Try to make myself better so that my children not only love me but also respect me

Recently I saw Dong Qing on the screen again, not in \”Poetry Conference\” or \”The Reader\”, but in \”Face to Face\” broadcast by CCTV on April 23. On April 16, \”The Reader\” recorded its last program. From 2 pm to 6 am the next morning, Dong Qing worked continuously for 16 hours. In the afternoon after work, Dong Qing accepted an exclusive interview with \”Face to Face\”. This time, Dong Qing talked about her children in public for the first time. Dong Qing has hosted the CCTV Spring Festival Gala for 13 consecutive years, reaching a career peak that is difficult to reach as a host. However, after the 2014 Spring Festival Gala, she made a surprising decision – to leave the stage and study in the United States for a year as a visiting scholar. . Why did Dong Qing make this decision? You know, she is a person who loves to work very much. As long as she is on stage, she can forget all the dissatisfaction and troubles in life. Work brings her a sense of satisfaction that nothing else can replace. Because, just two years ago, she suddenly realized one day that she had begun to have a routine at work, and work could no longer bring her passion, so she decided to make a break with her past self. In July 2015, Dong Qing made a full comeback after a year away from the stage. At this time, she had an additional identity – mother. The birth of her child made Dong Qing often feel overwhelmed. All her time was taken up by her child, and her life became trivial and mediocre. She began to face work-life balance. But she doesn\’t want to be a full-time mother. She doesn\’t want him to be the only one in her world, and she doesn\’t want her to be the only one in her child\’s world. In order to work, she often suppresses the emotion of missing her children. She also had struggles, but her good friends told her that you should be whatever kind of person you want your child to be. Her friend\’s words made her think through it all. She chose to work hard, leave the child to her parents, and devote herself wholeheartedly to the production of her other child, \”The Reader.\” She said: I should work hard to make myself better so that when my children truly understand me in the future, they will not only love me but also respect me. I don’t want to give up the possibility of continuing to grow, and I don’t want to stand still because of him. I believe that many working mothers have faced the same dilemma as Dong Qing after giving birth to children: should they stay at home with their children, or should they continue to work hard? It is impossible to want to develop your career and not miss every moment of your children\’s growth. Just like what was said in the article \”The Most Cruel Lie: You Can Take Care of Career and Family\” that went viral in the circle of friends some time ago, the truth is: what everyone sees on the surface is that you have a high-end career and lovely children. Women who maintain a stable family often sacrifice their husband\’s career, or leave their children to their parents at all, or they may look glamorous but are anxious and exhausted. Success in career and success in family all require stepping stones. Where is the balance? Either sacrifice yourself or others. When working, please suppress the emotion of missing your children and do your best to do a good job. In this way, even if you spend less time with your children and miss a lot of their growth, you can still set a good example for your children. For example, Dong Qing, hard work can giveShe brings a sense of satisfaction that cannot be replaced by anything else. She is in the most beautiful state when she is working. Even if she spends less time with her children, the children will unconsciously absorb her most beautiful state. This unconscious perception will slowly penetrate into the child\’s soul. He will also learn from you, study hard since childhood, and work hard when he grows up. For detailed interview content, click on the full video of \”Face to Face\” ↓↓↓I believe that parents who can make outstanding achievements at work will definitely have children who are not far behind. When accompanying your children, please forget about work for a while and give your children your full companionship and love. However, no matter what time, you cannot revolve around your children all day long, leaving only your children in your world while you stand still. For mothers who surround their children all day long, the world has become as big as their home, so they are particularly prone to getting into trouble. They are easily anxious about some small problems in their children\’s growth, and get angry at every turn, making their children extremely insecure and confining their emotions. develop. Don\’t wait until your children grow up and say to them: \”Mom gave up her career, her life, and her chance to grow for you.\” This is your own choice, and your children cannot bear this responsibility. . Even if you are a stay-at-home mother, you have no excuse to give up your own growth for the sake of your children. As the epitaph of the writer Arthur C. Clarke says: I never grow up, but I never stop growing. This is the most beautiful state of life. In addition to parenting, there are many things you can learn in life, such as writing, fitness, cooking, flower arranging, painting, etc. Any kind of learning can help you escape from the trivial life and stop your eyes from staring at your children. In short, cultivate one of your own hobbies to make yourself better. Don\’t hang around your children all day long. Give your children more free space. Not only will your children grow better, but you will also get more respect and respect from them. like.