Treat girls like boys

I once watched \”Where Are We Going, Dad\” and there was a game in which the children were asked to choose one of the gifts they liked and the gift their father liked when their father was not around. The one who impressed me the most was Tian Liang’s son. When he was choosing a gift, he was very entangled and wanted to get both gifts. The village chief then asked him: \”Dad, do you love you?\” The child, who was originally laughing and laughing, suddenly turned dark and looked lonely because of these words. He shook his head. The village chief was very surprised, and so was everyone else. I didn’t expect him to think that his father didn’t love him, so he looked closely at the village chief and asked further questions, and the child finally revealed the truth: “Sister.” It turned out that the child felt that his father, Tian Liang, loved his sister more. , not him. Tian Liang, who was behind the camera, felt very guilty after hearing this, and said: \”At home, I always tell him that my sister is a girl and I have to keep her. Unexpectedly, he misunderstood.\” A small detail immediately reflected It shows the different attitudes towards sons and daughters in a family. A daughter is a girl, so she needs more protection from her father, while a son, because he is a boy, needs to work with his father to protect and be humble to his older sister or younger sister. Therefore, from the son\’s perspective, parents love their older sister or younger sister more than they love themselves. Another situation is the opposite. Parents are son-centered and will constantly sacrifice time with their daughters to double their love for their sons. When they grow up, they will start talking about equality, equality between men and women. But what I want to say is that boys and girls raised under this kind of thinking cannot achieve true equality between men and women. Girls are either protected or left out. Those who are protected will become dependent on men. Those who are left out will become their own rigid needs for protection and dependence on men. They cannot achieve equality between men and women in their hearts. Because they will feel that women are inherently weak and must rely on the strong (men) to live a better life. When my sister was pregnant with her second child a year ago, because the first child was a boy, her family thought it would be better if she had another daughter. But as so many people speculated that it was a boy, the family was a little worried. My sister has a peaceful mind. The joy and tenderness of motherhood will not be changed based on the gender of the child. She is still happily looking forward to the arrival of her second son. A cousin also happened to have given birth to a baby at that time, a girl. One day she said to my sister: \”You will be under a lot of pressure to have two sons.\” My sister smiled and joked to her: \”What should we do? How about we switch after I give birth?\” \”Seeing her expression change, she looked nervous: \”I won\’t change. To raise a son, you have to work hard to earn money to buy him a house and a wife. How tiring it is.\” Then she changed the topic again, with a look of arrogance on her face: \”Raise a son My daughter is so relaxed, she doesn’t have to worry about anything, just raise her up.\” I have heard too many such remarks, and it seems that many people already agree with them. So later, my sister gave birth to a daughter. I wonder if she was relieved for my sister. For many girls who are about to get married, there will always be seven aunts and eight aunts who will tell them the criteria for choosing a spouse: Find someone with good conditions, richness, and someone to rely on for the rest of your life, which is better than anything else. So girls feel from an early age that I don’t have to work too hard, because one day someone will support me anyway. soSo many people say that men are from Earth and women are from Mars. Men are so rational and women are so emotional. Because boys and girls have been exposed to different ideas since childhood. There is one way to treat boys, and another way to treat girls. We can talk about it from the following aspects. About independence. The most common encouragement we give to boys is: \”You are a man, you must be responsible and responsible. Don\’t always want to rely on others, you can only rely on yourself.\” What about girls? \”You are a girl, you don\’t need to work too hard.\” Therefore, girls know from an early age that they are special than boys and need to be more dependent and taken care of. They do not need to learn to be independent or have too much autonomy. Boys, on the other hand, have known since childhood that they have to solve everything by themselves. Even the views on marriage and love conveyed are different. When I was a child, I heard a relative say to her son: \”You have to work hard and earn your own money to marry a wife in the future.\” But she said to her daughter: \”You don\’t have to work yourself hard. Marry someone with good conditions and money.\” Are you worried about your food, drink, and clothing?\” Well, there\’s nothing wrong with that. The independent spirit of girls was killed in this way. On the usefulness or futility of reading. When we were young, the most common thing that surrounded our ears was: \”Sooner or later, a girl will belong to someone else\’s family. Why should we send her to school? She just needs to know a few words, and there is no need to train her.\” The most common thing to say about boys is That is: \”If you don\’t study hard, you won\’t be able to go to college in the future, and you won\’t even be able to marry a wife. How can you contribute to society?\” So for boys, the idea of ​​studying or having a special skill is The future is the beginning of dreams and a magic weapon to go far; for girls, no matter how many books they read, they will eventually have to marry and become other people\’s wives, wash their hands and make soup, and the battlefield will shrink to the one-third of an acre at home. Why bother to work hard and wrong yourself when you are young? The theory that reading is useless has influenced generations of women. Fortunately, nowadays, if such an idea appears, both men and women will be scolded. About how to teach your children to love themselves. Even this is different. Teaching boys to rely on themselves in everything is already the best education to love themselves. In this way of thinking, no matter what happens to the boy, the first thing he thinks of is to protect himself, because he is really too important – he is the support and hope of so many people, so he cannot fall. Therefore, boys will not easily fall into the whirlpool of small problems in relationships or life. But girls don’t. She has been told since childhood that she does not need to be independent or independent. Because they can rely on their parents when they are young, and they will have a partner when they become adults. That\’s why so many girls are easily defeated when faced with a bad relationship or a bad event, because they never know that she is the most important. She only thinks that other people, other things, and other people\’s things are more important than herself. That\’s why girls are so easily hurt, whether in relationships or in life. A girl\’s glass heart is successfully shaped bit by bit from an early age. Therefore, when the theory of equality between men and women appears, we will find that there is no equality, and there is no equality from the beginning. Despite this, I still feel that it should be like PeiRaise a girl the same way you raise a boy. After all, no one should be weak. Of course, I mean, psychologically.