Three tips for being a good mother

Parents\’ behavior not only affects the parent-child relationship in the existing family, but also affects the child\’s future life. How parents treat their children is undoubtedly the most important factor in their growth. Especially for the most important role in a child\’s life, that is the mother. The mother has a positive attitude, stable emotions, and keeps her mouth shut. That child will benefit from his mother’s positive influence throughout his life. CCTV recommends over 500 high-scoring documentaries. Your child will become addicted to self-discipline after watching it. Be an emotionally stable mother. Do you often feel anxious because your child is rebellious, disobedient, dilly-dallying, and procrastinating? Are you often driven crazy by your child\’s talk back? These problems should be faced by many mothers nowadays, but the fact is that the more your child drives you crazy, the more you need to calm down. Because yelling, getting mad, collapsing, and being anxious will not only not make children better, but will also make them more rebellious. Only by being emotionally stable and understanding and sympathetic can we discipline our children well. The day before yesterday, I accompanied Dabao to an interest class and got to know a mother. Through communication and chatting with her, I found that it is very important for mothers to be emotionally stable. She said that she was raising two children by herself. In the beginning, she was often driven crazy by childishness and collapsed. She lost control and yelled at her children countless times. At first, she thought it was effective to yell at the child, and she was quite happy because the child was indeed obedient and stopped being naughty. But as children grow older, they no longer submit to authority. Instead, I started to fight against it. After saying it before, I forgot about it later. No matter how much she roared later, it had no effect. And because of her frequent roars, the two children formed two extremes. The eldest was extremely rebellious, while the second was timid and withdrawn. When parents lose control, children often submit to authority on the surface, but in fact they are always resisting internally. This is also the reason why they are initially obedient and later become rebellious. Only then did she realize that she could no longer lose control of her emotions. After realizing this, she began to work hard to improve herself and adjust her mentality at any time when facing her children\’s problems. As the book \”Parent Challenge\” says: Parents often lose control of their emotions, how can they ask their children to be emotionally stable? How can parents require their children to be orderly if their parents are careless? If parents do not work hard step by step, how can their children learn from their parents to be conscientious and diligent? Children are the projection of their parents\’ behavior. If you want your children to be emotionally stable, you must first learn to ask yourself to maintain stable emotions. When you learn to face children with stable emotions, you will find that children are more convinced by using a low and stable voice than by yelling frequently. Being a parent with a positive attitude. In the process of raising children, as a parent, you must have a positive attitude. Only with a positive attitude can you raise sunny children. Yesterday, Dabao came back from school and said that the teacher had beaten her. Why? Come on, come on, show me to your old mother. Dabao squeezed me gently with his hand and I said, oh, the teacher is so gentle. Does the teacher like you and want to hold your hand? Why is this hitting you? Is this a sign that the teacher is joking and liking you? If it were a real injection, it would hurt like you would get an injection. After Dabao listened to what I said, he happily went to do his homework. Parents may often ask questions like thisWhen she encounters a child, sometimes the child pats her, and sometimes the teacher pats the child if she is disobedient. But no matter who slaps the child, we must not immediately react and say, wow, the teacher hit you, why are you so bad? We must clarify the facts, let the child set an example, and clearly understand what happened to her, neither ignoring nor exaggerating. Because sometimes children do make mistakes, and the teacher may discipline them a little, but it is not that exaggerated. It is just exaggerated in many cases. As children grow up, they will encounter many problems, so as parents, we must guide our children in the right way. Neither let the children become submissive, nor let the children feel that they have been wronged and become glass-hearted just because they are a little angry. As parents, we must educate our children from an early age to learn to treat others with a tolerant attitude. This is not tolerance, but a kind of open-mindedness. If a child has been preoccupied and resentful when something happened since he was a child, he will not be able to withstand any grievances and setbacks when he grows up. As caring parents, they do not worry excessively or exaggerate the problems their children encounter, and they do not ignore every detail of their children\’s growth. Use a believing attitude and believe that children can solve their own problems independently. In this way, children can have a positive and sunny attitude, as well as self-esteem and confidence. Be a parent who keeps your mouth shut. A good parent-child relationship comes from parents\’ companionship with their children. Only through companionship can good communication and relationships be achieved. As parents, in the process of raising children, we will find many shortcomings and problems in our children, and we can\’t help but nag them. At this time, you must control your mouth and not say everything. I went to the mall a few days ago and saw a mother quarreling with her child. The child was crying hard, but the mother had no intention of stopping. He even said words that shocked me at the end, \”Why don\’t you go S.\” God, I never expected that this mother would lose control and say such words. The child would be so hurt when he heard it. Franklin once said: A man in anger drives a crazy horse. When parents are emotionally unstable and ride this crazy horse, their children are the first to be harmed. \”I believe that this mother loves her children deeply, and she is just angry. But no matter how out of control, she must control her mouth and not let herself say anything. If she were an adult today. Mom still Will it be so out of control? Obviously not, just because the mother feels that the child is weak, so she allows herself to say hurtful words. As everyone knows, an out-of-control word will leave a mark on the child\’s heart. Some children with extreme personalities will ask themselves , am I really so bad? Do I really want to go to S? I keep questioning myself in my heart. When there is no one to guide me and I can’t get out, my life may really end. Parenting is not easy, no matter when disciplining children, No matter how anxious and out-of-control you are, you must control your mouth and avoid saying words that demean, ridicule, or ridicule your children, so that they can live in an uneasy environment. Philosopher James once said: The essence of human nature is the desire to appreciate, especially children, appreciation It can make children grow into towering trees, but belittling them can make them wither and deformed. Written at the end: Children\’s growth cannot be separated from healthy soil.Create healthy soil so that children can thrive in healthy soil. Therefore, from now on, lead by example, use time and patience to accompany your children\’s growth, and let them grow up healthily in healthy soil.