\”Throw it away after you give birth to a daughter!\”

A few years ago, my friend and I went to a poor rural area in the west for inspection. But the first impression that left on me after arriving there was not the poverty, but the severely imbalanced male-female ratio. I could hardly see women walking on the street, and there was not even a girl in the only school. Because the local people have a very deep-rooted preference for boys over girls, girls can only stay at home to do housework and will not be sent to school. What\’s more, many baby girls are thrown away or sold directly after birth. \”If we sell it to you for 2,000 yuan each, we will never take it back in our lives!\” This is what people in the village will definitely say when selling their children. It made my hair stand on end when I heard it! What kind of society is this? The sun is shining brightly, and there is still such a backward and discriminatory place in the world. After I returned to the city, I told my friends about what I had heard and witnessed. Everyone wanted to scold other people’s eighteenth generation ancestors. If we make a simple summary of the world\’s biological chain, it should be arranged like this from high to low: male – female – other animals and plants. In this male-dominated world, women have always been at a disadvantage. This is not a conjecture, but a fact. The idea of ​​favoring boys over girls has a history of thousands of years in China. Various \”fetal identification and secret recipes for giving birth to a boy\” have been widely circulated in the market. They are passed down by word of mouth. From wealthy gentry and celebrities to ordinary people, everyone is eager to try them. Everyone knows these. Ming, I won’t say more. Let’s take a look at how the United States, which claims to be the most particular about human rights and democracy in the world, fares in this regard. In 2011, the Gallup polling agency conducted a sample survey of 1,020 American adults on the question \”If I only have one child, a boy or a girl?\”, 40% were willing to have a boy, 28% were willing to have a girl, and the rest had not yet considered this issue. Among the people, 49% said they wanted a son, and only 22% preferred a daughter. This survey result has basically not changed since 1941. For convenience, Americans have also invented many home fetal gender detection tools, which can be said to be quite convenient and considerate. According to statistics from the World Bank, approximately 39 million women under the age of 60 suffer \”excess deaths\” every year around the world, and a large part of this is due to abortion caused by \”preferring sons over daughters.\” In media reports, we often see news of baby girls being abandoned or drowned, especially in poor areas. This kind of numb cruelty has deprived many lives of their right to live before they ever see the light of day, just because they are baby girls. The world owes these baby girls who died young an apology. Butler once said: \”Youth is like a praised spring.\” It\’s just that this spring is as short as a white horse passing by, and it may be overshadowed and sink into the swamp, unable to extricate itself. When I was a child, I often heard this sentence: \”What are girls doing reading so many books, if they don\’t want to get married in the end?\” Even now, this phenomenon is still very common. Due to limited economic conditions and the preference for boys over girls, many families, within their means, first consider sending boys to school, while girls are dropped out of school. So where do these girls who left campus early go? There is a short film called \”Real Shots of Changshu Child Labor Industry: Youth Squeezed Out\” that brings the issue of child labor to the fore.In this regard, Cao Di said in \”Research on the Legal Protection of Child Labor in China\”: Based on the dropout rate estimate, 3 million dropout teenagers become potential supplies for the labor market in my country every year. Zhu Dan\’s article \”Reflections on the Problem of Child Labor in China\” stated that in 2007, 5 million of the 10 million children who dropped out of school were considered to have entered the labor market and became child laborers, and the proportion of female child laborers was as high as 73.5%. Enterprises like to use child labor the most. The main reason is: cheap. Most of these cheap laborers come from girls in poor areas. In these places, the theory that \”study is useless\” is prevalent. Girls who cannot carry the heavy burden on their shoulders or hold the iron plow in their hands are persuaded to drop out of school early and go out to make a living. The income they earn is sent home to help their older brothers or younger brothers continue to go to school. They are placed in positions that do not require special skills, professional experience, and require a large amount of labor. Novice child workers only need to pay a salary of less than 2,000. The huge demand has spawned many child labor agencies, and these agencies continue to provide business owners with a steady stream of money. Huge illegal child labor. These child laborers do not receive any protection and have to work in harsh conditions for many years. Many of them cannot bear the hardship. With the temptation of the outside world, they will inadvertently embark on another wrong path: becoming sex toys for prostitutes. This kind of obscure trade has already formed a market all over the world. Countless young girls who are forced or under pressure to survive are struggling on this road. Their future lives are dark and gray. Not only in education, women are often discriminated against in the workplace. An HR friend once revealed to me: “Their company’s recruitment notices will never indicate “boys first” for fear of causing controversy. However, after receiving the resumes, they will be screened directly by gender, and girls will basically not be read. If they really want to recruit girls, The wages given to them will also be very low, especially for girls who are close to childbearing age. The basic salary usually drops again and again. No company is willing to bear the salary of female employees for several years during the childbirth period. After all, companies are not charities, they only Care about how to reduce costs and make money, not for charity. \”The School of Labor and Human Resources of Renmin University of China once conducted a survey. Among the 75 companies surveyed, 42 said they were willing to recruit employees with the same salary. For men, only 3 companies expressed their willingness to recruit women. Even if some units recruit female workers, they are unwilling to improve their work skills or prevent them from taking key positions. If they are about to get married and have children, their careers will face difficulties in promotion. Among the Fortune 500 companies, only four CEOs are women. Based on this current situation, many women choose to go home to have children, but this path is no easier than working in the workplace, and is even more tedious. The other half cannot understand the discomforts and labor pains of being pregnant for ten months. When the child is born, he is on standby 24 hours a day. He is always pestered by poop and farts. When the child is older, he has to worry a lot about doing homework. The hard work day and night often causes endocrine disorders, making their faces dark and sallow, and covered with spots. These partners have no intention of understanding, and often say: \”Is it so hard to take care of a child at home every day?\” They don\’t know the pain, and they can\’t explain it clearly.For example, one netizen complained that \”there is only one child between a goddess and a female psychopath.\” As a woman, you need to constantly make dilemmas between the workplace and family. If you are not careful, you will be easily labeled with various \”labels.\” It was really difficult, both physically and mentally exhausted. Wang Xiaobo once said: \”Middle-aged women are a natural disaster in China.\” This is not a joke, but a real dislike. There was an essay written by a primary school student that became popular on the Internet: \”My mother doesn\’t go to work. She usually plays cards and watches soap operas. While watching, she scolds and sometimes cries. She can\’t do anything well, and the food she cooks is terrible. It’s a mess, and everything is unclean. She obviously can’t do anything well, she only plays all day long, and she complains about being tired every day, saying it’s all for me, and she’s almost exhausted. My classmates’ mothers know how to drive and play taxis. I envy her so much that she can play table tennis, draw, and make beautiful clothes, but she can\’t do anything. I think my mother is just a useless middle-aged woman.\” She worked hard and gave up her work and personal life. , but became a useless middle-aged woman in the eyes of children. You want to change the status quo, but find that you can no longer leave the burden behind you. Because I have been at home for too long, I have long been out of touch with society and unable to adapt to the workplace. You are holding a vegetable basket and standing on the overpass, looking at the hurried office workers, feeling secretly sad. In addition to being unable to adapt to work, you also have to face the risk of your husband cheating on you, and your sense of security is getting further and further away from you. In \”The First Half of My Life\”, Luo Zijun complained to her cheating husband: \”He asked me to quit my job and said he would support me for the rest of my life. I raised the children and took care of the house for him, but now he feels more and more disgusted with me. , Where is his conscience?\” What\’s wrong is that the once graceful beauty with picturesque features has now turned into a completely greasy woman with a slovenly appearance, a plump and out-of-shape body, and numerous wrinkles? Just for a man\’s promise, a woman mounts her horse with a knife in hand and fights with life. A woman is like a fruit tree, which finally grows up and bears fruit. Others pick and enjoy it, but then they think the tree is too old and ugly. We really need to apologize to women. It is said that mother is like the earth, giving birth to life. However, the earth cannot escape the fate of being stepped on by others. Some people are unwilling to give in and want to resist. They want to kick away the man who promised to love you forever and start over. But the reality is often not your choice. Sometimes, a middle-aged woman may not even have the courage to leave. They are afraid of losing everything they have, because she paid for it with her life. Just like Luo Zijun said, \”I asked myself why I was so afraid of being abandoned by him, afraid of losing this family, and afraid that Ping\’er would become a child of a single-parent family. Is there any other reason? I don\’t know how to describe it, it\’s like throwing a fish into the desert. , do you think the fish are afraid? This home is my arena. Either the winner will be king or the blood will be splashed on the spot!\” Yi Shu said: \”A divorce for a middle-aged woman means a narrow escape from death, and no bones will be left after she dies.\” It is not easy for a woman. From the formation of chaos to the snow and frost on her temples, the difficulties and obstacles along the way are comparable to the eighty-one difficulties that Monk Tang encountered on his way to seek Buddhist scriptures. If the difficulties and challenges faced by men come from one aspect, then what women have to face is difficulties coming from all directions. Unfortunately, they cannot be like cats.Demons have nine lives, and they can throw away one when they can no longer hold on: \”I won\’t play with you anymore.\” They can only hold on for all the people around them who need their care. Despite this, they still worked hard to grow upward; although they were trapped in a ravine, they kept looking up at the stars. As Romain Rolland said: \”True heroism is to still love life after recognizing the truth of life.\” Every woman lives in this world and grows up hard, and they are the real heroes.