Three years have passed by in the blink of an eye. If I could go back to raising a child, what would I change?

A few days ago, I attended the birthday party of Su Bao\’s kindergarten classmate, and suddenly realized that Su Bao will be turning 3 next month. It seems like just yesterday she was a little one in my arms who couldn\’t even open her eyes. Now she\’s a woman who can swim and climb rocks. A small band was invited to perform at the birthday party. As soon as the cartoon-shaped band appeared, the children gathered around and sat in a circle, including Su Bao. There was a mother next to me with a little girl who must be more than ten months old. The girl was obviously a little shy. After singing a song, the musician began to interact with the children, asking them to tell their names one by one. The little girl was at a loss and was so frightened that she crawled into her mother\’s arms. Her mother kept urging her, hurry up, we are playing games, hurry up and get to the front. Seeing that child made me feel a little sad because I thought of Su Bao two years ago. She was once such a slow child, and she \”refused\” to participate in group activities countless times, hanging on me like a little koala. Although I didn\’t deliberately \”push\” Su Bao into the crowd like that mother, it was impossible not to feel anxious when I saw other children of the same age jumping around with the teacher. So when encountering this situation, I would tell Su Bao intentionally or unintentionally: This game is very fun. Look at all the children participating, you can do it too. But in fact, this kind of verbal encouragement is basically useless. Speaking of which, I am also an introvert. When I encounter a large number of people, I feel a little cramped at first. Perhaps Su Bao was thinking at that time: Mom, why don’t you understand how I feel now? If I could do it all over again when raising a child, I would: let the child stay in the comfort zone for a while longer. Later, I gradually tried to let go and let Su Bao adapt at his own pace when participating in group activities. Sometimes, Su Bao would hang on to me for the entire early childhood education class, so I would sit with her in the last row, giving her a lot of time to observe the interaction between the teacher and other children, and I would never rush Su Bao to \”join the group.\” . What\’s amazing is that after I stopped being anxious, Su Bao slowly crawled out of her little shell, curiously looked at the \”outside world\” and ran back to me. Maybe it was just a minute\’s participation, and I also Will encourage her seriously. Two years later, Su Bao has become a completely different person. He can communicate and share. He likes to sit next to the teacher when listening to stories and attending early childhood education. These all happen naturally. Occasionally she would be unwilling to participate when she was in a bad mood. I told her that my mother had no objection at all. Many things seemed blurry at the time, but are clear looking back. Three years later, I realized a truth: in the first three years of life, the world is completely unfamiliar to a child, and she needs to constantly return to her comfort zone to rest. It takes a lot of practice for parents to hold their tongue and not intervene. Some parenting articles may tell novice parents how old their children should be to talk, how old they should walk, how old they should learn to use the toilet, or even down to a certain age, which makes people full of anxiety. In fact, every child’s rhythm is different. Fear of strangers and delayed speech before the age of 3 are mostly temporary. Looking back three years later, I will realize that with proper guidance and letting nature take its course, everything will pass without having to fight to the death. Maybe let the child stay in the comfort zone for a while, so that he can come out of the comfort zone more naturally in the future.district. Each child is like a different stream. Although each has its own unique path and experiences different scenery, it will eventually merge into the sea.