Three types of \”cold violence\” are popular in kindergartens. Children cannot express their sufferings, but parents have no idea.

In the minds of many people, kindergarten is a good childcare institution. After children enter kindergarten, they will definitely receive good care and education. But in fact, sometimes children may not be happy in kindergarten, but they just bear it silently without telling their parents. He was full of joy on the first day of school, but was depressed when school was over. The truth was chilling. As time passed day by day, Xiaomeng continued to grow up, and in the blink of an eye, he was at the age of kindergarten. The mother also chose a kindergarten for Xiaomeng very carefully and successfully signed up. On the first day of school, my mother took Xiaomeng on the way to kindergarten. At that time, my mother was actually very worried. She was worried that Xiaomeng would be like other children and cry endlessly on the first day at kindergarten. If my child is really like that, I don\’t know if I can bear to let my child go to kindergarten. Different from her mother\’s anxiety, Xiaomeng seemed to know that today was a special day. She showed great excitement even before she arrived at kindergarten, and seemed to be yearning for kindergarten. Not long after, her mother brought Xiaomeng to the door of the kindergarten, and Xiaomeng\’s performance made her mother feel relieved. Because Xiaomeng really didn\’t show the slightest negative emotion. Instead, he looked at her mother expectantly, as if waiting for her mother to say \”go in.\” Compared to Xiaomeng, mother\’s separation anxiety seems to be more obvious. In this way, since Xiaomeng did not have any resistance to going to kindergarten and was even very happy, the process of entering the kindergarten was not difficult at all. Her mother was also very lucky to have such a good and worry-free baby. Seeing Xiaomeng happily follow the orientation teacher into the kindergarten, her mother was very pleased and felt that Xiaomeng would be able to spend a wonderful day in the kindergarten. Just like that, when school was over in the evening, Xiaomeng\’s mother was waiting outside the kindergarten door early, looking inside with expectant eyes, as if she had been separated for a whole day, as if she had been separated for a year. While waiting for her child to finish school, Xiaomeng’s mother also imagined many scenes of Xiaomeng coming out. The mother felt that Xiaomeng must have run out excitedly and told herself happily how interesting her life in the kindergarten was. It goes on and on. As she thought about it, a smile appeared on Xiaomeng\’s mother\’s face unconsciously. However, when Xiaomeng actually came out from school, the scene in front of her surprised Xiaomeng\’s mother. Because Xiaomeng\’s state was completely different from when he was in school. There was no smile on his face, and he didn\’t feel any excitement at all. Xiaomeng\’s mother thought that maybe her child was tired from school, so he didn\’t have a happy expression. After picking up Xiaomeng, Xiaomeng\’s mother thought that her child would tell her some interesting stories about the kindergarten, but Xiaomeng didn\’t speak a word along the way and just followed her mother home silently. In the next few days, when her mother was preparing to send Xiaomeng to kindergarten, Xiaomeng hesitated and seemed not to want to go to kindergarten anymore. Faced with Xiaomeng\’s situation, the mother just thought that the child was too \”fresh\” and didn\’t take it to heart, so she took her child to kindergarten. One night when picking up the child, her mother noticed that Xiao Meng still looked the same as before.Walked out unhappy… Just like that, after a week, Xiaomeng no longer wanted to go to kindergarten no matter what she said, and even cried. At this time, Xiaomeng\’s mother felt that something was wrong, so she endured it Xingzi communicated with Xiaomeng. At first, Xiaomeng was reluctant to say anything. It was not until Xiaomeng’s mother kept asking that Xiaomeng finally revealed the reason why she didn’t want to go to kindergarten. It turns out that Xiaomeng was looking forward to kindergarten life, but in the kindergarten, Xiaomeng\’s kindness did not receive positive feedback from others, which made Xiaomeng feel very uncomfortable. Because Xiaomeng feels that if she is good to others, then others should respond with the same kindness to herself, but they don\’t. Moreover, after that, the children were not all able to become good friends with her as Xiaomeng imagined, and the collective life in the kindergarten was not as good as she imagined. In the end, Xiaomeng felt that kindergarten life was not the life she expected. Xiaomeng\’s mother attached great importance to Xiaomeng\’s statement, but she always felt that the child\’s logic was not quite right. In order to seek the real truth, Xiaomeng\’s mother came to the kindergarten and explained the situation to the principal. Through monitoring and communicating with teachers and children, we found out the real reason why Xiaomeng didn’t like kindergarten. According to Xiaomeng\’s mother, her child encountered \”cold violence\” in kindergarten. \”Cold violence\” also exists in kindergartens, and many parents are kept in the dark. Although kindergartens are full of \”innocent little cuties\”, the kindergarten environment can also be regarded as a collective environment, and in any collective environment, communication is likely to occur. problem, resulting in a situation of \”cold violence\”. In kindergartens, there are three types of \”cold violence\” that often occur. No matter which type, it is very painful for children to encounter it. Parents must understand it in advance and don\’t let their children suffer silently. The first type: Intentional rejection by children. Among children, the most common situation is \”let\’s not play with him\”. For example, if a child has a dispute or conflict with another child in kindergarten, the other child may ignore the child. Moreover, when the other party sees other children preparing to play with the child, they will also stop the behavior of others, and even form small groups to collectively isolate the child. This kind of behavior is a typical kindergarten cold violence behavior. It is a very common phenomenon and occurs in almost every kindergarten. And it is also very harmful to children. It may greatly affect the child\’s mood, interfere with the child\’s psychology, and cause the child to have a very bad impression of kindergarten life, thereby resisting going to kindergarten. Some of the more serious ones may cause psychological problems in children and have a long-lasting impact on them. The second type: Classmates make sarcastic comments. Although children in kindergartens are not well-educated, some children may develop a bit more harsh and mean characters due to living environment problems or the influence of their parents. As a result, when in kindergarten, he may make sarcastic remarks towards other children. For example, if a child\’s classmates laugh at the child\’s appearance, clothing, supplies, etc., this is a type of cold violence. Although the child is not physically harmed,But if they are verbally humiliated by the other party, the child\’s heart will be greatly hurt. To be honest, most people nowadays are relatively civilized, and many people even don’t know what swearing is. Therefore, children have also developed higher qualities, but at the same time they also lack the ability to deal with other people’s verbal ridicule. As a result, when children face such situations, they don\’t know what to do and can only suffer the consequences of being dumb and sulking. This is very detrimental to the child\’s growth and the child\’s acceptance of kindergarten. The third type: Mental \”kidnapping\” There is also a situation of cold violence, which is scary when you think about it. It is \”PUA\”. Generally speaking, \”PUA\” usually occurs in some adults with ulterior motives, but now, many \”little kids\” in kindergartens have begun to exhibit this behavior. For example, after the child arrived in kindergarten, a classmate showed great \”goodwill\” to the child and became a \”good friend\” with the child. After becoming \”good friends\”, classmates use emotional offensives to infringe on children\’s rights, such as \”use your pen\”, \”lend you a pen\”, etc., and often these things are \”borrowed but not returned\”. \”of. Due to \”friendship\”, the children are unable to ask for help, and their rights are gradually violated. This kind of cold violence is so terrifying that the children don\’t even know that they have been \”tricked\” by their classmates. How to prevent children from suffering \”cold violence\” in kindergarten? Improve children\’s three abilities, and cold violence will naturally stay away from children. No parent wants their children to suffer cold violence in kindergarten. To achieve this goal, we need to improve children\’s three abilities to ensure that children are in school.\” Not hurt”. ①Social ability Social ability is very important for children who live in a collective environment, because it determines whether the child can quickly integrate into the group, whether he can make good friends, and whether he can avoid interacting with others. Arguments and so on. Therefore, if you want to prevent children from being subjected to cold violence when they arrive in kindergarten, you first need to cultivate your children\’s social skills so that they can get along harmoniously with other children after they arrive in kindergarten, so that no one will engage in cold violence against your children. ② Leadership skills Children with leadership skills often have higher prestige among children and thus become the focus of children. Naturally, no one will use cold violence against such a person, because if he fails, he will \”steal the chicken but lose the rice.\” When cultivating children\’s leadership skills, we should focus on strengthening three core elements: first, the shaping of self-confidence, so that children have unwavering beliefs and the courage to take on responsibilities; second, the cultivation of independent thinking ability, encouraging them to Have the courage to explore and question, and form unique insights and judgments; finally, it is the training of organizational and coordination skills. Through practical activities, children can learn how to effectively assemble the strength of a team, balance the needs of all parties, and lead the team to move steadily towards a common goal. . With such comprehensive training, children will naturally not encounter \”cold violence\”. ③Children with self-care abilities envy those with stronger abilities. If a child has stronger self-care abilities, he or she will quickly establish his or her own self-care ability in kindergarten.Prestige, and being able to show one\’s own strength and not easily \”contained\” by other people, thus reducing the chance of children being subjected to cold violence. In addition, improving children\’s self-care ability can also allow children to experience better kindergarten life, making their lives smoother and more enjoyable. Conclusion Kindergarten is a small society. Although there are all children here, there are still some phenomena that exist in society. Therefore, parents should not think that their children do not need to worry about it when they reach kindergarten, but should pay attention to their children\’s emotional changes. If a child is found to be suffering from cold violence, it is necessary to promptly intervene and solve the problem in time to prevent cold violence from causing more serious harm to the child.