Thoughts on accompanying my baby during his transition to junior high school

\”From primary school to junior high school\” is an educational term that is familiar to Chinese parents and even Chinese people. She is famous not only because she is the key link between children\’s educational stages, not only because she is the symbol of a child\’s transition from childhood to adolescence, but more importantly, she seems to carry the child\’s entire future. As a result, she has become a competitive stage and arena for high-quality educational resources, and a big competition and starting point for the entire family and even the family\’s wealth and connections. \”Promoting primary school to junior high school\” is still within the scope of compulsory education. It is a people\’s livelihood task that the government must protect. It is an education process that students must go through. It cannot be judged based on scores and winning or losing, as in the middle school and college entrance examinations. Under such circumstances, how to allocate limited and extremely uneven educational resources has become an extremely important and difficult issue. In recent years, various \”primary to junior high school\” policies have been introduced and changed frequently like a revolving door. There are many varieties and a dazzling array, but it seems that they cannot truly achieve fair quantification. In the end, it is difficult to heal the anxious and worried \”painful hearts\” of parents. Secretly, we can only continue to say that \”the eight immortals cross the sea and each show their magical powers.\” As the popular saying goes: \”from primary school to junior high school\”, it is the students who are promoted and the test is taken by their parents. It is against this background that in 2020, when the COVID-19 epidemic was raging, the author, a parent, accompanied his children through the trials and tribulations of \”from primary school to junior high school\”. In order to respond to public opinion and reflect fairness, the \”from junior to junior high school\” policy will be adjusted in some major or minor ways almost every year. The biggest change in 2020 is the unified management of enrollment models that previously had greater autonomy for each school, such as enrollment, public boarding, and high-quality private schools. Applications will be filled in uniformly, lotteries will be allocated uniformly, and card creation will be unified. The remaining personnel will conduct computerized enrollment. Allocate seats for admission. But to be honest, changing the soup does not change the medicine. Under the mode of \”lottery\” at the beginning and \”assignment\” at the end, the \”middle area\” is still the main battlefield. Although various offline written examinations and interviews cannot be conducted due to the impact of the epidemic, cooperative recruitment between schools and training institutions, various flexible online and offline selections, policy-based recruitment and other channels are still the \”highlights\” \”. For students and parents who are neither outstanding academics nor willing to let nature take its course, there is no shortage of anxiety and suffering, as well as physical and mental fatigue. The author falls into this category. Children are innocent and childlike, so they don\’t care much about it. However, as a parent, driven by the inner desire to have a successful child and the coercion and coercion of the external environment, the author has experienced the contradictory situation from the bottom of his heart but involuntarily. The whole process of \”from junior to junior high school\”. A lot of understanding, a lot of feelings. The author briefly reviews the entire process of accompanying his baby through his transition to junior high school. It can be roughly divided into an anxiety period, a fear period, a confusion period and a doubt period. Of course, these stages are not completely separated. More often than not, they overlap with each other or even coexist in parallel. They are roughly divided only for the convenience of narrative. The first is the anxiety period, which is mainly the time before formally filling in the application form. This period is stretching out longer and longer, and many parents have been anxious about \”promoting from primary school to junior high school\” since the third grade or even earlier. The author\’s period of anxiety generally began in the second semester of sixth grade. The contagion from the external environment and the nagging of the wife are getting worse. I started spending time online every day reading previous years’ policies and various “small school” policies.With the information about \”promoting to junior high school\”, I started to join various related \”groups\” and follow various public accounts. I started to mobilize various personal connections to inquire and ask for help. I started to look for my classmates and my friends\’ friends everywhere to \”beg my grandpa and grandma\”… In short… You try your best to find a way out, and you have trouble sleeping and eating every day, waiting for a response. Then you enter the period of fear, which is generally from the time you fail to win the lottery until you receive an offer of admission from any school. If your child is admitted to a \”prestigious school\”, you will often hear from people around you that \”xxx\” was accepted by the \”Six Little Strong\”, but your child is \”no one cares about\”, and you will involuntarily start to feel fear, worry, and worry. You will try every means to submit your child\’s resume everywhere, try every means to let the school know how good your child is, and even risk the epidemic to go to the door of your favorite school and beg… You will always think about the worst outcome and feel that My child will be assigned to the \”worst\” school in the area that I really don\’t want to go to. I will be frightened every day and often feel uncomfortable. Then I will enter the entangled period, which mainly refers to the period from when my child receives the first school enrollment intention to the final choice of junior high school. During this period of time, your child may first receive an \”invitation\” from a school that has good conditions but is not very satisfactory. You will immediately become entangled in signing the card, and there may be a more favorable school later; if you don\’t sign, you will be in trouble. The schools in the future are not as good as this! Maybe you have relied on connections to do your work, but because your \”dominance\” is limited and you cannot guarantee 100% success, you may not be able to eliminate the entanglements. With good results, you will still be extremely entangled in the face of multiple choices with their own merits. Finally, you will go through a period of doubt, which is when you decide on one of the multiple choices, or you will be affected by external evaluations, or listen to other parents\’ comments, or even more. It may be that after learning more about some previously unknown school characteristics, you will turn from \”confused\” to \”doubtful\” whether your choice is suitable for your child, especially after choosing between two different teaching models. This is especially true. The author chose the former between \”autonomous open teaching\” and \”traditional indoctrination teaching\” because, unlike traditional teaching methods, open education has strong autonomy and loose management, and requires children to have stronger skills. The more I think about it, the more curious I am, my self-control, and my self-management ability. I start to doubt my original choice and worry about delaying my child\’s ability to survive the above period. After the child officially enters school, parents still need to accompany the child for a period of adjustment. During the adjustment period, they can truly get rid of the above-mentioned complex psychology of anxiety and hesitation, and then they can truly complete the finishing work of the \”little to junior high school\” campaign and truly start targeting. The previous \”choice\” of junior high school life. Thoughts on how to \”transfer from primary school to junior high school\”. Why does \”promoting from junior high school to junior high school\” bring so much anxiety and trouble to parents? A \”right to education\” that everyone should fully enjoy should not become a \”right to education\”. Why have the issues that citizens are worried about developed so far? It is thought-provoking and needs to be solved urgently. The author also made some considerations in the process of accompanying the child and briefly talked about his understanding and experience. First, the \”uniqueness\” of the talent standard limits the \”diversity of development.\”\”. It stands to reason that every student is an independent and distinctive individual, and should follow his or her own inclinations and hobbies to grow into a builder in different fields. On the other hand, a colorful society also needs a variety of talents with various educations and talents. . Integrating the two, education should teach students in accordance with their aptitude, fully explore students\’ individual strengths, and strive to cultivate diverse and personalized talents that meet the needs of all walks of life. But the reality is that our education seems to only be \”the college entrance examination.\” In this Huashan road, only those who are admitted to the so-called \”985\” and \”211\” prestigious schools can truly achieve success. So, thousands of troops crossed the single-plank bridge, and numerous students followed almost the same path, using almost identical teaching methods. They grow into standardized \”talents\” who tend to be \”similar to each other\”, just like parts on a production line. Students are not classified or stratified during their growth, and they are rarely diverted to different fields. Children with different talents, different intelligences, and different interests are bound to grow up on a standardized, standardized, and closed track. They are eventually taught to be test-taking tools with fixed paradigms and turned into working machines placed in different locations. , lack the spirit of independence, and have little freedom of thought. Under this growth path, students will inevitably develop in a homogeneous way based solely on test scores, full of competition and anxiety. So, as an extremely important part of this path. It is conceivable what kind of development, fission and even mutation the \”primary to junior high school\” will become. Second, the \”unequal\” educational resources have caused the \”agglomeration\” of school selection. When the issue of \”admission to higher education\” and \”scores\” begin, \”cool\” schools with high admission rates and strong teaching staff will naturally become the targets of parents and children, but limited high-quality educational resources cannot be evenly distributed among schools. The facilities and hardware are getting better and better, and the new school is even better, but the teachers, school spirit, education model and other software are not evenly matched, and there are big differences. Therefore, parents who regard the \”college entrance examination\” as the only right path. They will definitely rack their brains and do their best to \”camp\” in \”cow\” schools. With sufficient students and even overcrowding, \”cow\” schools will have greater autonomy in enrollment and control more students. Students have the right to choose. In this case, the so-called \”pinch\” becomes natural and inevitable. When the \”cool\” children in elementary school gather in the \”cow\” school in junior high school, the result will definitely be more \”cool\” children. Relying on the resources of the school will make you learn more \”better\”, and the high scores of students borrowed from the school will become more \”better\”. On the surface, it is a \”perfect match and complement each other\”, but in essence it is a \”vicious circle and polarization\”. It strengthens the siphon effect of \”cow\” schools, limits the positive and even distribution of teachers, and affects the fairness and justice of citizens\’ educational opportunities. Parents will definitely choose the \”cow\” school at the top of the biological chain without hesitation. They go to great lengths to send their children to \”favorite\” schools. In this way, it is not surprising that \”prestigious schools are crowded and ordinary schools cannot recruit enough people\”. The third thing is administrative management. The \”man-governed nature\” leads to the \”distortion\” of competition, no matter how cruel and fierce it is.Competition should be considered fair and just as long as there are clear and clear rules and all participants are treated equally. Whether it is the \”college entrance examination\” or sports competitions, although there will be various drawbacks, there are rules to follow and there are rules and regulations to follow. But \”Xiaoshengchu\” is different. Although there are certain rules, after all, there are serious ambiguities, opportunities for behind-the-scenes operations, and there are many factors that can be controlled by humans. In a country like ours with thousands of years of tradition of human rule, everything is based on \”blood ties,\” \”human relationships,\” and \”face.\” It is not uncommon for human relationships to outweigh the law, and it is even the norm in a certain sense. Managers are the makers of laws and regulations. They have the power to interpret rules. They are well aware of the omissions in rules and regulations. They often break the rules to gain personal gain. Workers fight for connections, relationships, and wealth. Whether they are forced to have no choice but to follow the trend, they often make breakthroughs. They are complacent when things are done in a routine manner and laugh at parallel competitors who are \”falling behind\”. The above factors are superimposed, and the object of competition for \”primary school to junior high school\” that should not be a competition has been extended from children\’s studies to the wealth and connections of parents and even families. The content of competition has been extended from campus classes and syllabus to extracurricular training and competition examinations. The rules of competition have changed from nearby Educational policies such as enrollment and school division have been extended to cross-domain competitions such as school district housing purchase, policy guarantees, and pit-taking recruitment… turning the normal learning and growth process of children into a stage for promoting growth and a arena for wealth and connections. And the performance of the rule of thumb. After all, it hurts the children and costs the parents money. Fourth, the \”panic\” mentality of parents has contributed to the \”heterogeneity\” of education. The education of children has its own internal laws that are consistent with the actual growth of children. It is a step-by-step and gradual improvement process. The most obvious manifestation should be the teaching outline. There are basic standards for what grade should be mastered and what content should be learned by children at what age. Education should move forward steadily along the main line of the syllabus. It should neither rush for quick results and \”get on the stove without telling the truth\”, nor should it stand still and cycle at a low level. But in reality, due to the strong dominance of the \”baton of college entrance examination\” and the uneven scarcity of high-quality educational resources, parents, driven by the natural desire to \”hope that their children will become successful and their daughters will become phoenixes,\” are afraid that their children will \”lose at the starting line.\” \”Go up\”, so it is full of competitive ideas and full of competition consciousness. This anxious and anxious \”competition\” mentality was eventually induced and exploited by commercial education institutions, and began to cultivate children in a way that exceeded their limits. The knowledge points in junior high school, high school and even college are advanced to the elementary school level. Mathematical knowledge that is supposed to open up thinking and strengthen logic is solidified into formula templates that can be directly applied. Various intensive classes and training camps occupy and appropriate the time that should be played… ⋯More importantly, too much knowledge instillation seriously damages children’s desire for knowledge and curiosity, making the university stage, the most important stage for growing abilities, a “dawdle” for children to be free and muddle along. On the other hand, anxious parents often only focus on the \”college entrance examination\”, which is a Huashan road. Although the cultivation of children in arts, technology and other aspects is also involved, it basically does not allow them to become their children\’s main career, which prevents education from changing depending on the individual. Appropriate diversion, classification, and hierarchical paths. A \”little promotion\”, a journey of growth, a new realization, a new understanding. I hope that the pain points experienced by the former can be an aid to the transformation, so that the latter will no longer have its sorrows. What is gratifying is that the country has recognized the existence of the problem and is working to solve it one by one. President Xi has made important instructions on vocational education. Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and streamlining education will surely make great progress; art education is planned to be included in high school entrance examination results, which will effectively promote the popularization of music, art and other aesthetic education subjects; various targeted admission policies have been intensively introduced, and must be It will greatly promote the balance of educational resources and fairness in enrollment methods; the Ministry of Education has issued policies to regulate off-campus training institutions… I believe that education will eventually return to its essence of \”humanizing people\”.