Throughout their lives, 5 moments children will remember their parents the most

When the little deer was 2 years old, I decided it was time to teach her how humans wear socks. So, the old mother patiently demonstrated, and the little cub watched carefully. After the demonstration, she looked at me with a smile on her face, as if questioning whether I looked down on her. In fact, it turns out that, huh, stupid cub. The first time, she couldn\’t put all five toes in at the same time. She always put this one on but missed that one, and failed. The second time, before the last two toes went in, I started to pull the socks off, which failed. The third time, I put it on backwards and the toes extended to the heel. It failed. The fourth time, the toes finally went in! But…I can\’t move to the front no matter what, so I failed. …Seeing this scene, I was thinking, ponies and lambs can stand and trot half an hour after they are born. Why can’t the cubs of humans who are at the top of the food chain still not wear socks after 2 years? It\’s just socks…so angry! But think about it, she can\’t even control her bowel movements now, what else can you ask of her? right? So I touched her head very gently, showed a sugary smile, and told her, it doesn\’t matter, you are already great. A few days later, I came out of the kitchen and saw a little thing tinkering with something on the sofa with her back to me. She was so focused that she didn\’t even notice when I walked very close to her. Oh my gosh, she was practicing putting on socks and she managed to put them on! superior! one! Only! Got it! I don’t know if mothers have this feeling. When they see their children secretly working hard to grow up where they can’t see them, it’s easy for their tear ducts to break out. Think about the details again, think about that little back, think about her using her little hands to open up the tight socks, trying to put her little toes completely in… When I think of this, I, an old mother, will stay. Tears of dissatisfaction. The scene of the deer learning to put on socks will be stored in my mind forever and can never be deleted. And what about the deer? After so many years, do you still remember that one night, her mother accompanied her to practice putting on socks over and over again? Do you still remember my joy and joy when she stretched out her little feet in socks in front of me? Tears filled my eyes; will you still remember the big hug I gave her after tears of joy and tears filled my eyes? The American \”Times\” summarized the five moments in children\’s lives that they can most remember their parents. When you see this kind of content, you always have to examine yourself, look back at yourself, your surroundings, and the past. We also want to know the answer to what parents will leave in their children\’s minds and what children can really remember us. When you make your child feel safe, Xiaolu was bullied by a boy when he was in first grade. The boy told his mother about it as a joke. The boy’s mother and I exchanged WeChat messages and had a good relationship in private. Later, she apologized to me on the phone and told me about the incident. It turned out that the boy thought Xiaolu was a chubby little boy, and even laughed at her in front of Xiaolu. When class was about to begin, he deliberately stretched out his foot and tripped the deer. The deer fell in the aisle, and many people laughed. After listening to this, I felt particularly sorry for my daughter because she told me that she likedLi Xuangang (this boy) shyly said that I wanted to marry him when I grow up. Of course, I regard this as the most beautiful and pure admiration and love between children. She must have been very sad at the time. After this incident happened, I kept waiting for Xiaolu to tell me about it, but she didn\’t. She said nothing more about it. One night I told her a story about \”angry soup.\” The story is simple. The little boy Hoss had a very unhappy day. He had a lot of troubles and he went home angry. However, his mother said that she wanted to make soup. As the water boiled, the mother shouted at the pot and she asked the little boy to do the same. They also grinned at the pot, stuck out their tongues, and banged the pot loudly. Finally, the little deer was attracted by this story. She hugged me tightly, her eyes were red, and she didn\’t speak. The more she behaves like this, the more distressed I feel. I said to her: \”Baby, no matter what happens, I can be with you. You can cry when you are sad. I will stand side by side with you like Mother Hoss…\” After saying that, she started to stop. He kept crying loudly, his voice getting louder and louder, almost using up all the strength in his little body. That time she cried for a full 20 minutes, and I stayed with her silently and held her. She felt safe and relied on, which made her give up hiding, let go of her worries, have a good cry, and release herself. Allowing children to cry freely and calmly in a safe environment is really the best gift we can give our children. When they grow up, children will realize how happy it is to be able to cry, because emotions are guiltless, and crying does not hurt others, but it can also let oneself go. When you give your child your full attention, some time ago, you suddenly wanted to record the interesting things that happened when you were a child. What if one day your memory suddenly fails and you forget. Just when I got excited and wanted to write it down, I realized that things I can remember will never be forgotten. I clearly remember the summer more than 20 years ago, when my dad sat under a big tree and told me moving stories. There were cool watermelons around us, stars in the sky and the sound of cicadas. At that time, I felt that my father exuded the smell of my favorite lollipop. These images are too clear in my mind. I think that when the little deer grows up, she will think of all the details that I spent with her wholeheartedly, such as us reading books together, going to the countryside to pick strawberries together, trampoline together… and her heart will feel warm. Psychologist Li Xue once told a story: \”One of my visitors liked to play basketball. When he was in elementary school, he felt so good after playing basketball. With this satisfaction and happiness, his son couldn\’t wait to go home and be with his father. Share. As soon as he said a few words, the father immediately took over and encouraged the child: Playing basketball is a very good hobby. Exercise your body and cultivate willpower. You have to stick to it and play basketball well! After hearing this sentence, the son felt that his body All the energy flowing in my heart was suddenly suppressed, and it was blocked in my heart, but I couldn\’t vent my anger because my father didn\’t say anything wrong.\” Yes, what the father said was correct, but what the child wanted was \”I I want to share it with youEnjoy this joy and satisfaction! \”You can see how he looks and feels at the moment, you can feel his satisfaction, and you can also see his sadness. The so-called high-quality companionship and undivided attention are nothing better than this. The best way to get along with your significant other There was a popular article some time ago called \”Dad, you don\’t love my mom a long time ago.\” Children know very well whether parents love each other. Children will remember many details of their parents\’ relationship, whether it is sweetness and intimacy or arguments and noises. There is a passage in the article that says: “Parents who hate and kill each other plant fear and sadness in their children’s hearts, making it difficult for them to escape the influence of their original family throughout their lives. Parents who love each other spread stability and sunshine in their children\’s hearts, allowing them to try their best to find the fragrance in their hearts. \”When I was in love with Dad Lu, he once sent me a picture. The picture was of him secretly taking a picture of his parents going to visit their graves. At the end, he sent me a sentence: \”They have been in love for a lifetime, and I want to be with you too. Side by side until we grow old, I love you, unless it is better than before, it will never be dull…\” On the one hand, I admire Xiaolu\’s father\’s love talk skills, on the other hand, I envy his parents\’ love. His parents have been in love with each other all their lives, and now every week We will go out on dates, eat delicious food, go fishing, take pictures, and play cards together. The children see it in their eyes and take it into their hearts. The best education for children is that dad loves mom and mom loves dad. You must or Before criticizing him, I said in an article that if your parents tell you that you are smart since you were a child, you will subconsciously think that you are such a smart person, so you will always behave smart because you think it is like you. . If your parents always criticize you viciously for being stupid, when you grow up, you will think that it is accidental when you are smart, and you feel \”like you\” when you are clumsy. This is the power of affirmation and criticism. My friend Xiao Ai follows Like many people, she hated \”other people\’s children\” the most during her childhood, but what hurt her the most was not this comparison. It was her mother who \”shared\” her embarrassing stories with guests at home anytime, anywhere, regardless of occasion or time. She complained in detail about how ignorant she was. The living room was very close to her room. Her mother was talking and laughing, and her voice penetrated the wall and went straight to her heart. There were times when she really wanted to rush out and tell her mother, please Stop talking. But she didn\’t dare to say anything or refute. Because as soon as she rushed out, what she said and did would become the subject of her mother\’s next complaint. Every time these things were mentioned, Xiao Ai\’s chest felt like It was like being blocked by something, and this became an indelible pain in her heart. Although I hope Xiaolu can try her best to do everything well, I will not let her live in the shadow of criticism, comparison, belittling, and scolding. Just like when she first learned to put on socks, if I hadn\’t controlled my temper at that time and yelled at her, \”I don\’t even know how to put on socks, I\’m so stupid.\” Maybe there would have been no follow-up story about my secret efforts. An inherent tradition in the family Time magazine said: \”Children love unexpected surprises, but they remember family activities that are predictable and expectable more deeply.\” That is the tacit sense of ritual between you and your children. \”Make one day different from other days, making one moment different from other moments. \”The taste of the New Year has faded now, but almost everyone will remember the scenes of celebrating the New Year when they were children. Me too, I remember the scenes of every festival, especially the Lantern Festival. Because when the Lantern Festival comes, I can hold my mother\’s hand Noodle lanterns were walked around the streets and alleys, and the sesame oil inside was fragrant. I said to my mother enthusiastically, \”This is so beautiful and delicious.\” After working, I never had the chance to celebrate the Lantern Festival with my parents, but my mother I will continue to make noodle lanterns, like this every year. Today’s Lantern Festival, I planned to go through it like a normal day, eat some glutinous rice balls and post on Moments. When I saw the picture my brother sent me, I couldn’t hold back the tears. I still want to express my love to my mother: \”This is so beautiful, it must be delicious.\” No matter how long they have been away from home, children will never forget the taste of home. Now that I have finished talking about the 5 moments when children can remember their parents the most, you will find that children can remember What she will remember will never be how many toys and beautiful clothes you bought her; what she can remember will always be what she wants to have, what she wants to feel, and what she wants to see. These will also be what she remembers forever. Children can remember love, and we can create love from now on. I hope that we can all become the stars and brilliant galaxies in children\’s memories.