Three keys to family education methods, please keep them in mind

I was chatting with a parent a few days ago about his children\’s education. Talking about today’s parents, they have changed a lot compared to before. One of the biggest changes is the use of modern information platforms. Parents in many classes have two groups: one is a home-school interactive group in which class teachers and parents participate. Teachers can update their children’s learning and life at school at any time. Parents were notified of the situation through WeChat, and parents responded actively; second, the class parents set up a WeChat group themselves, leaving aside the head teacher and classroom teachers, to exchange parenting experiences with each other. Supposedly this is a good thing, but it often makes parents feel distressed. Most of the worries come from the comparison between children from different families. A child with relatively good academic performance often makes many parents curious and ask whether they have participated in any tutoring or have any tips on family education. Once the parent of this student really tells the story, other parents will They all followed suit. \”Each child has a unique personality and physical and mental characteristics. The methods that are suitable for other people\’s children may not be suitable for their own children. After spending a lot of manpower, material resources and energy, some parents find that their children do not achieve the expected \’results\’ , on the contrary, they will blame themselves more, and even blame their children too much, causing the children to bear a lot of pressure for no reason.\” During the chat with this parent, I focused on habits, reading, companionship, Leisure and other keywords. Accompanying: No matter how busy parents are, they should find ways to accompany their children. Parents and children eat together, talk together, communicate and study all the time. An interesting study in Western psychology found that a child\’s vocabulary is directly related to the vocabulary parents communicate at home, especially the vocabulary communicated at the dinner table. If parents are talking about politics, their children may become interested in politics in the future; if their parents are complaining, their children may be in a mood to complain. Many parents think that there is no point in talking to their children. In fact, even if the children do not understand what their parents say today, they will become an important part of their brains. What\’s more, companionship and living together will determine whether the entire family has a shared destiny. The new education reform puts forward a proposition: read together, write together, and live together. The tone is companionship. A father is a well-known local entrepreneur. He is very busy. He either invites others to dinner or is invited to dinner. He does not have much contact with his daughter. After the children enter elementary school, because they participate in the new education experiment, the teachers of the new education experiment will write letters to the children\’s parents regularly, one letter every week. One of them is to require parents to read with their children, not only mothers but also fathers. This father read 184 books with his children in 5 years. He said he didn\’t feel it at first, but after reading for a month, he found that reading was much more interesting than drinking, so he actively refused to socialize and read with his children. He said: \”In the past five years, my children have gone to elementary school and I have gone to college.\” Later, he and his children talked about everything together, and the medium was books. No matter how busy parents are, they should find ways to spend time with their children, even if time is tight, even if it\’s just a pretense. When I get home, many parents play games and watch TV. This is normal, but if they want their children toTo walk better, you must restrain your behavior. Particularly cruel and especially fond of reading, the Jewish mother’s teachings on raising the world’s richest children are super clear pdf reading: I have a mother who reads to me. The seeds of reading are sown in the family. The Reading Handbook quotes a poem: \”You may have infinite wealth, boxes of jewelry and cabinets of gold. But you will never be richer than me. I have a mother who reads to me.\” Read. It is an important source for children to have a rich spiritual life. The cultivation of reading ability, reading interest, and reading habits starts from the family. We are far from discovering the secrets of childhood, and we are far from understanding the value of children’s books. Children\’s books quietly hide the best things in human beings in the fate of characters and animals, thereby building up children\’s values. The initial reading was parent-child reading, with parents reading to their children. Because the children could not read, they started reading more from pictures. Children first learn about the world through pictures. Children\’s books not only have a valuable role in edification, but also have a healing effect. There are corresponding books for whatever problems children want to solve. After reading them, they are more useful than 10,000 words of lessons. The most important thing is that once children develop the habit of reading, they will actively look for books to read in the future. Reading has an appetite. At first, let the child eat KFC and McDonald\’s. Gradually, he doesn\’t like other things. He is only interested in KFC and McDonald\’s. He doesn\’t know that there are other good things in the world. The same is true for reading. After reading some bad books, you will lose your appreciation for other good books. Habits: The success of education depends on whether you have good habits. Mr. Ye Shengtao said that education is about cultivating habits. To measure the success of education, it depends on whether good habits are formed. Sports are not about how high you jump, how fast you run, or how well you play ball. It is about whether you have developed good fitness habits. If you have excellent sports performance, but you eat a lot and don\’t exercise, and your body is in bad shape, this is not called sports success. Education is about developing the habit of being curious about the world, constantly learning on your own, and constantly recharging yourself. It is not about getting 100 points when studying and not even reading books in society. The new education reform has an action called One Thing Every Month, where children are asked to do one thing every month to develop good habits. For example, I learned to eat this month. There are many habits to cultivate when eating, not only etiquette but also many things related to habits. For example, when you learn to walk, walking also has habits. Of course, there are many normative things behind habits. When we say not to run a red light, it means that we must abide by the rules. Obeying the rules is a habit. Psychological research has found that developing a good habit requires continuous training for 21 consecutive days, and families must help children develop good living habits. Parents, please spend time with your children, listen carefully to your children, help them develop good habits, and let your children grow up healthily and happily!