To understand the process of children’s growth, parents must first have three awarenesses

It’s been two months since the new semester started. Many parents are beginning to feel anxious again when they see their children’s stagnant academic performance and lack of motivation! In recent years, movies and TV dramas about family education and parenting anxiety have also brought this state of parents to the fore. For example: in \”Little Farewell\”, the mother Tong Wenjie played by Hai Qing is anxious every day because of her daughter Duoduo\’s fluctuating grades; in \”Little Joy\”, the mother Song Qian played by Tao Hong made a plan for her daughter Yingzi to be admitted to Qingbei. Strict study plan; in \”Growing Up with You\”, Liu Tao transformed from a \”Buddhist\” mother to a \”Chicken Baby\” mother, only hating that she had been too indulgent to her son before. And in \”Little Willing\”, Tian Yulan, played by Jiang Xin, became the mother of the \”chicken baby\”, and her portrayal was very penetrating: before the family dinner, her son Ziyou was eating fruit, but she had to test how to say each fruit in English; during the proficiency test , her child scored 86 points in the math test and ranked fourth in the class. She was unwilling to give in and felt that there was something wrong with the paper. In order to be promoted to a key junior high school in the city, she forced her son to learn the Mathematical Olympiad. Even when eating, she had to control her child: he could not eat too much meat. , Don’t get too fat, otherwise it will affect your intelligence; eat more walnuts, which can nourish your brain…​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ These children who should have grown up happily have lost the happiness and freedom that originally belonged to them. So, what exactly is happiness? How should we raise a child with a happy heart in this era? Learning a lot of knowledge may not necessarily make people feel happy; having a lot of money may not necessarily make people feel happy; those who are the most successful in the eyes of everyone may also say, I never feel Been to happiness. Therefore, what we need to work hard on today is how to make our children a happy and free-spirited person. Let children be their best selves in the future, both in terms of value orientation and lifestyle, and they will become more diversified. Compared to the past, children today have many more possibilities for the future. Essentials for family education: How to encourage children\’s progress and self-confidence. 70 episodes. In addition to the traditional \”white-collar\” path, children can also run online stores, order chefs, bargainers, planners… They have many directions. You can decorate your wonderful life. Nowadays, parents generally have a \”tight\” mentality and want to squeeze into the same boat. But in fact, the world for children in the future is very broad, and everyone will have a place to stand. If you have this confidence, you don’t have to worry about missing a certain boat. In the future, there will be more ships for children to board. As long as the children\’s vitality is ensured, there is nothing to worry about. Many parents often ask: Which major should their children study to find a job, make more money, and have a high social status in the future? In fact, these are all external things of the profession. What really brings happiness and meaning to children are the internal parts of the profession, such as the nature of the profession, the content of daily work, etc. Some jobs look good on the outside and pay well, but they are busy and tiring all day long, which is a pain for people who want a balance between work and life. Therefore, when children plan for the future, they must do a good job of \”three combinations\”: they must not only consider current happiness, but also consider the meaning of the future, and also combine the children\’s own talents. DoA pair of happy and natural parents. Every parent hopes that their children will be happy in the future and hope to give their children the best family environment. But in fact, what is better for children has something to do with what kind of life parents are willing to live. When parents can accept their own lifestyle, it means giving their children the best life. If you are very naughty, don\’t accept yourself, and always complain, then your child\’s life will be naughty. As long as the parents in every family live a relaxed, happy life and respect themselves, the children will have happy parents and a high-quality life. Therefore, when we are anxious, we might as well think more about the reason behind the worry. Is it to make our children have such glorious achievements in the future, or to make our children happier in the future? Really sane parents want their children to be happy. Of course, happy children do not mean that they are free of anxiety. What we need to do is to give children enough security to get through these uncomfortable moments. Happiness now gives children lasting motivation to pursue the future. Many parents are accustomed to conveying this concept to their children: learning is a painful thing, and you must persist. In our interviews, there are many parents who hold the \”postponed happiness theory\”. Fan Deng Reading Club’s Five Compulsory Courses for New Parents’ Family Education [Video + Audio] In fact, people can find a balance between the present and the future. The happiness of the present is the best motivation to pursue the future. If children are not interested in the current \”bricks and tiles\” and cannot be immersed in them, the future \”high-rise buildings\” will have an unstable foundation. Of course, focusing on your child\’s current happiness does not mean giving up on success. A truly wise man will strive for success while enjoying the present moment. Just like the principal of Yade Middle School in \”Little Willing\” said: \”Only by loving life can you love learning, and the ultimate goal of learning is to make them love life throughout their lives.\”