Today, I will tell you a story about a unique and silly boy.

Many years ago, there was a child who looked very different from her infancy. However, it doesn’t seem to be the “good” kind of difference. Her motor development was very slow. She couldn\’t lift her head at 3 months and couldn\’t turn over at 6 months. It took her 15 months before she dared to take the first trembling step. As for crawling, it never happened to her. On the body. Her expression is very dull, always a cold face, and when she twitches the corner of her mouth, she already has a very excited expression. Her reaction is particularly slow. When her name is called, she has to wait three seconds before she slowly turns her huge head around. It takes more than ten seconds to make sure that nothing is wrong, and then she slowly turns back. She seems to be a little too well-behaved. Apart from eating and sleeping, the rest of the time can be spent in a daze, and she can play poker for an hour. Everyone who had seen her felt that this child was not normal: How could there be a child who was awake and motionless in his arms for more than an hour! How come there are children who can’t make them laugh no matter how much they tease them? How come there are children and every movement seems to be in slow motion? How can there be a child who never cries all day long? Everyone who observed the child for a while would have an expression that was hesitant to speak, and then look at the child\’s mother with sympathy – it\’s so pitiful that she gave birth to a stupid child. Only one person really dared to say what was in her heart. That was the child\’s grandmother. She said this: \”Daughter-in-law, otherwise, let\’s find a way to have another child! This child doesn\’t look very smart.\” The child\’s mother was furious on the spot. He was furious and refused to admit: My child will not be stupid! If you don\’t admit it, you don\’t admit it, but seeing the child always with dull eyes, expressionless face, and slow movements, the mother still feels inexplicably weak. Will you become smarter as you grow older? As the child grows up, although he is not as obnoxiously slow as when he was a baby, he still looks clumsy. She didn\’t start speaking single words until she was two years old. She couldn\’t form sentences when she was three years old, and her speech had always been unclear. Before she was five years old, her speech was difficult to understand and she needed her mother to act as a translator. She is always the slowest, slow to eat, slow to dress, slow to run, slow to react, and she can never keep up with the rhythm when playing with children of the same age. When others are playing A, she is still in a daze, and others are playing. After B, she started playing A. By the time she finished playing A, the others had already disappeared. She was still so well-behaved that it was incredible. She didn\’t cry when she got an injection, didn\’t cry when she went to the dentist, didn\’t cry when something was robbed, and she never cried when she was in kindergarten. Once, the kindergarten teacher made her squat on the potty and forgot to wake her up. She sat on the basin for more than 2 hours, and there was a circle of blood on her buttocks. But to say that this child has an IQ problem, it doesn\’t seem like it. If I teach her the children\’s song Tang poetry Xiao Jiujiu, she can memorize it even though it takes a little longer and more effort. But why do you always look so clueless? So every time when they had chicken at home, her mother would always give her the chicken heart to eat. The reason was that eating the heart replenishes the mind. But after trying it for many years, she is still not very smart: she doesn\’t like to talk, is indifferent to others, doesn\’t know how to look at people\’s faces, only cries and doesn\’t fight back when she\’s beaten, can never grab the toys she likes, and does things that belong to her inexplicably. to give away, and also help others carrySchool bag, taking off her coat to pad someone\’s butt… Seeing how cowardly and innocent this silly child looks, her mother is always worried about her future: Will it be difficult to study in the future? Will he be unpopular in the future? Will I be bullied in the future? Will I be deceived in the future? These worries only ended after the silly child successfully entered college, received a master\’s degree, and even started a family. Until the eve of the wedding, her mother was still solemnly saying to her husband\’s family: My daughter is not very smart and always does things in a confused manner. If there is anything to offend, you have to bear with her! Later, after graduating, this silly girl muddle-headedly followed her husband to the other side of the ocean, muddle-headedly worked as a housewife for eight years, muddle-headedly gave birth to two children, and then muddleheadedly started a business. I created a public account called \”Talk About Our Baby\”. Yes, this silly kid is me! The above-mentioned strange deeds in infancy and early childhood were heard from my mother since she was a child. I can guarantee that she said exactly the same thing every time, and there was absolutely no embellishing. In fact, I have always admired my mother. She raised me up and she is really strong inside! If I raised such a child, I would most likely get mad at Baidu and judge her as having sensory integration disorder + mild autism… Later, I analyzed it and found that the reason why I behaved like a fool when I was an infant was indeed because of my congenital There are disadvantages: the nerves are too big, as thick as telephone poles, and can go around the earth twice. Other people’s nerves are transmitted through optical fiber. My nerves have to be dialed slowly, so I have poor sensitivity to the surrounding environment and poor perception. Slow, and both thinking and movement are much slower than others. I actually live in a world that is two or three times slower than others, so I always cannot keep up with the pace and seem to be out of control. Even after I become an adult, I still have this problem. For example, I am very slow in writing articles. I have to rewrite and think about each sentence for a long time before it is smooth enough. For example, I cannot do things like live broadcasts or speeches because of my The speed of organizing language in the head cannot keep up with the normal speed of speech. If you speak a few more words, your flow of thought will not be able to keep up. It is especially easy to get stuck when speaking. This seems to be a big disadvantage, but it actually brings many benefits: I am not sensitive to the surrounding environment, which makes it easy for me to focus on one thing, and my thinking process is very slow without being disturbed, which allows me to spend a lot of time every day. Thinking makes my inner world rich and my mind very delicate, which is also very helpful for analyzing problems and writing. My nerves are thicker, which makes me less likely to be emotionally troubled. I can be happy easily, and even if I have troubles, I forget them in the blink of an eye. These are all great advantages, aren’t they? I am a person who scored more than 20 points more than usual in the college entrance examination~~ It is precisely because of being so slow, so confused, and so stupid that I become unique, isn\’t it? The reason why I tell my story today is because I often see a lot of worries about children in the background: Why doesn’t my child like to laugh? Why does my child cry so much? Why does my child seem so timid? Why is my child so active! All in all, it’s a lot of worries about “my child is different from others.” This kind of worryThe implication is that I hope my children can be \”normal\” and \”the same\” as most children of the same age. But if you think about it on the other hand, so what if it’s “not normal”? Are you going to ask God to return the product and exchange it for another child? Even if you look dumber, timid, or naughty than others, your biological children must be raised responsibly. You raise them when you are worried, and you raise them when you are happy. Why not ignore the \”shortcomings\” caused by the child\’s personality? ”, what about the “benefits” derived from focusing on those “disadvantages”? Don’t doubt it, there must be benefits, just like if there is a shadow, there must be light. For example, my Maotou, although he is a typical high-demand child, emotional, excited, timid, easily shy, unwilling to try new things, and sometimes makes me hopeless…but at the same time, he He is also a person who is emotionally delicate, organized, and rules-abiding, and pays great attention to safety. The advantages are also very obvious! The reason why this world is so wonderful is that it is diverse. As the saying goes, \”One person can feed all kinds of people.\” There is no such thing as a person who is \”all good\”, nor is there a person who is \”completely normal\”. When you think that \”other people\’s children\” are doing well, it\’s because you are not raising them. In fact, which child does not make people worry about? People with high IQs tend to have no friends, people who love socializing tend to be indifferent, people who are too well-behaved are easily bullied, and those who are lively tend to get into trouble… In short, your children love themselves and take care of themselves, so don\’t worry anymore! Accept him as he is, give him enough love, and give him the best possible environment. Don\’t think too much about the future. Just remember two sentences: one is, God will starve to death, and the other is, When a car reaches the mountain, there must be a road, and when a boat reaches the bridge, it will naturally lead to that silly child\’s two-year-old photo. Every time I see her, I have to admire the power of genes…