick it up on a bigger stage. Usually, when we give more, we expect to receive greater returns from it. What\’s more, there are many comments around you that \”one test will determine your life.\” Under such circumstances, you feel anxious, but you still study to the best of your ability. Mom sincerely admires you. I believe that you will be able to pass the college entrance examination safely. CCTV recommends over 500 high-scoring excellent documentaries. After watching it, your child will become addicted to self-discipline. Mom also wants to tell you that many times, we misunderstand anxiety and think that anxiety is the enemy of the mind. In fact, it is not the case. You don’t need to be afraid of it, let alone fall into deeper distress over it. Like other emotions, it is a normal psychological expression. In fact, anxiety is a defense mechanism of the brain, and it will try its best to detect potential dangers around us. During the hunting period, our ancestors relied on it to avoid deadly pursuits time and time again. Moderate anxiety is a powerful weapon for us, and we need to make good use of it. The things you are particularly worried about may not necessarily happen to your children. I still remember when you were in junior high school, your mother took you to the university to play. The scenery in the university is picturesque, with grass as green as silk and flowers in bloom. The boys and girls on the campus are a beautiful sight. They sit on the benches and concentrate on reading. They walked around the campus in twos and threes, full of energy. What encourages you is that the high-quality education of the university has produced many famous masters, who not only achieved extraordinary achievements, but also made contributions to the country and the people. At that time, you told your mother that you liked it here and wanted to study here when you grew up. Now, you have to take the college entrance examination to win the qualifications to enter this university, and you are full of anxiety. You worry that you won’t get the score you need for it. My child, mother wants to tell you that the world is still uncertain, so you have to worry about it.Things of the heart may not happen. I once saw a psychology experiment. The psychologist made a big box and asked everyone to write down the thing they were most worried about and put it in the box. After a while, everyone opened the box and found that most of the things people worried about had not happened. Many times, our anxiety comes from worrying about things that have not happened and being troubled by our own negative thoughts. But the reality is that what we fear may not happen. Do you remember when your mother prepared for a project defense? I thought of many situations that might cause the defense to fail, but in the end they did not appear. Your current thoughts are very similar to your mother\’s thoughts at that time. You have imagined many possible emergencies that will cause you to perform abnormally in the college entrance examination. But we have to admit that when things don’t happen, many of our thoughts are just our own distractions. That being the case, when we face uncertainty, why don’t we think more from a positive perspective? Wang Meng once said that there is a situation in life where you constantly and even exaggeratedly encourage yourself, and as a result, something that can be negative, positive, sad or gratifying really changes for the better. And if you are too dark, too intense, and too suspicious, something will really turn into a disaster. Positive suggestions have their own self-fulfilling function. The famous psychologist Pavlov pointed out that suggestion is the simplest and most classic conditioned reflex of human beings. It will bring hope into our hearts and guide us to act better. Children, let us think more about good results together, gain strength from positive words and words, make our bodies happy, and look forward to good results. The college entrance examination is a small stop in life, and the future is still very long. From your point of view at this moment, the college entrance examination is the most important thing in the world. It will determine all the joys and sorrows of your future life. But my mother wants to tell you that compared to the whole life, the college entrance examination is just a small station. It is just one of the many gates of destiny we face, and it is never the whole of life. Human life is very long, and there are many turning points in the whole process. We will have many opportunities to realize our ideals. As Liu Daoyu said, whether a person can become a talent basically does not depend on famous teachers and famous schools, but on yourself. In life, there are many people who have been admitted to prestigious schools but are confused all day long and do not want to make progress. After graduation, they found that they had been abandoned by their peers, and some were even expelled from school during their studies. There are also many people who, although their college entrance examination scores are not high, have never stopped growing and have a wonderful life. Your cousin Lan Lan is an example of someone who fought back in life on her own. When she took the college entrance examination, her grades were not good and she went to an ordinary junior college. But she never gave up on herself. The place she spent the longest time in college was the library, constantly arming her brain with books. After graduation, I became even more dedicated at work. Others just need to complete the work, but she reviews and improves after the work is completed, looking for good solutions to the work. Lan Lan becomes more and more outstanding and becomes the leader of the unit who can take charge of her own role. Therefore, one exam cannot determine a person’s lifethe height of. What can really affect your life is your own attitude towards life. A person who will not give up on himself even if he encounters failures and setbacks. Even if he loses the college entrance examination, he will not lose his life. My child, the gains brought by 12 years of study cannot be measured by the score on a test paper. During these 12 years of study, you have been conscientious, diligent, courageous to explore, honest and friendly, and have a cheerful personality. These are all sparkling in my mother\’s eyes, and they mean more to her than scores. Life is long, the college entrance examination is just a journey, the future is at your feet, it is not the end, but a new beginning. I will give you three practical methods to relieve children with test anxiety. Facing anxiety will make us feel relaxed. If you still feel panicked, my mother saw three methods in the book. Given to you, hope it can help you. Method 1: Calm down by adjusting your breathing. When we feel nervous, one of the most common phenomena is irregular breathing. At this time, we can use abdominal breathing. It draws air deeper into the body into the abdomen rather than into the chest, cooling us down. There are three main processes. First, take a deep breath, inhale, and use your nose to inhale the air; second, exhale, use your mouth to exhale the air; third, repeat this action, inhale through the nose, and exhale through the mouth. Regular deep breathing provides our brain, blood and body with sufficient oxygen to ensure that they can perform at their best. Method 2: Calm down by staying grounded In the book, the author mentioned a boy named Devin. During the exam, he sat precariously on the edge of the chair, his left foot hooked on his right leg, his right foot pointed to the ground, and his right leg kept shaking. It was obvious that he didn\’t feel very at ease at this time. In this case, we can try to feel the support from the ground and the chair to soothe our body. Release the tension you feel and let it flow through gravity into the earth beneath your feet. Method 3: Perception In our sensory system, there are five senses, including vision, hearing, touch, taste and smell. When we are aware of our anxiety, we can mobilize any of these senses to connect you and the surrounding people. The world is connected. For example, when you feel anxious about taking a test, you can use your hearing to listen to the sounds around you, or you can use your sense of touch to feel the fabric on your clothes. This shift of attention allows us to temporarily relax from the state of constant alertness and pay attention to the surrounding world, thereby resting our nervous system and providing energy for the next high-intensity answer. We can use the three methods in combination. When you feel that the impact of anxiety is difficult to control, give it a try. Your mother can accompany you to practice together. At the end of the writing, kid, you are about to enter the college entrance examination room. After that, you will leave home to go to college. Your world will become bigger and bigger in the future, and you will have less and less time with your parents. As I write this, my mother can\’t help but have mixed feelings. Even now, my mother still clearly remembers your little soft look when you were born. In the blink of an eye, you have grown up. Many people say that the relationship between parents and children is a spiritual practice that gradually grows apart. But what mom wants to tell you is that no matter it is faceWhether it\’s the college entrance examination or life, your family will always be your strong support. You have to remember that no matter whether you do well or not in the exam, your parents will be waiting for you at home to have dinner.