The poisonous chicken soup in education is comparable to poison. It seems to make sense, but if you drink it, it will be \”arsenic.\” If parents believe in these poisonous chicken soups, it will be harmful to their children\’s education. In many parents\’ circles of friends, there must be articles like \”The best education is love\”, \”The most precious gift for children is freedom\”, and \”As long as they work hard, every child will succeed\”. Many parents also said that they think the article is quite reasonable, and they even do this when educating their children. You think this is \”chicken soup\” and drinking it happily will fill you with positive energy. But in fact, this is \”arsenic\”. Educating children based on this point of view will only lead to big mistakes. Now let’s take a look at the three bowls of “poisonous chicken soup” for parenting in WeChat Moments. Parents, have you tried it? The First Bowl of Happy Education In recent years, China’s primary education has begun to be brainwashed by happy education. Elementary school was so relaxing, and everyone ended happily at 4:30. Reduce the weight of schoolbags, have less homework, and give children more space to study freely. Children should always be praised and try not to criticize. Don\’t put pressure on children and let them learn happily. This kind of education seems really ideal. However, education is never a happy thing. Even, to some extent, painful. Why? Because education is a challenge that requires a lot of hard work and knowledge! An old educator once opposed quality education: \”I don\’t agree with lowering the difficulty of teaching materials. If this level of difficulty is unacceptable, what else will the children do in the future? It\’s nonsense to leave school at 4:30. Parents who know how to educate should pick up their children. Home tutoring, what about parents who don’t know how to tutor? Let their children go home and watch TV? How is this reducing the burden? This is exacerbating educational injustice!” Maybe you will say, you see that in foreign education, children are let out of school early, but you don’t see it. The teacher was scolding and corporally punishing the students. But you only see people getting out of school at four o\’clock, and ordinary children playing happily. However, the children of the elite are spending extra money and energy to purchase education, learning musical instruments and French as a stepping stone to elite university education. You see other teachers’ pleasant faces, but you don’t see that national legislation “allows teachers to take necessary measures, including physical contact, to force students who do not comply with discipline to comply with discipline if the advice is ineffective.” To put it bluntly, it means that teachers can be properly disciplined. beat. Those who use European and American education as a model and serve children the chicken soup of \”happy education\” only see people being happy, but have not considered the mechanism behind it. Family Education Instructor\’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Chinese version e-book + English version pdf + mobi + azw3 Look at Japanese education, look at the Korean college entrance examination known as \”more cruel than the death penalty\”, and then look at European and American elites studying college courses in advance, Those who say that foreign education is easy are definitely talking nonsense without any investigation. The 2nd Bowl Unleash Children\’s Nature The word \”naughty child\” has become very popular in recent years. As long as you talk about naughty children, everyone will definitely talk about the history of blood and tears. But where did the naughty kid come from? To put it bluntly, it’s all because of the habits of my parents. It is also called: \”releasing the child\’s nature.\” However, we cannot use \”releasing the child\’s nature\” as an excuse for your child to be rude and uncultured. In addition to releasing children\’s nature, parents mustTeach your children to follow basic boundaries when in public. Since you are a member of this society, you must abide by social norms. Blind indulgence of freedom will not do any good to children. Freedom is always accompanied by rules. \”It is the fault of the father if he is not taught, and it is the fault of the teacher if he is not strict in teaching.\” Therefore, if you need to be educated, you must teach. If your child is not taught now, who do you expect to tolerate him when he enters society? Education is not only about adhering to the public bottom line, but at a high level, it is also about warmth and magnanimity from the heart, thinking about others, and showing the greatest kindness to others and yourself. Children have the right to be active, and those around them also have the right to enjoy a quiet, comfortable and uninterrupted journey. Parents should first wake up to a naughty child who puts his nature above social rules. The third bowl of success has nothing to do with academic qualifications. Parents still often drink a bowl of chicken soup like this. College students are working for their junior high school classmates, and those who graduated from elementary school are working as bosses with PhDs. Therefore, it is useless to have a high degree because you will not have to work for others in the future. It doesn’t matter if you can’t get into college, you may become a wizard in the management world in the future. Let\’s do an arithmetic question. How many people manage college students who have graduated from junior high school? Calculate tens of thousands. How many people have graduated from junior high school? Hundreds of millions. So is the former rare? There is an inverse relationship between academic qualifications and success. It is a small probability event to become famous without academic qualifications. Moreover, those who can work hard in the world after graduating from junior high school must be among the best, with higher abilities and vision than ordinary people, while the vast majority of children have average qualifications. Telling children \”it doesn\’t matter if they don\’t go to college\” with such a small probability event, isn\’t it delaying the children\’s future? I believe many people have seen such an inspirational post on Weibo or Moments: Which list do you know more people on? The first list: Fu Yijian, Wang Shidan, Bi Yuan, Lin Zhaotang, Wang Yunjin, Liu Zizhuang, Chen Hang, Liu Fuyao, Liu Chunlin. The second list: Li Yu, Hong Sheng, Gu Yanwu, Jin Shengtan, Huang Zongxi, Wu Jingzi, Pu Songling, Hong Xiuquan, Yuan Shikai. The answer is revealed: The former were all top imperial examination candidates in the Qing Dynasty, but they are now unknown. The latter failed to make the list, but they have been passed down through the ages. The conclusion is: success has nothing to do with academic qualifications. Parents who believe in such chicken soup, please think about it. In the long history, are there many people like the second list? How can you tell your children with a small probability that it doesn\’t matter if they don\’t go to college. In fact, for the vast majority of ordinary children, having an academic degree to protect them is already a smooth road to happiness for ordinary people. Parents who like to comfort themselves with rare events such as \”My child is not well-educated, but will be able to manage college students in the future\”, please also read this passage carefully: Read this passage carefully: Download the complete collection of a real Yu Shiwei lecture: Families of Preschool Children Selected Educational Story Cases from Issue 156 \”People who work hard on the road often envy those who have taken a different path to reach the top quickly, complaining that they are too tired and too slow, but never think about how many thorns and dangers are covered on that small road. And how many people fell to pieces there.\” Of course, you can\’t put too much pressure on your children, and you can\’t let them carry burdens that don\’t belong to their age. But this is not inconsistent with raising a child who is polite and capable of learning. Everything goes smoothlyEven worse, a more peaceful and upright education can help children grow into pillars that feel secure, capable and responsible. China\’s education system has been controversial for many years. When it comes to the only child in the family, more and more educational concepts and methods have been extended. In fact, no matter how advanced the concepts and methods are, they cannot be applied to all children. Selecting the essence and applying them flexibly is the correct concept of parenting!
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