Those born in the 1990s should learn the \”minimalist parenting method\” from Chairman Mao, and just do three things: read, exercise, and develop a hobby. Stay away from all mental illness!

I was taken to dinner by a friend on the weekend and asked to help him solve his parenting problem. I said, \”What\’s the problem with a 5-year-old child?\” He said, \”He\’s reached the rebellious stage! He won\’t listen to what he says!\” It\’s okay to be rebellious, but inventing new words can solve the problem. Inventing new words is very important in the field of parenting. Used to create all kinds of problems…it\’s just nonsense. Everyone likes obedient and honest people, but no one respects honest people. If you are reading the article, please pay attention: in the next cycle, children will definitely have more and more mental problems. Do you see that there are more and more news about teenagers who can\’t think about things, self-mutilation, suicide, depression… There are more and more news like this. The increasing number of such problems shows that we are moving further and further away from the essence of family education. Think about it: \”The more we create problems, the more problems we have, and the bigger the problems become. Who is the problem?\” A friend asked me to write a book. He said, \”We pay great attention to our children\’s diet and nutrition; He pays attention to hiring various teachers, enrolling in classes, and engaging in studies; however, he does not pay attention to or systematically provide psychological nutrition to the children. \”I encouraged him to start writing immediately. Children\’s psychology needs nutrition very much, especially now! My child is about to enter first grade, and the children around me have already started taking exams. Compared with other children whose classes are full throughout the summer vacation…my child really plays, studies and enjoys himself. In fact, I arranged three things to do with him. In the process of doing these three things, I fed him psychological nutrition. This is the \”minimalist parenting method\” learned from Chairman Mao – 1 You must master reading skills, not just literacy skills. Being able to understand the meaning behind words extends to understanding others and the world. Even the ability to verify and refute. Children often ask \”why\” questions of all kinds. I will try my best to answer, and I will also tell him: \”I hope you will refute me. What I say is not necessarily right. You can check it out in XXX\’s book.\” Chairman Mao not only mentioned this repeatedly in his letters to his children, And reading is very important: \”I\’m okay. I\’ve read a little, but not much. I feel very unsatisfied. It\’s not as good as when you are studying specifically.\” \”My health is getting worse this year and I am not satisfied with myself. I don\’t study much because I am very busy. How are you doing? I miss you so much.\” \”Pay attention to your health, don\’t get sick, and study hard.\” \”I read and climb mountains every day. I studied economics. I was determined to master this subject.\” He pointed out in May 1939: \”The ancients said: \’People don\’t understand the past and present, and horses and oxen wear clothes.\’ That is to say: people don\’t know the past and present, just like oxen and horses wear clothes.\” Mastering reading skills is equivalent to asking children to I have met dozens or hundreds of teachers and masters, and can compete at any time. It is also important to be able to find someone who resonates with me in the book and makes him feel that I am not alone. 2 You must exercise to civilize your spirit, first barbarize your body; if you barbarize your body, then the spirit of civilization will follow. My first recommendation is team sports, such as football and basketball. They are all very good. Parents should play with their children first, and after playing for a while, let them play in the team. The process of exercise is a process of brutal physical fitness, and it is also a process of teaching by example. On the playing field, children will understand very quickly: It turns out that setbacks and difficulties are not justIt exists in doing things, but also comes from people, and it is very common. When someone makes things difficult for you, how do you deal with it? It turns out that your value and significance in a team are floating. Sometimes you are a hero, and sometimes you are a scumbag. It turns out that you are evenly matched. Under the circumstances, knowing your own strengths and using them to your best is far better than focusing on making up for your shortcomings; it turns out that reflection and summary are to become stronger and to continue to act, rather than to fall into self-attack; it turns out that everyone is responsible and plays the role of self-attack. The roles are all different; it turns out that there are people out there, and hard work may not be worth mentioning in the face of talent, but if you don’t work hard, you will have no chance to get on stage… In human nature, it is almost impossible to acquire knowledge through words, but the effect of teaching by example is incomparable. Immediate and shocking. If you teach others, you will never learn; if you teach others, you will learn it over and over again. These things, when put in the classroom, become a thousand words, and children may not understand them. But on the sports field, he soon understood. 3 I have a hobby and a little story. After my child’s grandmother retired, she was very depressed for a time and felt that she had nothing to do and that her life was useless. The child asked me: \”What should I do in a situation like this?\” I said: \”This is a topic for everyone, that is, you must learn to play with yourself and learn to invest yourself. If you have something, others will not give you money. , without giving feedback, you will enjoy yourself and do it, then when you are free, you will know how to arrange yourself. The older generation\’s perception is that \”the second half of your life is to live for your children.\” , I hope you will learn to live for yourself first. \”Having a hobby is a \”luxury\” thing. Many children give up their hobbies in order to study. However, having an interest is extremely important in life: it means whether you can devote yourself to yourself, whether you can enjoy loneliness, whether you can analyze and solve problems by yourself, and think independently, and whether you can guide yourself with better questions. Hold yourself to higher standards. The great man asked students: \”Don\’t pay too much attention to scores. Focus on cultivating the ability to analyze and solve problems. Don\’t just follow the teacher and have no initiative.\” Great men educate their children by saying: \”Don\’t be impatient. Knowledge needs to be accumulated. The most important thing is to read books vividly. Don\’t study rotely. You must use your brain diligently and be good at thinking.\” Chairman Mao\’s comments on the \”Manifesto\” educate children: there is no failure, either learning or gaining. It’s all experience, experience. It\’s normal to choke on your saliva when learning to swim; it\’s normal to fall down a few times if you like to ride a bike; it\’s normal to lose your ability to draw if you like to draw… All of these are growth that require more nutrients and seasonings. Hobby can be a life-long investment and a lifetime of happiness. It teaches you how to build deep relationships with things. This is a top level capability. Final Words Read, exercise, pick up a hobby. It’s great for parents to be able to do these three things with their children. I am born in the 90s, and this is the minimalist parenting method I learned. What could be more important than staying away from all forms of mental illness? Beyond that, it’s all about teaching by example, and words speak louder than words. Children are born super learning machines. How you live your life, how you live your day, they will learn from you. Are you filled with joy because of your devotion to this day? If so! In this process, he will take the initiative to learn from you: how to make money, how to love yourself, how toHappiness, facing life and death, having the ability to solve problems, learning strategies, and learning the essence of all human behaviors…